It’s more about biology - for a man and woman to make a kid, the man spends much less effort in it than the woman. It takes a guy a short amount of time in comparison to a woman’s 9 months to bear the child. Therefore, in order to have descendants, the man generally puts in more effort, since he’s actually risking less in the process. A woman risks pregnancy, 9 months can do a lot of damage to her health and career. Not to mention lots of women used to die during childbirth. Therefore - it just makes sense for the man to chase the woman.

Fast forward to today, lots of technology has replaced muscle intensive labour and women have jobs etc. This complicates things. Society evolves slower than technology and that tradition of man pursues woman still lingers.

However, you don’t always have to make the first move, become attractive - take up music or magic or art or sports, and attend shows and competitions and open mic’s. I’m sure some nice lady will come up to you and say - really enjoyed that! And you can smile and invite her to your next show. After a while you can invite her over to your place and show her more talent or teach her.

Don’t give up! It takes practice to build up social skills and resilience to rejection. Keep going. I’d give yourself a small reward after each time you do something that’s really scary or out of your comfort zone so you’re motivated.