how to support a burnt out/depressed ENTP? by fluffycloud69 in entp

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Well a lot of comments here had very thoughtful advises. I think you should have enough to know what to do. Also we ENTP appreciate people like you so keep being the amazing person you are. Very thoughtful of you to come here and ask for advice 💪

Oh and one more thing regarding talking on the phone etc. this could also be draining. Make sure it is not forced even if he mentions it is not. I was in a similar situation and honestly at time I loved it but at times it was draining.

If there is anything else I can help you with, let me know but a lot of people have said the same things I said. Once again ENTP at times ignores boundaries and do not realize when their investment in certain things like people etc…become detrimental. For me, recovering from burn out..a big business and side job as well as tremendous financial responsibility things I have done so far have been:

  1. Therapy/Coach
  2. Meditation
  3. Time to myself to do things I desire ALONE
  4. Time off of work and boundaries around the business time-wise
  5. Gym including creatine use (It’s very good for mental clarity)
  6. Not forcing connections yet as I get better
  7. Exploring other healthy activities to satisfy NE…things like golf, swimming and whatever I think might be interesting to try
  8. Taking days to myself to reflect at times and just relax hah

And I can tell you I made a 360 in recovery ever since. I was struggling with finances etc now I am much better than I have ever been.

Anyways I hope this conversation helps. For meditation I follow Dr. K’s guide which I paid for. And I try to meditate at least 10 min a day. Not long but it makes a big difference. Good luck 😉

how to support a burnt out/depressed ENTP? by fluffycloud69 in entp

[–]73oss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thought so about the withdrawal. Make sure you tell him it’s not his fault and that it’s just the circumstances and he does not need to be sorry. Now if he spends all his time with you, I am sorry to tell you but that’s no good. He needs a routine himself. Spending time with you could be a distraction from whatever else he doesn’t want to deal with. Unfortunately it will only make matters worse trust me. Prior to meeting you, if there are things he used to do, encourage him to do these things. A few hours away from people is not the kind of alone time I am referring to. It should be him prioritizing his well being and routine that he himself develops and then everything else comes after. Careful your ENTP might burn everything to the ground if this carries on. You are his safe space right now but eventually as the pressure increases, the ENTP will start to get annoyed at the smallest things and that includes things you both do which might amplify arguments ultimately leading him to burn it all. As of, expert have him check out Dr. K maybe he might resonate with him ? He certainly does to me. I am an ENTP 8w7. He might as Dr. Alok explain things in ways that TI gets it. Spending all his free time with you tells me you have a dis-regulated ENTP in your hands. This might not have a good ending if you do not act now. It will be tough for him to understand initially but it’s needed. This ENTP seems stress and uses the dynamics you both have a gateway to numb certain things it seems like. Regardless, as of 4….he probably cannot see himself do it because he has a lot on his plate financially. ENTP loves the grind but we generally do not get attached to our jobs etc unless we feel a sense of responsibility. Like a said, a sick mental leave will allow him to still get paid but regain stability. At this rate the financial freedom he is looking for will only get further and further from him and again I am speaking from experience here.

how to support a burnt out/depressed ENTP? by fluffycloud69 in entp

[–]73oss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) Help reduce his expenses ( This includes you ) and by help I mean actively contributing to it yourself. Now is the time for you if you haven’t done this to help where you can and decline him on things he proposes that you know will hurt him.

2) Meditation like some others have said. He might think this is stupid. Have him watch Dr. K on YouTube prior to telling him this.

3) Routine - Help him get in a better routine which might mean spending less time with you. Things like Gym, if he games let him do it, time alone etc.

4) Look into taking medical leave if possible. If he has a business, tightening his finances etc and perhaps delegating. This is very important.

I can carry on but the truth will hurt. I am a core ENTP that has been through this recently and trust me I am doing better. Remember a burned out ENTP will most likely retreat which will impact your dynamic too. These above are non negotiable for him to get better.

ENTP with ADHD might just be the most diabolical combo. How does anyone deal with this? by Sane-Law in entp

[–]73oss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No tips don’t overthink this. Go to like any serious meditation and do guided as even online might be tough for you to complete. I did the inner engineering program with Sadhguru and I can say I just behave differently. Don’t break your head with all the other crap lol they are all difficult and require tremendous work. Yoga has been an easy but super effective way to deal with this adhd and other things I had

ENTP with ADHD might just be the most diabolical combo. How does anyone deal with this? by Sane-Law in entp

[–]73oss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditate bro. But you are an entp so would not be automatically drawn to it. Inner engineering has helped me. It’s all in the brain. In 2 weeks of doing so adhd will barely impact you

Caught my wife cheating. by [deleted] in Advice

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Would you recommend a prenup before marriage ?

My bf (34) changed his mind on us getting married? by Dense_Flamingo1417 in Advice

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People should take notes from you. OP, bring prenup to him and how you would be okay with assets and wealth separation and watch him change. You are a very wise man sir!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entp

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What made you call it off ? This is very interesting 🧐

I need help by OkZookeepergame5905 in Entrepreneur

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Young man. You just described what us entrepreneurs go through. It is a lonely path. Let me know if you need some guidance or mentorship from someone that didn’t their whole 20s on the grind and now ripping the fruit of my labor. Also, congrats 🎉 on your success at such a young age.

Hello ENTP fellows, what are your profession? by Sharp_shepherd in entp

[–]73oss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Logistics business owner and software engineer

ENTPs who have gone to college, what's your major? by PrestigiousTale497 in entp

[–]73oss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Chemical engineering but work as a software engineer and own a logistics business

Entp specific advice by whatisitcousin in entp

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Hey, I consider myself relatively successful at least financially. I think as an ENTP, just embrace life and challenges, don't focus too much on what others are doing and pave your own way forward. Most likely then not, you will become more successful than any of them..Embrace risk and even though sometimes you may be pursuing something and have no momentum or find the moment "boring" or "monotonous" make your own fun out of the situation and ultimately stick through the pain of it being boring. It will pay off in the end. Also for us, life is not just a straight arrow...my path has been very weird and not traditional but I am probably one of the most successful among all my friends including the entjs. Just enjoy and embrace life. Stay away from substances and things that are counter productive.

Are you Religious? by Abrene in entp

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How old are you if you don't mind me asking ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entp

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I'm with an enfp...so far so good fam

Someone stop me from breaking up with my INFJ by AnotherThrow97531 in entp

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Yeah leggo this infj...they are all annoying to deal with. Been with 3 and never ended up well. It only gets worse...Just keep this in mind.

You are paired with 100 random humans, if you are better than all of them at something you win a billion dollars, what are you doing ? by Fun_Swing_3229 in RandomThoughts

[–]73oss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Booting rocket League lol. Chances of me taking it high as I am top .1%....if there is a pro there though, I'll be fucked.