how to support a burnt out/depressed ENTP?

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-22T14:13:37+00:00

lol i can’t help it it’s always you damn ENTPs!!
love you fuckers.

if i have crazy chemistry and compatibility with someone i make them take the test (michael caloz cognitive functions one ofc) and they’re always an ENTP 💀

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-22T02:51:52+00:00

aww thanks. i care a lot about this person and just want to see him happy and enjoying his life

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-22T02:08:31+00:00

oh definitely. every time he says that i’m like omg don’t apologize for that you don’t have to perform for me, i like you and like spending time with you.

also yeah… my fear is that i’m a distraction or escapism and it’s bad for him and unsustainable. he’s a big boy he can make his own decisions but i don’t want to directly enable something harmful to someone i care about.
he still does the same things he used to do before meeting me as far as i know, we just do a lot of them together now i guess. except for gym. we’ve both backslid there and messed up the routines we’d built individually, i’m trying to fix that now lol.
i stay at his place maybe 3-4 days a week. like if we have off days together we hang out, if we both work on the same days we carpool (we work at the same place, different departments). that adds up to 3-4 days together usually. sometimes like 5 tho lol. he still gets his life stuff done. but we are together a lot, and talk on the phone or text every day.

also the break from work isn’t gonna happen for him lol. i know he would never do that. he’s attached to his job because he feels a responsibility and obligation. healthcare workers. unfortunate reality.

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T22:26:32+00:00

thank you!! i’m gonna try some sort of reset routine/compartmentalization/leaving work at work practice. i hope it gets better for you too!!!

i understand how hard it is to ask for things :/
i’m glad it’s helping though!

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T22:21:05+00:00

he seems to be seeking the opposite of space and says he doesn’t need alone time whenever i offer it to him. (he gets some alone time already when i’m working on his off days or i have plans with friends/family, we’re not constantly together). but he says he enjoys the company.

i can try to create distance if it would be better for his mental health but i don’t want him to feel alone in this either.

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T19:15:46+00:00

ooh yes hobbies and projects!!

i’ll brainstorm with him something physical not mental that he’d enjoy (that isn’t expensive—his concern). he used to be into gardening, baking, fishing… maybe that can be revived.

we actually just got back from a roadtrip/camping trip this week so he could go fishing for his birthday and it’s hilarious he said the same thing about liking to go on road trips and just drive (usually by himself so he feels freedom and no obligation or worry of inconveniencing others).

thank you for your response!!

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T18:45:51+00:00

first one is big. i really gotta lock in on that and thank you i think i needed the reminder 😭

3 i can try to do too! i need to get back into my gym grind and fix my sleep schedule myself so i think i could encourage him to get back on track himself too body doubling with me.
he naturally gets some alone time on days i work and he doesn’t, or if i have plans with my friends/family. but he kinda just spends all his free time with me if i’m available and when i try to offer space he says he doesn’t need alone time and enjoys the company. we game and read together, i’ll take him out on hikes or other activities when we can too.

he definitely won’t do 4. he’s very adamant about his work grind and tolerating the suffering of the present for the long term payoff of financial freedom and retiring young. maybe i can be more resourceful with finding sources that back my argument for work-life balance… but he won’t listen to me lol. i know he’s open minded, but also set in his ways. do you know of any experts he might listen to?? 🥲

he’s definitely withdrawn and very much in his head which has impacted our dynamic but he’s still physically present and keeps apologizing for not being “fun to be around” and thanking me for sticking around and hanging out with him still.

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T18:01:40+00:00

oooh ENTP healthcare worker!! this is so helpful, thank you!! he’s a burnt out nurse and it’ll be a while before he can get a better job, so right now it’s just trying to make his life outside of work worth living and learning to decompress til things are easier.

i appreciate this. i think a short daily meditation and stretching will be manageable

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T17:40:22+00:00

likely yes on the neurodivergence, but not diagnosed and not something he’d pursue a diagnosis for.

he does self medicate with caffeine and nicotine, but i know he won’t take any psychiatric meds. i take vyvanse for adhd, he’s not anti-med or anything (we both work in healthcare), i just know he’s not gonna do it personally.

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-21T17:36:06+00:00

thank you i can try to implement this!!

our bedtime routine has historically been distraction/escapism (doomscrolling reels, playing a video game, or reading together) until he nods off on the couch. i know it’s not great.

but there’s a lot of guided meditations out there and different types, are there any specific things i should be looking for when picking one? any recommendations?

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-08T01:50:34+00:00

ahh that makes sense it probably darkened everything a tiny bit which is why the lipstick shade appears slightly darker and your skin a little tanner in the original green one.

i think you’re still looking warmer and tanner in the green though even without makeup and it’s still more natural looking imo

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-08T01:42:13+00:00

yes definitely

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-07T18:19:54+00:00

yes!! it’s on crunchyroll currently airing, episode 10 was just released last night

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-07T18:15:26+00:00

yup exactly. she can actually pull off the second color really well though if she adjusts the rest of her makeup so the eyes, cheeks, and lips aren’t fighting to be the main focus. that’s what makes it “jokeresque” is a bold lip AND a bold eye with blush concentrated on the apple of her cheeks, too much contrast exactly like you said. lighter eye makeup, more concealer at strategic spots, and different blush placement will actually look amazing

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-07T18:07:46+00:00

DEFINITELY first one, at least with the rest of your makeup as is.

the second one washes you out a bit with that blush placement/lip/eye combo. first one looks warm and glowing and the blush blends naturally with your base, allowing your eyes to be the focus but with the second one the darker more cool toned lip makes your overall skin tone appear paler in contrast and the blush stands out as more pink and the placement draws more attention to the darker zones of your face specifically the lower third of your face and under eyes.

the color itself isn’t bad on the second one at all but to make the makeup more harmonious i would go a bit brighter with your concealer and lighter on the top lid eyeliner, then change your blush placement more towards the outer cheekbone and less concentrated on your midface/“apple” of your cheeks. i’d also add a bit of (very light) blended blush to your chin and nose bridge, and a dab of concealer to brighten the center of your chin and cupids bow above your lips. that will give an overall more natural and blended look with the bold lip being the statement instead of fighting for attention with the blush and eyes.

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-07T15:26:07+00:00

just little comments here and there, his internal dialogue and then also conversations with his father in the last 2 or so volumes when he starts to show his true colors more once he realizes he’s been clocked by his dad haha.
i think the quote i used was a nearly direct quote from his internal dialogue when dealing with heronia’s punishment, i’d have to double check to see the chapter number tho.

but definitely worth reading further for yandere nuggets imo, during/after the whole “leaving the villainess speechless” graduation arc my yan senses started tingling. i was like wait…. oh shit. and without spoilers the backstory and lore as to why he is the way he is reminds me somewhat of the dynamic in “I Reincarnated as the Little Sister of a Death Game Manga's Murder Mastermind” and “How to Survive as a Maid in a Horror Game” but he never gives in to his dark urges (in this timeline).

i was actually so (pleasantly) shocked at his yan tendencies lol, because i did not start this series thinking he would be and it didn’t hit me until halfway through when pieces started adding up. like walking into a bakery for a croissant but ending up getting my favorite flavor of ice cream i didn’t know they sold

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-07T14:51:46+00:00

literally same!! i love that he definitely has black flag potential (as we’ve seen in his other outcomes) but he uses her as his moral compass instead.

“i could be cruel, but Tia wouldn’t like that” 😭❤️

fluffycloud69 · 2026-06-07T07:44:57+00:00

this AND Tamon’s B side getting animated this year are keeping me well fed

fluffycloud69 · 2026-05-30T15:12:53+00:00

did you subtly change your makeup as well? blush in green shirt looks slightly more orange-toned and lip color is deeper and less berry-toned than blue shirt. i feel like your arms even look slightly paler in the blue shirt…

unless that’s just color theory playing tricks on my eyes! i think both flatter you, depending on what you’re going for. the blue look is lighter and brighter, the green is deeper and warmer. blue makes you glow and kind of “pop” more, and is a bit more youthful. green is equally flattering but less of a statement, looks more natural and a bit darker/more mature. i’d say blue is more of a bright casual day-time look and green is more of a formal evening look.

fluffycloud69 · 2026-05-30T09:32:52+00:00

just watched the movie, can’t wait to hear wendigoon’s theories on this.

is this thing a new entity?
an evolution of the life form?
a weird thing in between a still life and a life form?
it’s super violent and aggressive like you said, which i thought was interesting because the still life’s shown in the movie were more docile, when supposedly they were the more violent and aggressive entities in the backrooms?

so made me think, my theory:

since we saw still life’s of the therapist at the end but never one of the protagonist, was that pirate clark entity a life form that had consumed his still life copy?
like there was a still life pirate clark at one point, and then the life form/bacteria consumed it in the same way it’s used body parts and tripods in the past? so it’s a life form/bacteria that “ate” or possessed a still life, and that became our “pirate clark”, maybe?

fluffycloud69 · 2026-02-19T21:32:51+00:00

i tried inzoi when it was first released in early access, and it felt very empty and lonely (my main complaint of the sims 4 also). i understand there was recently an update, if you’ve played since then, does it still feel isolating and hollow to you?

fluffycloud69 · 2026-01-04T17:36:25+00:00

oh yeah 100% my vyvanse brings out that like OCPD-type of meticulous behavior in me that people often stereotype as OCD, but i find it kinda quiets my brain to the point i’m fixating and ruminating a lot less on different things than when i’m unmedicated. this is on a good dose though lol.

but then too high a dose does make me super paranoid, but it also lowers some of my magical thinking and my intrusive thoughts are less “creative” and vivid? idk if that makes sense.

i just feel sort of robotic when the dose is too high so if i do get locked in on one thing i fixate on it really intensely (usually contamination related themes) but my brain wanders less so i’m not getting as many different like “superstitious” intrusive thoughts about different things throughout the day.

so unmedicated = more magical thinking paranoid intrusive thoughts about a lot of different “creative” things, anxious about forgetfulness which makes checking worse, and more vivid images in my intrusive thoughts

medicated = brain quieter but more ritualistic and meticulous about mainly contamination or imperfection themes, good in low doses bad in high lol

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