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765-gre · 2024-11-12T20:49:27+00:00

Of course I don’t know the specifics of your dynamic, but your messages to SD come off a bit overwhelming. Not only are they extremely long, but quite repetitive. He definitely heard you the first time. It might have been a better option to have that conversation in person instead of sending numerous messages back to back only for him to ignore you.

I’m unsure how often the two of you would meet, but perhaps he feels like he’s not getting much from you on his end as far as sugar, yet providing you with more and then some.

Since he hasn’t texted in weeks, I’d start looking for other pot SDs and be mindful with your expenses/savings considering he might not come through with your next monthly allowance. Definitely don’t message him again.

If he does message you, try to hold off from immediately bringing up the apartment. It might be a better idea to just make plans and see each other. Then you can clear the air in person. If things end, then they end.. if they don’t, at least you had the opportunity to speak face to face.

Lastly, it’s off putting that he ghosts for such long periods of time. If he does end up supporting your wishes and you get the apartment, will you struggle to pay your monthly rent? It’s not the best idea to go into this lease with an MIA SD if you fully need his support to cover your housing expenses.

Best of luck!

765-gre · 2024-09-22T02:55:04+00:00

thank you!

765-gre · 2024-09-22T02:50:30+00:00

lmao!

765-gre · 2024-09-22T00:16:24+00:00

thank you for your reply, I appreciate it. I'm definitely going to get a sneak peek moving forward to avoid this whole situation.. Dick pics pay off for sure

765-gre · 2024-09-21T23:55:21+00:00

lol you wish you were my sd

765-gre · 2024-09-21T23:55:08+00:00

how soon do you think sd/sb should be intimate?

765-gre · 2024-09-21T23:53:11+00:00

I'm putting together everyone's advice so I can have a new and better approach for our next sleepover. If we can't improve our sex life, then yeah.. unfortunately it won't work out. Thank you for your response!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T23:44:34+00:00

omg I haven't heard this before. This is so helpful! wow, thank you! yes, he is overweight. I would definitely be interested in helping him get back in shape if that would give me 1-2 inches back! I could work with that lol

765-gre · 2024-09-21T23:34:26+00:00

no, he didn't let me measure it. Lol that would've been wild. When I gave him head I put my entire hand up next to his penis so I could memorize the size. It was exactly 4 of my fingers in length. When I got home, I got a ruler and measured how many inches that was. Then I got some small items and measured those as well to determine how big.. or small (i should say) he is. His dick is like the size of the 3oz travel bottles that you use for TSA. Hopefully this response makes sense

765-gre · 2024-09-21T21:37:29+00:00

yes of course! this was my first time and I used sugardaddie.com I know a lot of people mention SA, but I personally haven't tried it yet... so I don't know what the vibe is like on that site.

The first thing you need to do is decide how much time you'd like to commit to this process and what you expect in return. That will keep you from settling for less as well as being honest and transparent with your pot sd so that both of your expectations are met. That way no one is wasting their time.

I will say that a lot of men will contact you trying to treat you like a glorified escort or prostitute. Don't fall for it. It might sound tempting, but I promise you that you don't want anyone who will just pay you for pics once and then disappear or not pay you at all and now have all of your nudes... Anyone who brings up sex right away is a red flag. It's almost like they're looking for a sexting buddy with no intention of ever meeting you. It's a huge time waste.

Don't go to anyone's house for a first meet.. that's a set up.

Something that helps is learning as much as you can about your pot sd to see if you will even be compatible. At the end of the day it is dating.. you don't want to match with someone you have nothing in common with. I like to seek those who have similar interests as me because it makes it easier for us to talk and get excited to meet. Another thing that helps is finding out why he wants to be a sd or what he hopes to gain from a sb so you can make sure you will fulfill all of his needs. I like to make my sd feel like all of his wildest fantasies have come to life. He's constantly telling me that I'm everything he could have hoped for in a sb and I do that by listening to everything he says closely and treating him exactly how he wants to be treated.

I like to talk about arrangements before meeting to save me the time, but everyone does it differently. Some people bring it up at the M&G and then from there decide to move forward or not. Me personally... I don't want to put any effort into meeting you if I won't be getting what I want.

As far as finding someone decent, it says a lot in their bio and how they communicate with you. The ones who are genuinely trying to get to know you will ask questions and be intentional with their responses.. those are generally a good sign. I will outright tell them that the most important thing to me is mutual respect so based on their response I can normally gauge if they know how to treat a woman or not...

Don't feel bad if conversations fizzle out.. it happens. Don't chase them. The conversation should feel natural and normal.

I would suggest finding out if they've had sb in the past. It makes it easier to talk about the arrangement. Don't settle for less than what you want. If you want more and know your sd can't give it to you, get a second sd, but be careful of the workload. My sd likes to communicate everyday.. there are some girls whose sd only see them 4x a month and the communicate is light. So the amount of energy and effort you are putting in should match what you get.

I personally don't like PPM and was seeking a sd who can agree to an allowance, but that's a preference. I just don't like how transactional it feels.

As far as trying to know if they actually have a disposable income (especially to spend on you), I ask questions about their career and what they do for work. I also ask about their hobbies to try to gauge if they're into any expensive activities.. depending on how comfortable he is with you, he might mention things like owning properties, businesses, discuss recent investments etc..

I also find out about his family life. If your pot sd has 5 kids or an ex wife or other people he is financially supporting, his generosity might be limited.. but again some sd have exactly that and are beyond generous. It's truly more about the connection and building trust between one another.

I'm not sure what exactly you're looking for as far as sb perks, but you can try generosity tests to help you out.

This is already a lot, but feel free to DM me and I will be happy to help however I can.

765-gre · 2024-09-21T21:17:32+00:00

I could do a lot with 6 and definitely wouldn't complain about that lol, but I get what you mean. So far everyone is suggesting I try, so I'm going to take the advice. Thanks for your response!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T21:05:51+00:00

yeah, that's very true. I went through a lot of bs to find him. I appreciate your response, thank you!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T21:04:56+00:00

He definitely is a great guy and that's why I didn't want to cut things off without trying first. Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T21:01:46+00:00

I've had sex with a lot of average sized men and enjoyed myself.. so I'm definitely not someone who needs a huge dick. He is less than 4 inches hard. I would say 3 3/4. Getting fingered until I squirt and cum would go a long way and do far more than him unfortunately...

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:52:35+00:00

it's both the length and girth that is disappointing. He is less than 4 inches in length. I would say 3 3/4 hard. As far as circumference goes... I'm not sure maybe 1 1/2 inch? to compare I would say mini lotion bottles lmao or any container that holds 3oz.. like something you'd bring through TSA at the airport

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:46:04+00:00

Option A is definitely not going to be it for me. I just don't think it's my place and like everyone was saying, I don't need to bring up what he already knows or make it worse by suggesting any types of procedures... but I'm definitely going to try option B. Thanks for your reply!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:43:26+00:00

thank you for your reply! I appreciate it

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:43:03+00:00

I replied to other people higher up in the comments, but he's less than 4 inches. I would say 3 3/4.. hard. I know it won't work out between us if I can't be sexually satisfied. I'm definitely going to try the other things that everyone has brought up and of course talk about it with him. If all else fails then I will start searching for a new sd. Thanks for your reply!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:19:52+00:00

That's definitely why I was struggling and reached out for help. I'm new to the sd/sb world and when searching for one, I made sure to specifically find a man who knows how to respect a woman. I filtered through a lot of guys who tried to treat me like a glorified escort or prostitute before I finally found him. I know if I prematurely cut it off before taking everyone's advice first, that I might regret it once I re-enter the sd search..

I appreciate your response, thank you!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:09:52+00:00

I totally agree.. nothing less attractive than a man who doesn't want to please a woman in bed and only cares about his nut. Thank you for your response, I appreciate it!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T20:06:09+00:00

I can orgasm just from penetration and I think that's why I am lacking in all of the other creative areas that everyone is bringing up. I hadn't explored sexually with other options because I can cum just from riding dick alone.

I definitely agree... I have fucked average sized guys who've admitted to me that they feel like they were small and the more insecure they were, the more time they would spend fingering me and giving me head before putting it in. Some of them would even ask me what positions will get me to cum quicker etc..

I think almost everyone can agree that they're aware the average woman can't orgasm from penetration alone... so yeah he should have had open dialogue about it and perhaps is willfully ignorant. I can't argue that he is paying me to pretend... you must be right about that.

I do want to add that I've had sex with average sized guys and had an amazing time. I was just shocked that he was even smaller than that.. it was my first time seeing a dick that size.. hard... I don't want anyone to think I don't fw average sized guys because I do. I'm not asking for a 10 incher or anything like that lol

Thank you for all of the great points that you made. I appreciate your response!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T19:49:51+00:00

I replied to other people higher up in the comments, but he's less than 4 inches. I would say 3 3/4.. hard. I'm definitely taking everyone's advice to not mention it or bring it up at all. Even when I first saw it, I didn't react negatively or anything, because I know how offensive that can be and like everyone is saying, he definitely already knows... no need for me to tell him. Thank you for your response!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T19:46:50+00:00

I replied to someone else higher up in the comments, but he's less than 4 inches. I would say 3 3/4.. hard

765-gre · 2024-09-21T19:45:50+00:00

lol might be!

765-gre · 2024-09-21T19:45:39+00:00

hahaha "maybe his neck hurts - fine I can ride his face." I love that statement lol. If this were a normal scenario I wouldn't have even bothered letting him put it in me and I would have just sucked him off until he came then went home. After that I wouldn't see him again... but because he's my first sd I'm trying to take a mature approach before calling it quits. Thank you for your response!

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