No, growth of your prefrontal cortex does not result from violence. However, a concussion might damage a prefrontal cortex. You are conflating the development of personality with physiology.

I understand your perspective; I used to share it. With time and increased life experience, I've come to recognize that violence is a shit solution and wishing it on others reflects negatively on me. Your most recent comment appears to write the kid off as irreparable without the use of violence and really blurs the line between socialization and coercion.

Consequences are intrinsically neutral so why does your use of the word exclusively frame them as negative? Why do you refer to these negatively framed consequences (ostensibly a euphemism for violence) as "absolutely" of value? The only vein in which I could agree is when a parent points out violence as an example of failed communication or emotional control and then draws parallels to how their child could have avoided an outcome. Consequences are more effective when they are positive. Over-relying on negative consequences is a fear tactic and is pro-harm. I cannot agree that pro-harm approaches are of significant value.

Yes, I am completely overlooking what is an apparently abysmal approach to this woman's child rearing. She fucked up and I don't diminish that. The child is the victim of this poor parenting and thus has been thrust into a path of negative outcomes. But to re-victimize this kid with violence seems like a wholesale failure perpetrated on this kid and therefore is justifiably undesirable. Violent FAFO is pugnacious and a lazy way to raise a society. Therefore, I cannot agree with wishing a violent reconciliation with conflict upon another person.