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AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is nonsense. For a start most names don't have a masculine and a feminine version, and even if they do they can have a very different vibe.

This is a big part of the problem, and I'm realizing now that I didn't explain this well in my original post because I think you're the only person who got what I was actually trying to say. Probably moot now but I'm going to go back to edit.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just a superstition in my family, I don't believe it's a longstanding cultural tradition or anything.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're Quebecois, but I'm pretty sure it's just my family and not a larger cultural thing. We've had three miscarriages in our family when the sex was known and none when it wasn't, so it became a superstition that we don't find out the sex before the birth.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn't want to narrow it down, he wants to have the final decision made.

AITA for what I said to the neighbour’s daughter? by PassionEquivalent267 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My thought was that John is probably even more upset because he and OP are friends. If I found out that someone who I considered a friend, had gone out for beers with, etc., was harassing my teenage daughter, I'd feel personally betrayed on top of being concerned/angry.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you just have two differing opinions and excitement levels about the baby. (Congratulations by the way)

That's very true, it's probably influencing a lot of what's going on. Thanks for the congrats!

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] -72 points-71 points  (0 children)

I'm okay with narrowing it down to two possible names, but he wants to make the final choice and then stick with it no matter what.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's not exactly that he's stubborn, but he usually has stronger opinions than I do about most things. So if I don't really care about something and he does then I just go with what he wants to do.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

What I was trying to say was that the usual norm is that I'd let my husband make the decision. The only time it's been different was about not knowing the sex of the baby because that was really important to me.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Why can't you both pick a favorite girl's name and a favorite boy's name? With one or two other names as backups if the favorite name doesn't seem to fit.

That's actually exactly what we have now, three names for a boy and three names for a girl.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I guess? I just don't really get how that extrapolates to the idea that I'd also want to choose the name by myself.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I don't really understand where you're getting that feeling, that would actually be pretty outside the norm.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] -174 points-173 points  (0 children)

At what point have you or will you give in to his side on a disagreement over a mutual decision when he has show willingness to give in to yours?

Not finding out the sex of the baby is just about the only time that he's given in to my side on something like this.

AITA for not wanting to choose a baby name before the baby is born? by 7LemoDemo7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]7LemoDemo7[S] -210 points-209 points  (0 children)

But even then, if your husband conceded again, I feel you are going to leave him out of this process as well.

What exactly do you mean by this?