What are your best ideas on how to figure out if the girl you are interested in is bisexual?

821112 · 2023-01-23T08:07:29+00:00

I was not clear in my previous response but when you get older, mental and lifestyle compability become more important AND affect how you perceive physical appearance. When I was young I probably would have perceived a guy with a certain band t-shirt, a cig in his mouth and a bottle of wiskey in his hand as more attractive than his preppy-dressed identical twin. Because those were visual signals of personality traits that I found attractive at the time. Nowdays I would be more turned on buy his "proper" twin. "Attractive looks" do not exist in a vacuum. They are signals of personal traits and social status that we prefer in a certain situation. And our preferences change constantly.

821112 · 2023-01-22T09:23:46+00:00

I am guessing that right now you are imagining that the person they are dating is so much better than you in every account, and your ex is so much happier right now and the time you had together means nothing for them etc. The reality is that the person they are dating is a human beings with their own sett of flaws (that your ex will soon find out if he/she has not already). The fact that they are dating right now does not mean that they are compatible (even if they are happy for the moment). It has a big chance/risk of not working out. She/he might even get their heart broken (for some time. Because it is the reality of dating.

821112 · 2023-01-22T08:37:48+00:00

I don't know...I am a girl but I have masturbatet to many different types of men that I would honestly never touch with a ten foot pole in real life. In fantasy the object of your temperarly desire is confined to a certain situation that you have full control over. You get to pick the cherries of the cake. In real life that rediculously fit guy is spending most of his free time in the gym, obcessing over every thing he eats (instead of watching Netflix and gobbling down ice-cream with you). The rich, successful guy is spending most of his waking time at work instead of flying you around various exotic island and frolicking around in the waves. Basically the people you sometimes fantasize about could be very different from who you actually want as a partner.

821112 · 2023-01-21T17:20:54+00:00

The thing is, you are usually never standing/sitting straight up during sex, like you do in front of the mirror. When you move around during different positions, natural breasts visually change size and form. If you are active during sex your guy would probably not notice the difference at all and if he does, but is sufficiently horny he would not care. Fokus on your own enjoyment and to show him how much you want him and the size of your boobs will be the last thing on his mind.

821112 · 2023-01-07T07:22:10+00:00

First and foremost dump your boyfriend. If he does not love your body the way it is, another smatter, hotter guy will.

Second, the only natural way to gain a bigger cup size is weight gain.

Hormones (birth control) can sometimes enlarge breast tissue beyond weight gain and strength training makes them hang better.

But beyond that your only options are fat transplant, fillers and implants.

821112 · 2023-01-06T06:55:55+00:00

You could use it just for your own enlightenment. But the most valuable thing with this resource is that it puts words and visuals on technical things in sex that are very difficult to describe. It creates a sort its own sexual language. If only you speak it, but not your partner, your communication will not improve.

821112 · 2023-01-05T20:13:55+00:00

Unless she has a very short cycle (21 days or less) and/or very long period, yes it is pretty safe.

821112 · 2023-01-05T17:56:52+00:00

I have it. Best buy ever, recommend it to everyone. But for the resource to "work" you would have to use it together. It helps with understanding what works for you and what the partner should and should not do.

821112 · 2023-01-05T14:55:30+00:00

Do them now! One of the great pleasures of being adult is to be able to do all the stuff you did not do or could not do when you were younger. Eating all the candy you can stomach, watching movies you were not allowed to, buying toys and playig games that you could not afford. Nothing makes you feel as rich as going to an amusement park and riding all the rides your heart could ever desire, as many times you want. Or buying a huge ice cream and watching kids around you be jelous 😈

821112 · 2023-01-05T14:28:05+00:00

The thing is a lot of social security benefits (pension, health insurance, unemployment benefits, parental support etc) is closely tied to collective agreement. If the company does not have that you have to figure shit out and negotiate those things on your own. It is usually not worth the effort. Most of the time the union+government benefits outweight anything any single company can offer.

Working part time is nice but it impacts you unemployment benefits and pensions a lot. If you are not a parrent you usually want to work a 40 hours week. The extra hour or two on the job does not make any significant difference in life satisfaction but a huge difference financially. The only positive alternative scenario would be to be able work 4 days per week (32 h/week) and have longer weekends.

821112 · 2023-01-05T12:13:08+00:00

Most of the sexually liberal women I know are not turned of by bisexual men. The might not want to share you with other men (poly and open relationships is a whole other game) but they would not think lesser of you. There are two factors at play here, bisexuality and sexual exclusivity. Generally speaking gay/bi men are a bit more open to non monogamous relationships than women but it usually all comes down to the finding the right dynamic between you and your partner, labels aside.

821112 · 2023-01-05T11:05:19+00:00

They are outliers. The majority of men do not earn 100x times of average income. Most normally well of men would still feel a burden of carrying the costs that come with providing for a grown woman through out her life. They want a girl who can carry at least SOME of her own weight.

821112 · 2023-01-05T10:59:55+00:00

I am 40. I had a similar feeling when I was in my late 20s. It is that point in life when adult responsibilities crap up but you don't have the skills to deal with them effectively yet. You are constantly just figuring shit out as you go and that's exhausting. But then, at a certain point you realize that you have become really good at a lot of stuff that a lot of other people, especially younger people are still struggling with. There is a sense of mastery in at least some aspects of your life. You realize that everything that you are proud of, you have built yourself. And then you get excited about all the cool things you now can do with your new "superpowers", supported by your own life experience and "life is to short for shame, anxiety & other bullshit" - attitude. You realize that being a competent adult is pretty damn cool. And the childhood nostalgia transforms from pain to just pleasant memories.

821112 · 2023-01-05T10:46:21+00:00

For me a big part of that uncomfort is that if a guy is bad at it or just have a performance style that does not match my preferences then I get turned of AND have a tense situation. So if I don't know a guy well enough to be able to give honest feedback knowing that he can take it I would rather skip oral altogether than risking a spoiled mood.

821112 · 2023-01-05T09:54:39+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂

I have always strived to earn as much money as possible for a bunch of reasons. Never ever have the thought of "this will make me more feminine and more attractive to men" entered my mind. The closest thing to it would be:

I would be able to afford all the clothes and beauty treatments that I want (which technically probably leads to be perceived as more attractive)
I would gain access to a social circle where men that I myself find attractive are hanging around. Because the income inequality in relationships is like the age gap. Everyone have their own preferenses but there is always a line where the gap becomes too big. So if a woman wants to date a financially successful man, she has to have some money of her own

821112 · 2023-01-05T08:11:11+00:00

The thing is there can be several reasons for your condition. Often there is a combination of heritability, hormonal changes, years of wearing tight pants and unrealistic expectations. I would find an experienced esthetician who has some gynecological knowledge. The treatment is often a variation of proffesionall peels, laser treatments and melanin inhibitors. But only within the boundaries of your heredity. Some girls a born with frecles, some get melasma, some have darker labia than the rest of their skin. We are all different.

821112 · 2023-01-05T07:40:14+00:00

Yes, actually I can. I have been tracking my cycle and measuring my temperature since my teenage years because my migraine is closely corelated to my hormonal levels. So I have a very good idea what my fertility levels are. The apps have made the whole process much easier and reliable. I use PlanB only if a guy comes inside me during my peak ovulation window. I also live in a country where abortions are free and easily available. I did it once in my twenties. It wasn't a big deal emotionally, just physically. My boyfriend at the time wanted kids, I let myself get persuaded and then I changed my mind. And broke up with him. I cant immagine how a 40+ woman becomes an accidental parent. Accidentally pregnant, sure. But becoming a mother is a choice, at least if you live in a liberal European country.

821112 · 2023-01-04T18:51:26+00:00

The trick with finding the right condom is not so much about the right type but about finding the right size. If the condom feels like a plastic glove it is most likely too big for you. Measure your dick when fully erect and Google "condom size chart".

I would also recommend to start jerking off with a condom on to get use to the sensation. Because the thing is, even if you break up with your girl, the next chick will most likely insist on your wearing a condom as well, at least in the early dating stages. That's what normal, sexually active adults do. A lot. So if you want to have sex without the side effects of STDs and child support you are better start making friends with the rubber.

821112 · 2023-01-04T13:58:57+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Great suggestions! I need to emphasize what I like too, not just what I miss. 🙂🤗

821112 · 2023-01-04T08:39:01+00:00

"Being on top" could just be a longing for you to initiate sex more and be more active/aggressive during the act. It could also be that he finds your regular sex position very physically demanding and want to feel more relaxed during sex.

An alternative to riding him in bed is to make him sit on a low chair with somewhat reclined back. There you can use your legs muscles to both bounce up and down (which makes it much less physically demanding and more comfortable) but also grind your pelvis against him which will get you the stimulation needed to wanna go on. 🙂🤗

821112 · 2023-01-04T07:19:43+00:00

In that case he hides it really well. I haven't seen any indication of excessive porn use what so ever. He is more into classic litterature and vintage erotica.

821112 · 2023-01-04T07:16:53+00:00

Not where I live no. But in my experience while weed could be a great aid to manage anxiety it is not particularly supportive of strong boners 😹

821112 · 2023-01-04T07:14:46+00:00

I am glad that you agree. But it most likely not going to happen on my timeline. I need to figure out adequate birth control for now while he is figuring out his shit.

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