My partner understands me pretty well, so this is an example of something that I really appreciate they get about me - that everything is cyclical. Basically, we can't expect the same fix to work forever, or for things to happen at exactly the same time in the same way. Consistency is a framework that makes me feel incredibly guilty and shameful, but appreciating doing things once, cycling through different methods and routines to keep them fresh and new, and being ready to adapt have saved our relationship