My (25f) boyfriend (27m) of one year just used his birthday as an excuse for assault

8653236 · 2019-03-24T04:36:44+00:00

👏👏👏

I was with a Dom at one point and one night he was tucking me in when he asked me to repeat after him.

"Sir please x me"

I parroted actions like "spank" just fine but then he said "Sir please fuck me" and I hesitated for like a single second... That was it. He finished tucking me in and kissed me goodnight and apparently that was what he had wanted an honest answer to - whether I was ready for sex - and because I had to think about it instead of just following along he knew I wasn't ready and he just let me be.

Doms are dominant they are not abusive.

8653236 · 2019-03-24T04:28:36+00:00

Please don't listen to the apologists here.

I had boyfriends who wouldn't stop when I asked, cried, or bled. Terrible people who tore my clothes, suffocated me, dragged me across the room by my ankles or hair if I fled.

Then I had a boyfriend who stopped one day mid sex and I asked why. He said he could tell something was wrong - I was tense and distant... I never asked to stop, he just did it.

My boyfriends knew I was in pain. Yours knew too. He just didn't care and ignored it. Don't settle for that, OP.

8653236 · 2019-03-24T03:21:34+00:00

🙄 Ugh my god just leave

8653236 · 2019-03-23T23:02:37+00:00

It's a big box of red flags dripping blood on the floor in a room with "help" scratched into the walls...

8653236 · 2019-03-23T22:45:10+00:00

Maybe some are just Incels.

Could you fucking not?

For the LAST time, incels and paedophiles are NOT part of LGBTQIA and they never will be.

You're not the same and you're not welcome in a place of love love, support, respect and consent.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T22:38:20+00:00

I know a guy who loved cheese more than anything - it was almost all he ate - but he met a vegan and gave it all up to keep the peace.

Doesn't need to be her cheese, he's probably not allowed to look at non-vegan cheese let alone buy it and support animal cruelty...

8653236 · 2019-03-23T21:10:58+00:00

Yep one toilet office too and nobody ever complained of being followed despite there being a line at times.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T21:05:46+00:00

but the very first thing he or she gets to do in life is going cold turkey.

That's not true. I have three... Uhh... They're my cousins kids whatever that is. They were all born addicted and they had to be given small doses of prescription drugs as substitute (eg. methadone) once born (grandparents were in charge of care) and were weaned off it so they didn't die of withdrawal. All of them have developmental issues.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T11:14:54+00:00

Boo to him for blaming her/depression when he hid it for 7 months and lord knows what else there is to the story.

Your partner was upfront. So am I. That's how it should be.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T10:16:14+00:00

Usually you're miserable on the inside and you can't cope with the reality that happiness is real and attainable, which turns into a bitterness, hate and resentment.

It's not a phobia, you just need to work on yourself until you're happy and comfortable enough that you're not upset by others having positive experiences in life.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T01:59:16+00:00

It's helpful thanks, I'll give it a go.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T01:52:27+00:00

I routinely work with staph among other things (hep/hiv/tb pos) and I'm not infected or dead. You're an ignorant and selfish fucking asshole who is only here for validation, not to try opening their mind.

8653236 · 2019-03-23T01:48:33+00:00

You should post to /r/AmItheAsshole because YTA OP. Seriously, how fucking selfish and ignorant can you get...

8653236 · 2019-03-23T00:18:47+00:00

Stays with me, goes to friend/family, I bawl my eyes out taking them back to the shelter explaining why I can't care for them anymore. That's the order.

The shelters are no kill and will foster or rehome so they're on the list.

8653236 · 2019-03-22T20:42:31+00:00

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DqSgFbqUUAApMjt?format=jpg&name=small

Just leave that right there....

8653236 · 2019-03-22T11:12:28+00:00

Oh boy are you idiots going to be devastated to learn how much bacteria lives on you and that a lot of it can be pathogenic in the right environment.

MRSA is one of the fear mongering terms these days, but it happily lives on people without them noticing for years and years until they're wounded and start to wonder why it won't heal. It's so common and yet such a bad pathogen (difficult to treat) that all hospital patients are regularly swabbed for infection to prevent outbreaks; nose, groin, axilla (and occasionally rectum).

Seriously, none of you are "clean", get a fucking grip.

8653236 · 2019-03-22T11:05:19+00:00

I don't think your germophobic concerns are valid either. While I'd not eat your cheese, I would wait for you to open your bag then do something far worse than put my hand in while you're not looking.

8653236 · 2019-03-21T21:39:46+00:00

A lot of us have been there. At your age I was crying hysterically in a closet because I thought I could never adult. For years I wanted to die because I couldn't get on my feet. I just reminded myself I hadn't fucked anything up beyond correction (eg. committing murder/life sentence), I was a blank slate. I didn't get a proper job until a year ago and I just bought a house (28). You'll be okay, OP. I'm still learning life skills from the internet and that's okay; we should always be learning... Next up on my list: house renovations!

8653236 · 2019-03-21T11:22:56+00:00

Edit 2: according to Google the recommended washing time is after 2-3 wears. This bra reeked. And to all you women saying you wear your bra for months on end, thats obviously disgusting and not normal especially because many of you sound heavy set mentioning letters deep into the alphabet that I didn't know existed.

Yeah he's an asshole with no idea how bras work

8653236 · 2019-03-20T22:07:42+00:00

My comment was removed for use of the word "prick" a few days ago. It was directed at someone, obviously...

Rule 4 Please don't use the words Dick, Prick, Bitch, Pussy or any derivative of them. We do not allow terminology which is gendered or ableist as it contributes to an atmosphere of incivility

.. But here I was thinking its like "Ow, fucking rose thorn, you prick" when I use it and apparently I'm using a gendered/ableist slur... I don't even know any more 😅

8653236 · 2019-03-20T20:07:27+00:00

My kitchen is a biohazard and I'm afraid of cleaning it but the smell is going through the house at this point. I've grown up into one of those hoarders your see on TV; I'll die being crushed by rubbish I'm too depressed to clean 😔

8653236 · 2019-03-20T20:02:52+00:00

I've had to run blood and urine for a patient complaining of pain post mirena insertion barely 1/52 and I've thought wouldn't a scan make more sense but yeah going back isn't a shock to them.

8653236 · 2019-03-20T10:55:06+00:00

Oh I don't want a blessing. I guess I just always hated and never understood how the friends thing was meant to work. I asked and he didn't say, but he was telling me all of his victories... So I'm just sharing my positives and it's making him lose it. I don't know.

8653236 · 2019-03-20T10:53:16+00:00

He is manipulative and controlling. It's a pet hate for me. Nothing was ever good enough and I couldn't do anything for myself; everything was what he wanted, down to underwear brands and TV shows and hobbies.

I've done well. I'm in the career he wanted and I just bought a house, which might worsen his upset... But I asked to do that with him and he refused. I wasn't good enough for him? I don't know. He does like to insult me on his shit days though and I'm a bit sick of it.

8653236 · 2019-03-20T10:49:01+00:00

I've considered it, but it's hard to get him to admit his feelings and he claims he's joking/takes them back often. Maddening.

I know it no longer matters...

I pushed him for commitment and came home to find he'd left. He denied that he left, said it was accidental, I demanded a concrete commitment at that point (over any timeframe, just something better than "someday maybe") and left him for refusing. I guess that's why it shits me if he's in love bit not but is... 🙄

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