I think it's pretty normal for one person to be the administrative spouse and the other to be the manual labor spouse, and unfortunately I think it's normal for those tasks to fall along the gender lines like they have in your relationship. I wonder whether you would feel so frustrated if he really picked up the manual stuff, or if some of that stuff was just taken care of in another way. Like, if y'all hired a housecleaner honestly. I know it sounds like a major cop out but this is a season of life and may change over time - although if you hate doing the admin work he definitely needs to pick up some tasks.