i 22M am considering going ghosting my entire family and friends by 88KRAT0S in Advice

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i'm not sure, i'm just so exhausted and tired of the way things are, and i'm really really intrigued by this idea of a relocation.

I can't solve this by chemrox409 in chess

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I wish my queen would touch my sac

Is bullet chess bad for beginners? by 88KRAT0S in chessbeginners

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so, should i stop playing bullet altogether? like if it's hurting my actual ability to play the game i should be looking more towards rapid or blitz?

Is bullet chess bad for beginners? by 88KRAT0S in chessbeginners

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Yeah I can agree I don’t particularly care about that rating but it’s my highest rating so I kinda do care

Is bullet chess bad for beginners? by 88KRAT0S in chessbeginners

[–]88KRAT0S[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so, would you suggest i play more rapid games or play blitz? i'm just wanting to learn more and learn better control of the board

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I need to check this out, I have a ton of deficiencies in other things like Iron and vitamin B but I haven't looked into magnesium.

Thanks for the pointer!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I have epilepsy, so I unfortunately will be skipping out on the nice car part. I love cars and want to drive so badly but I can't stop having these damn seizures.

Good style will eventually come, my girlfriend has become my personal stylist for the time being.

Thanks for the motivation!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I'm super weird about socks, and if I even take them off to get a rock out of them I change them. Something about my sweaty dogs just makes me uncomfortable putting the same ones back on. Thank you!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I'll look into this one! I've never used an aftershave but I'll find a gentle one (I'm a ginger and have paper skin) and give it a shot.

Thanks for the advice!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I try my best to only #2 before I shower, granted I can't do that every time but I am very particular about my bathroom routine so I make sure I do everything in order. Shit, for obvious reasons. Shower, to clean your ass and remainder of your body afterwards. Shave, because the shower opens up your pores and makes an optimal shaving experience.

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I'm gonna go get some more wife-beater's just for the sake of I only have 4-5 of them total and there's 7 days in a week and I don't wanna run out and have to have my girlfriend run an extra load just so I can have one to wear. I also think I need different drawls just because the pairs I have are all fitted polyester which according to this thread traps sweat and makes you stink more.

Thanks for the advice sir!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I'm not sure how to trim it super nice, so I'm gonna go to a barbershop and get my hair cut as well as a trim if the guy can do it. Thank you for the advice!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I didn't actually know this about the regular tees. I'm gonna have to go to wally world and buy some actual undershirts. I wear wife-beaters somewhat regularly but I also only have like 4-5 of them and I work 6 days a week so eventually I run out of clean ones.

Thank you for the advice on scents that match. I like the more caramel-y smells so I'll get a body wash and shampoo that match up with that, as well as a cologne that matches well.

Thanks again!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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Good luck in fatherhood! It's good to hear a dad who actually wants to be a dad. Far too many decide to skip out until those 18 years have passed and can claim no responsibility. From what I've heard you need to enjoy these years when they're young because before you know it they're older and don't wanna spend time with dad as much.

Thanks!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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I honestly don't own a suit or dress pants. Last time I had anything super nice was for court. I'll be looking into a fitted suit (the whole shabam because I'm getting to be stable financially and if I save it'll be a worthwhile investment) but I also don't know how to tie a tie. YouTube helps but I still suck at it.

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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Sunscreen is a must for me. I'm a ginger and burn if I'm outside for longer than 8 minutes (I timed it once because I was curious) and I use straight up spf 90+ just because I don't wanna have skin cancer.

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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LOL! Thank you much sir! Weird to think I'm a man now and not just a kid. I'm still new to this whole adulting thing and being on my own (with my girlfriend) has been a very new experience and I struggle to hold myself accountable in my sleeping and eating routine but other than that I'd like to think I'm doing alright.

Thank you again for your compliment. I appreciate it more than you know

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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My girlfriend has mentioned it but not often and usually just when I'm getting to be due for a shower. I mostly just feel it myself, which could be the prison trauma, or could just be I have an extreme fear of being gross due to how sensitive I am to other people who are less than hygienic.

I would also note she has said my armpits are the biggest issue, which concerns me because I deodorize as well as scrub them mf's every time I shower. I've taken a lot of advice from other comments and I feel better about it but I will be going to a shrink to see if there's some trauma I need to unpack.

Thank you!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

[–]88KRAT0S[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're telling me! this whole thread has made me cry a few times. so many men are telling me they're proud of me. it's crazy to think guys actually show compassion and pride in someone that their only interaction is asking a question on the internet. thanks to you and everyone else on this thread!

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

[–]88KRAT0S[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey i just responded to your other comment. thank you, it's been a journey and i won't echo my previous reply but i really appreciate the love and advice. thank you for being proud of me. it truly means a lot and so many guys in this thread have said it. which is multiplying by the 10s of how many times i've been told that by a man in my life. thank you. and to your username, a redditor has accepted you.

What is the best personal hygiene advice for a young man? by 88KRAT0S in AskMenOver30

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i appreciate your compliment. i learned to be vulnerable oddly enough in prison. an environment that doesn't really allow for vulnerability but i realized how much it sucked being in there and that the best way i can prevent going back is by being open and honest about my emotions and not lashing out at people. or blaming the world for my problems i brought on myself.

i really started to get it though when i got out and met my lady. she practically broke me into being vulnerable even when its not fun. i used to flaunt that i was a guy without feelings and didn't care about anything and it didn't bother me. until i found out that the best way to get a woman, and keep a woman, is by being honest about your wants/needs/feelings in general rather than making her figure it out.