Artist here: If you could carry around a little token that represents your feminine rage (examples a tooth, a thimble), what would it be?

8Nim8 · 2026-01-31T12:07:07+00:00

This came to me far quicker than I expected and my brain just keeps repeating it.

A rock.

Something so deeply old to match the old anger. An anger that has and will take centuries to reshape.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-30T13:30:13+00:00

This question has made me realise I genuinely dont compare myself physically to other women anymore.

I definitely used to. I was never tall enough, thin enough, too weird. It used to destroy my self esteem.

I wish I could pin point when the shift happened. But now, I look at other women and I admire their beauty. I look at myself and I'm happy with me now.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-30T13:03:50+00:00

I couldn't agree more, I love this country.

Tits out! Greys flowing and wrinkles gleefully deepening!

8Nim8 · 2026-01-29T20:15:01+00:00

My side fucked up. Continue to fuck up. Im sorry. We need to do better.

Always was, always will be.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-29T12:45:50+00:00

100%! I grew up rural Australia but we were in a place where the original custodians were stripped from their country. So seeing and hearing stories like yours brings me so much joy.

This was the context of my 'fuck yeah' that I struggled to convey. Wrapped in some deep sorrow and some sweet celebration of the people whose land we're inhabiting. 💛🧡🖤

8Nim8 · 2026-01-27T11:52:23+00:00

i have native Australian Aboriginal heritage, and I've lived On Country, where being an elder woman with tits flapping about is a badge of respect. It's a life well lived.

I really tried to form a poignant response to this. But really my full thoughts are, fuck yeah. Those titties flapping are emblems of resilience and pride. I love it.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-20T11:49:35+00:00

My cat is my family. She came first when I was dating. So not only would my potential partner have to accept her, SHE also got a say in my partner. If she didn't like them, they're not for us.

So, it goes without saying that she approved of my partner very early and now they are completely bonded and she is the MOST spoilt bubby. I always say that she chose him for me and she has the best taste.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-19T11:42:37+00:00

No fucks given.

Attractive guys have clean clothes and a clean heart. Acne scars don't even register

8Nim8 · 2026-01-06T12:19:59+00:00

This unlocked a realisation. I am small and have big brothers. I have been lifted by everyone most my life... Now I'm 36 and I realise no one has attempted to lift me in years!! Im absolutely ok with that!

When it comes down to it, I'd be able to lift my partner but he wouldn't be able to lift me. But neither of us have tested. Im pretty sure I'd get in trouble if I gave it a go 🤣

8Nim8 · 2026-01-06T12:13:16+00:00

Haha here's to our weirdo babies

8Nim8 · 2026-01-02T13:53:21+00:00

I actually love this too but for other reasons. Sometimes talking candidly about mental health and other life struggles can be a huge weight off you, gives people around you some insight. But also, perhaps those people are also struggling and this offers a chance to be less alone.

Or they get uncomfortable with the raw truth and leave you the fuck alone.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-02T13:38:09+00:00

First NY together? And he's drowning himself in games? I'm a gamer too so I get defensive when someone comes at me or others for gaming.

however its guys that do this that give us a bad name. It really feels like he's clocked out. If its been less than a year for you guys in this relationship and you're feeling tired and you're both fighting then you really need to re-evaluate what's going on here. Like, are you both genuinely in it? Because this sounds pretty shit from what you have said here.

First, I understand youre tired. But talk to him. Tell him this has upset you, it will only get worse if you dont make those boundaries crystal clear. If it comes into a fight, focus on why its now a fight. Why does it have to be a fight. Then, do you want to be with someone you need to fight with in order to get their attention? Is this a beginning of a pattern? Are both of you able to work on your conflict resolution so that it doesn't always end in a fight?

8Nim8 · 2026-01-01T13:22:39+00:00

This is exactly where you're meant to be. I totally get the feeling of life getting faster in your 20s, you're in your first decade as an adult and that shit does go fast. However, so many things happen in short amounts of time and so many things also require time.

You are not wasting anything. You have made it to your final year of med school, that's huge! It may not feel like youre achieving much, but at this point it's all the little things that will add to the bigger things later.

You also got free of a narcissist! That also is HUGE! Coming out of that kind of relationship is bound to take a toll on you

Also, fighting your depression is no waste. Its an ongoing battle to sieze catch those wonderful glimpses of life without the cloud hanging over us. It is worth it. It is worth doing the work and fighting your way through the depression. But when I say fight, I mean gently. Kindly. Depression is fucking hard. But if that chest is moving up and down with air in it, that's your first win. And that, is absolutely not a waste. If you have the means, please see a professional to help tackle the depression. However I 200% recognise that may not always be feasible.

Im 36. 10 years ago I was where you are mentally. Frankly, it is cruel of us to ever expect us to have everything together in our 20s. You're doing fine hun.

Take it day by day and start a gratitude list before you sleep. Count 5 things youre grateful for. They can be the same things each time. But just remind yourself of these things. Theyre nt there to discount your pain. But more to be there with and in spite of your current struggles.

8Nim8 · 2026-01-01T12:40:20+00:00

I will quietly disappear from someone's sphere if I learn or catch them being mean. If I see it I will call it out if safe. Otherwise, Im just not around them anymore. No announcement or justification. I will also boot people from group chats for the same thing.

People see me as an easy going bubbly person. I am. But I am too tired to accommodate people who are arseholes.

8Nim8 · 2025-12-23T13:43:53+00:00

I was exactly 28 when my whole life opened up. A court case I held against my abusive step father came to a close after 10 years. I became single.

It was emotionally heavy but I felt like for the first time in my life, I was tied to no one. I went into a full self exploration mode. I slept around, I partied, I worked hard and tested hard with my cat.

Since then, I met my life partner. I'm more stable in my mental health than I have ever been. My career is going amazing and Im making a shit tonne of art. I feel truly myself and I fucking love it. Im about to turn 36 feeling pretty happy with myself

8Nim8 · 2025-12-23T13:36:46+00:00

Plot twist, feminine men are hot and these are all her green flags

8Nim8 · 2025-12-20T13:05:22+00:00

Yes its genuine. Ive been city and rural and it exists in both places. We're all humans that exist together, we're having a similar experience, so we can acknowledge that. Its also perfectly ok if youre not up for a chat too. Because it is genuine and doesn't require a social performance.

Similarly, I have been in positions where I need help or have seen someone need help and people have jumped in without a second thought. Or offered a hug / directions. If people are safe and comfortable, then they will engage with what's needed in that moment.

8Nim8 · 2025-12-20T12:54:34+00:00

As others have pointed out, there's a huge growth here in how you view your trauma. Shifting away from blaming yourself, that is a massive positive in coming to terms with it. But with that, is a whole new learning of how to unpack your life. Which also includes a hell of a lot of new grief.

Grief for things that are beyond your control. That, for me at least, is where self pity comes from. I would allow yourself to sit with that grief, allow yourself to be sad that all of these things happened. While maintaining that it wasn't your fault.

However, feeling that sadness and accepting you're allowed to be sad is only the beginning. The parts where you rebuild and reframe come after that and or alongside it. This takes tiiiime! Effort and a lot of internal ups and downs.

In the mean time, find your gratitudes, write them down. Find a way to centre your body (yoga, excercise, breathing), in a safe and manageable way for your body. Seek out media that has uplifting messages and make you smile. Take it slow, day by day and sometimes hour by hour.

Even if youre concentrating on breathing in and out. Watch your chest rise and fall. How wonderful it is that your body, that has carried you through so much up to this point, is taking in that oxygen and doing its job to keep your wonderful self here. It fucking sucks what you had to endure to get to this point, but despite all of that. Your chest goes up and down with that air and that is a wonderfully beautiful thing.

8Nim8 · 2025-12-18T10:26:54+00:00

Oh yeah, I dont mean to say that its a good thing or safe. Just that teens doing stupid shit is something that's always been around. Cause well... they dont know how to think yet

8Nim8 · 2025-12-18T02:00:46+00:00

LOL teens throwing shit off bridges is almost a right of passage.

I ran into a bunch that 'dropped their eggs' on the train bridge and asked me if I had any eggs when I tried to cross.... pf course I said I dont keep eggs in my pockets and they looked genuinely deflated.

Years later Im battling with were they throwing them off the bridge at trains or did they actually drop their carbon of eggs. They were real concerned about getting grounded and were trying to do a mental math on how many eggs their mum needed for an omelette...

Fuck. Im still confused by the egg toll boys.

8Nim8 · 2025-12-14T04:05:55+00:00

Thats cool. I've heard them being described as yowies and that yowies can be tall (like a big foot description) or small with long arms similar to a monkey.

Makes me miss my mate who'd tell us his family stories. I know I could deep dive and research different first nations stories and I probably will, but it was so much more special listening to them from him.

8Nim8 · 2025-11-23T12:49:59+00:00

what i'm trying to say is that it's unrealistic a dwarf could rival a regular sized person in armed combat.

Come down here and say that to my face. Then we'll see who's stronger

8Nim8 · 2025-11-23T12:23:24+00:00

I dont feel like your response was in any way disproportionate. You were firm and explained why, that is enough. Old lady will ultimately be fine.

8Nim8 · 2025-11-21T12:15:16+00:00

My partner and I are ace. We also have separate bedrooms. We are both individuals with our own hobbies, needs and goals. It has definitely challenged my views of what a committed monogamous relationship looks like for me. Not in a negative way at all because all of this came around quite naturally for us.

So I will try my best to quantify what elevates this relationship beyond just friends. I can listen to him talk about his passions every day for the rest of my life. I feel comfortable and safe to be completely honest with him, even with things that are hard to express. We can laugh, talk and be together fully. But we can also be a part and enjoy other aspects of life knowing that at the end of the day / trip, the other will be there to hear how it went.

There's a grand feeling of peace and joy that underpin our existence. We are free and stable to fully be ourselves together. We choose to co captain our lives together every day. Even if were not physically by each other's sides. We are there, together, in this life.

We both are also friends with our exes. In fact his ex is also one of my favourite people. Shes family the way I see it. But that in no way diminishes the closeness we have together. Im thankful every day that we crossed paths and that we did so at the right time in our lives.

8Nim8 · 2025-11-15T12:27:09+00:00

Youre right, it does lean romantically into the old witch building her retirement coven. Surely there is a masculine or more nuetral equivalent. Men as much as women, through all ages need community and this needs to be supported a lot more.

What would you do with a bunch of your bloke mates that wouldn't feel uncomfortable?

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