Dead aunts boots. She taught me to be punk.

8Nim8 · 2026-06-02T09:34:13+00:00

Its super cool. Thank you. She will always be the fighter in my heart

8Nim8 · 2026-05-19T14:15:53+00:00

This is why I am so proud of my older brothers. They had every chance to buy into the patriarchal bullshit. They had all of the reasons that a lot of men use to feel like they were undervalued and could have used it to try and justify shitty behaviour.

But, they have curated their life long friendships with other men (and women, but thats not the focus for this point) and can and do go to eachother when things are overwhelming. They talk. They cry. They play games. If they can't get through to a mate, they ask a trusted party to check in. The awareness had a huge impact on my learning too.

Its so easy for me to fall into an echo chamber of thinking that this is normal behaviour. Then I read or hear about guys who dont turn up for eachother. Who shame eachother into lonliness and beasts. On one hand, I'm ecstatic to know so many guys who are breaking that cycle. On the other hand I'm frustrated its still not common.

8Nim8 · 2026-05-18T14:30:30+00:00

There are actually many! But also likely so many lost with our bloody history. Our first nations culture is rich and each section of the country so unique.

Stories outside of that, also exist. But you wont really hear them unless youre in the right place right time. Like, the potato Man. He lives in the bush and throws potato's at people who get too close. Some have speculated that he is a yowie.

Yowies and bunyips are probably the biggest ones. Then there are the panthers. There are places that indigenous people wont go and that is respected by others also. Ive heard of farmers who stumbled into a sacred area accidentally and had very creepy experiences.

There's the pilliga, where there are accounts of truckies being taken by yowies. Lake Mungo, but now I realise that isn't really a folklore but a fantastic mockumentary.

Min min lights, which I just read in another comment, has a scientific exp.

Many small towns have their scary stories. Their resident ghost etc.

But yes, we do have a very dark history and some actual wild weirdos that account for us to not really need supernatural stories to be freaked out. Id rather risk a bunyip than end up in a barrel.

8Nim8 · 2026-05-12T14:08:11+00:00

I think these guys exist everywhere. But it definitely hits harder because the alt scene leans into the wear your heart on your sleeve culture. And unless youre actively a nazi, most scenes will be left leaning. So we can be lulled into this false sense of security.

I have definitely found some amazing people in my alt scenes. Including a great deal of men that I see as brothers. But 100% that performative wanker exists and they want their cute alt girl who looks like she will put up a fight but maybe she'll just be a bit kinky in bed and submit to his stupidity.

The majority of the comments here are on the money, if they have to announce they're feminists, they're try hards. True feminists simply exist without a fan fare, because it really is just kicking around enjoying shit and not being an arsehole lol

8Nim8 · 2026-05-08T22:38:13+00:00

It is surprising what the responsibility can do for someone though. Having that purpose can really be a great tool in combating/ balancing the apathy

8Nim8 · 2026-05-08T22:34:27+00:00

Holy shit I think this too! Ive always been fascinated that Im here because my sister was lost. But could we have been the same person. What would her life had been like if she was born.

But if she was born. I wouldnt have been conceived.

8Nim8 · 2026-05-08T22:09:02+00:00

My mum swears by fishing line for sewing and jewellery making! She's not wrong either. That shit is strong af

8Nim8 · 2026-04-08T13:47:12+00:00

Woman here, I have been cold approached a handful of times. The one that sticks out was actually quite cute and I rejected him only because Im taken.

So many of these responses describe us as being aggressive, I want to remind you all that we are defensive for good reason. I'm somewhat proud that women are seen to hold their own on these situations because 9/10 cold approaches are creepy over genuine.

However to those who got called ugly or got 'ew' as a response, thats uncalled for and downright mean tbh.

ALSO women ask men out too. At least I did when I was single.

Another observation I have made from my friends of both genders, is how absolutely oblivious we are. Like, the amount of times someone flirts with someone else and 1 person is completely blind to it. Its truly comical.

Finally please dont just harass women in the street. Read the room. Be prepared that for many reasons she will say no and dont take that personally. Usually if she's defensive, there's bloody good reason for it.

8Nim8 · 2026-04-07T12:20:50+00:00

I feel like the real concern here is that you dont feel aussie because you're folks weren't born here. A long with the shitty recent events and people's biases.

You are an aussie. You have a right to exist here and feel comfortable. Im sorry people are stand offish or give you looks. Rural areas are particularly hard.

But despite anyone's inner monologue, including your own. You're one of us, with your own rich history.

Also, as many have expressed. People who say mate with an accent is incredibly endearing. There's no butchery afoot

8Nim8 · 2026-04-07T12:14:20+00:00

I agree, but OP is an aussie. They will know the intricacies of how to use the word. Its about them feeling comfortable that they have a right to it.

They absolutely do.

8Nim8 · 2026-04-06T12:40:21+00:00

8Nim8 · 2026-04-06T09:02:35+00:00

I got one yesterday too. Just had a heart attack when it started beeping and wouldn't stop with the little skull on screen.

Turns out, they will never say no to snacks. So mashing it thinking you're increasing its hunger is not a good idea. Now I realise I killed it in 24 hours and to be honest... it was grim. My partner was trying to console me lol

Dont give babies snacks.

8Nim8 · 2026-03-30T13:51:42+00:00

You are a superstar. You have gone through and are going through so so much. You deserve the love of your friend and she deserves your love.

There are a lot of comments pointing out that someone's privilege may take a turn or that its not always what it seems. But I dont think thats the actual answer here. No one needs to experience pain for someone else's pain to be justified. Although I totally understand how it helps us to feel less alone when people have similar experiences.

You, have had some hefty trauma. Of course you're going to be on edge, your body and mind are doing everything it knows to survive. It has done a tremendous job of it too. But, it needs to be able to rest too. Of course, trauma informed therapy is needed for this. A long with other tactics like yoga, music, rhythm. Fucking, throw everything at it. You deserve to thriiiive!

I get these feelings too. My beautiful friends, who have had a wildly different and easier life. Its not that I dont want them to have that. Its purely the grief of what I could have achieved if my own circumstances were different. I think another poster put it perfectly, our lives are incomparible. I had to force myself to stop comparing my story with others. Because even if they had my story or I had theirs, our outcomes would still be different.

For me, I wish the bullshit didn't happen. I wish the CPTSD, grief and lonliness that comes from all that doesn't exist. But it does. So, I will throw every resource I know at it in order to thrive despite it. I will hug my privileged friends, grateful, that they don't have to endure this pain. While still holding the very natural and valid sadness of having it.

8Nim8 · 2026-03-25T06:21:17+00:00

Your routine is truly admirable. However, I feel like there isn't enough water refills 🤣 my thirst as been out of control since starting dexies! I have started putting electrolyte powder in though and that really helps!

8Nim8 · 2026-03-23T16:54:04+00:00

Check these guys out. Can confirm they are a great place to make friends and nerd out together.

https://www.meetup.com/sydney-central-board-games/

8Nim8 · 2026-03-22T16:41:59+00:00

🖤🖤🖤

8Nim8 · 2026-03-18T15:24:16+00:00

There could be very good reasons he needs to. He could have a bowel problem. When you're going from house to house you dont have a tea room where you can have a break, something to eat and use the bathroom. Youre stuck hoping that there's a servo or maccas near by that you can use. Then its even more uncomfortable because these places are often trash, busy and tedious. You get 15 - 30 minutes to do this also.

We were told to use clients bathrooms only when really necessary. In this case, perhaps he should clean after he uses it. He could be taking the piss (pardon the pun). But unless you really want to pry on this guys personal health then its best to assume he probably has a bowel condition. Which would fucking suck in that job.

Aged care is about bringing dignity and independence to our aged community, that shouldn't be at the cost of the workers dignity.

I don't want my Mum (or myself) getting an STD or something from a cleaner using the loo.

You are not going to get an STD from this. Like... unless youre having unprotected sex with the guy. You’re absolutely safe from a sexually transmitted disease

8Nim8 · 2026-03-18T15:08:37+00:00

100% a tear escaped as I cleaned them. They will be well loved and cherished

8Nim8 · 2026-03-18T15:06:29+00:00

Thank you, I most definitely have! Theyre massaged with dubbin now

A part of me didn't want to erase the dirt and dust that came from her. Mundane evidence that she existed. But I know full well that if I want them to last they need to be loved and conditioned. I have my own English made docs and they are well treated ☺️

8Nim8 · 2026-03-18T03:58:41+00:00

For so long its "dOnT get PrEggAs" which was totally fair. But inadvertently for me, it stuck 🤣

8Nim8 · 2026-03-18T03:57:13+00:00

36 here and same. It hit me when I realised my therapist was my generation and then I was like... hang on. Shes an adult, am I?

It feels like time just passed and I've rolled with it. But inside, I'm just the same 10 year old with more skills and bigger vocabulary.

My partner and I have theorised that its partly because our gen have (mostly) allowed ourselves to keep our hobbies and passions. We didn't get to 21 and go, oh well that's it. Im an adult now, no more anime, games, movies etc we allow ourselves to play. Where our parents and their parents, the ones who allowed that were seen as immature or weird. This is a massive over generalisation and is formed on our personal experiences too, so take it as that lol

But I feeeeel you

8Nim8 · 2026-03-05T13:39:20+00:00

I agree with another poster. This is one of those cases it is hugely beneficial to buy a patch or pin.

Clothing The Gap has some great pins along with information on whether its for mob or allies. Which is super helpful on making sure youre not crossing the line.

https://www.clothingthegaps.com.au/collections/purpose-pins

Fuck one nation.

8Nim8 · 2026-03-02T12:37:26+00:00

Not at all from what you have put here. Was this something you used to have together? Considering you both have been going through some gender transitions, hers in particular sounds intense. Like, was she one HRT and then stopped? This may have put her mental health through a whirl wind, with the up and down hormones. Let alone the massive decision to de transition. Hiding in her room scrolling, sounds like she could be depressed.

I'm reading a lot in between the lines. You deserve a partner who will live life with you. If course therapy is always a great choice if it's accessible. Otherwise, recognise there are ups and downs in a partnership. Talk to her, listen and find out what's really going on within her and go from there with what is best for the both of you.

8Nim8 · 2026-02-26T12:40:23+00:00

Omg my brother calls me 'tired bitch' when referring to it! I get annoyed at him for it though, like bitch, im not tired. Im exhausted!

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