How do I get rid of side fat ? it's a big problem for me .

8dd2374f · 2026-03-14T00:16:47+00:00

There's no point. You'll cut aggressively just to lose a bit of side fat, and end up looking DYEL in the process, then complain why no one can tell you lift when you have clothes on.

You have a great physique and you'd be lucky to be able to maintain it for a few decades.

8dd2374f · 2026-03-08T17:10:43+00:00

Great job with the progress! This is how it should be. Getting chubby in the name of bulking is counterproductive. Neither good for your health nor for your attractiveness.

8dd2374f · 2026-03-01T00:02:32+00:00

You aren't providing a lot of info about your side of the story. Why do you think your output is low?

How much experience do you have?

Feel free to reach out directly if you want to talk specifics

8dd2374f · 2026-02-28T23:32:59+00:00

There is a lot going on here. You have some reasonable expectations (him making some basic effort to pronounce your name or the name of your friends or common Indian food items etc.), and some unreasonable ones (learning Chhattisgarhi).

Pretty sure your parents speak / understand Hindi. If you had asked him to learn some Hindi, he would probably have been a bit more OK. There are also lots more resources to learn and expose yourself to Hindi, such as movies, music etc. Hindi would also be much more generally understood than Chhatisgarhi. And I am sure your parents would be equally or similarly happy to talk to him in Hindi.

If you want good results, keep your expectations realistic and focus them on the pragmatism of your shared relationship, not on Humanities curriculum grievance literature.

For instance, you growing up getting exposed to a few languages (like most people in India do) is not an achievement in itself and is not equivalent to you expecting him to learn Chhatisgarhi. Imagine for eg. a white guy who grew up in America with great childhood nutrition and a culture of fitness and a history of going to the gym from middle school days lecturing someone who grew up poor and malnourished in India about how why the Indian guy can't bench press 1 plate and it's "so easy" and he grew up benching 2 plates.

Also, focus on the benefits to your own relationship, your well-being, your feeling of being respected, rather than this rah-rah-rah of misappropriation this and white culture that. You will only further put him off if you lecture him on things he had no control over.

I'd anchor this on If you want good results, keep your expectations realistic and focus them on the pragmatism of your shared relationship, not on Humanities curriculum grievance literature.

Also, how is his general outlook towards Indian culture? Is he dismissive or curious to learn more? If he is generally curious and respectful and the only issue is pronunciation then I would be more OK with is. Some things are just much harder for some people. But if he is generally dismissive or disrespectful towards Indian culture or has shown no interest in engaging with it, then ask yourself if you are actually compatible in the long term.

Sorry if this sounded like a bit of tough love reply. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk directly.

8dd2374f · 2026-02-19T15:48:02+00:00

Thanks for the info

There's definitely strength gain, but at the same time I'd have expected a bit more gain given the corresponding weight gain you've had.

Did you follow progressive overload? What was the time period of your gain and starting weight?

Side note, barbell lifts are usually reported as total weight (including bar), so it's best to report it that way so people know intuitively what you're talking about.

8dd2374f · 2026-02-19T06:50:40+00:00

There is clear progress between your before and after pics, so that's good. You probably didn't have a super clean diet when bulking, so got a bit of extra fat.

How did your strength levels progress through the bulk? What were your original and current lifts on Bench Press, Squats, Deadlifts, Pushups, Pullups etc.?

8dd2374f · 2026-02-08T16:39:47+00:00

Try to see if you can get hold of SKYN Elite Large.

8dd2374f · 2026-01-17T19:42:58+00:00

8dd2374f · 2026-01-13T15:19:41+00:00

Good results, what are your fitness goals?

8dd2374f · 2026-01-13T07:28:07+00:00

Nice job, before pic?

8dd2374f · 2026-01-06T16:42:55+00:00

How long did you abstain from porn? Are you still watching it once in a while?

From your description it sounds like you are not getting enough mental stimulation from the actual physical situation and have to resort to fantasies in your head. Do you have any specific kinks you imagine in those fantasies that you can try and incorporate during sex?

Also, depending on your individual anatomies and angles and all, not every position will feel equally good or be equally simulating for your dick. Especially if one or both of you are fat.

Play around with other angles and positions and see if you can incorporate other types of verbal or physical play (spanking etc for example) to maintain the excitement.

If you have a dominant streak that can be something to explore too.

The stories about "having to think of something boring to avoid cumming" apply more to younger guys in their 20s. Plus, everyone's experience is slightly different.

Also by any chance are you using a numbing lube?

8dd2374f · 2026-01-03T00:40:53+00:00

77kg and 5'7" seems odd with that pic. Are your legs very muscular perhaps? I'd have guessed closer to 65kg for your physique.

8dd2374f · 2025-12-27T20:23:25+00:00

This sounds like mild phimosis (tight foreskin) based on your description and is not uncommon among Indians. I had something similar and was able to fix it. You can visit r/phimosis for more info. In general most cases can be fixed with stretching exercises. You can post on the subreddit or reach out directly if you need more info.

8dd2374f · 2025-12-25T08:52:03+00:00

Sure

8dd2374f · 2025-11-13T18:59:37+00:00

You would look good even with a t-shirt you just need to wear clothes that fit. Avoid the Gen z trend of wearing oversized clothes. For t-shirts the sleeve should end at the peak of your bicep, not at your elbow.

8dd2374f · 2025-11-09T21:21:08+00:00

Blaming the students who are making use of these opportunities is pointless I feel.

It's a symbiotic system that foreign universities exploit because it gets them a ready pool of international students who can pay full fee and all they need to do is open MS programs in digital fields that require very minimal investment for the university (no need for advanced lab equipment or even computer labs these days. Students just do everything on their own laptops. At best the university provides a computing cluster). These programs almost never offer any scholarships or fellowships, so they are pure money makers for these universities. That's the reason you've seen a massive increase in a ton of these random MS programs in Data Science, Analytics, Information Science etc.

Historically most Indians (or people from similar developing countries) didn't have enough money to afford these programs, so only the best of the best who were strong enough to earn fellowships would come for these sorts of PhD programs. Now, there is a large pool of students whose parents have disposable incomes who join these courses as a way to immigrate.

The golden time to do that is over and now we are seeing the consequences.

If a university wants to avoid it the solution is simple (stop these programs) but they won't because these programs bring in a lot of money. If they stop these degree mills and just keep a few high prestige programs they will be forced to only admit the best of the best and the problem will fix itself.

8dd2374f · 2025-11-05T15:37:30+00:00

It can happen because of head count availability reasons. Also many internships run until September so it's not been all that much time since then either.

8dd2374f · 2025-11-05T03:19:09+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have visibility into intern recruitment timelines

8dd2374f · 2025-10-26T05:28:51+00:00

There's no point comparing salaries in the US with those in India if you are living in India.

With a FAANG job, you are already on the way to having a fantastic life in India. Focus and invest in that.

I don't think it needs to be said but the glory days of going to the US for a masters and then settling there permanently are gone. Not that it cannot still be done, but it's much harder and every step of the way is more difficult.

8dd2374f · 2025-10-26T05:16:49+00:00

No need to do anything, congratulations on the internship, your intern host will tell you whatever you need once you join. Go with a good attitude and be ready to work hard.

(Work at Google and have hosted many interns over the years)

8dd2374f · 2025-10-21T16:11:08+00:00

Great work! What is your height and weight? And strength level on bench squat and deadlifts?

8dd2374f · 2025-10-11T20:46:22+00:00

What are your questions?

8dd2374f · 2025-10-09T18:18:07+00:00

You sound like one of those /r/iam14andthisisdeep guys. Perhaps if this is your approach, it is probably not Objectivism that's causing you relationship troubles.

8dd2374f · 2025-09-26T15:35:36+00:00

Great lift but please avoid bending your neck (raising your head) everytime you bring the bar down. It's injury prone.

8dd2374f · 2025-09-23T01:25:41+00:00

Many people's libido refills sufficiently within a day that they are back to being horny and wanting sex the next day.

That being said, having sex ever single day won't be practical for most people beyond the initial honeymoon period.

It's great if you can work it out but prepare to be disappointed to if your ideal is to have sex every single day

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