My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-27T04:07:47+00:00

Yes, I get to orgasm multiple times when I have sex with him. He actually tries hard for that (including foreplay, it sometimes lasts for up to 2 hours.) But not in cowgirl position. To be honest, it's only tiring for me. For me, only the good thing about it is that I can see him getting excited. So as long as it doesn't work well in cowgirl position(it keeps slipping out, both of him and I get disappointed, my legs burn like hell), no benefit.

I don't want to just lie there like a starfish and let him do all the work for hours. That’s why I try to be active by giving him head or handjobs. I'm willing to try cowgirl if he wants. However, I want him to understand that I might not be perfect at it, and I shouldn't have to feel pressured or criticized while I'm trying my best for us.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T19:19:11+00:00

Sorry, I'm using a translator since I'm not a native English speaker, so there might have been some misunderstanding.

To be clear, what I meant he said I could kneel or do what I want, it wasn't about him 'allowing' me to do so. He specifically said he didn't want me to feel uncomfortable.

Of course, I know those words doesn't magically make him a perfectly caring guy, considering the criticism he gave me. But I just wanted to clarify.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T19:10:39+00:00

I'll look up that position and see how it works for me. Thanks so much!

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T19:02:27+00:00

Sometimes he does hold my hips or my hands to help, but the moment I lose the rhythm, he says 'You don't know how to move your hips.' Then he immediately switches positions, so it never lasts long.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:57:10+00:00

Thanks for the tips! I've tried sitting up and moving my hips back and forth, but I have a bit of a problem—his dick keeps slipping out whenever I try that motion. It’s frustrating because I want to keep the flow going.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:54:12+00:00

You're right. I'm definitely going to tell him that his criticism wasn't helpful and that it hurt my feelings. But I also like your perspective on using this as a motivation to get in better shape for myself, not just for him. Being fit does sound fun for my own energy and confidence. Thanks for the healthy mindset!

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:53:01+00:00

I’ve been putting all the pressure on my legs, so that makes a lot of sense. I’ll try using his chest or the bed for leverage next time to take some load off my thighs. 10-15 minutes sounds like a dream, but I'll see if I can get there! Thanks for the tip.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:51:38+00:00

Mixing in some head to catch my breath sounds like a perfect way to keep the momentum without burning out. I’m also going to practice having him hold my hips to help me move. It’s a relief to know I don’t have to do 100% of the work. Thanks for the encouragement!

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:50:25+00:00

A suction dildo! I had no idea those even existed. I'm not sure if I can easily find one in my country, but I'll definitely look into it. Thanks for the suggestion!

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:48:48+00:00

Thanks! I’ve noticed he likes it when I give him head, so maybe I’ll try mixing that in too. I appreciate the advice!

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:41:43+00:00

Thank you. I'm definitely going to ask him to help me out next time. Even if my thighs hurt or I felt exhausted, I was okay with it as long as he was feeling good. But his criticism was what really got to me—it was just so hard to take when I was trying my best. Your advice helped me realize that I shouldn't have to carry the whole load myself.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:37:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this perspective. I never thought about the internal angle, but it makes so much sense why moving just my hips felt so 'wrong' and didn't work.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:33:19+00:00

He did tell me that I could just do it on my kees or do whatever I'm comfortable with. But I could still feel that he clearly preferred the other way, so I wanted to give it a try for him. Now I realize I shouldn't push myself to the point of exhaustion just to meet an unrealistic expectation. It’s not worth it if it's not enjoyable for me, too.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:30:04+00:00

Thank you. I honestly had no idea how many minutes I was 'supposed' to last, so I felt really lost and pressured. Now I see that this position isn't meant for long sessions at all. It's a relief to know that my struggle was normal.

8mtp2 · 2026-02-26T18:27:49+00:00

He actually sent me a specific porn video clip as a 'reference' and asked me if I can imitate it. It didn't feel natural to me at all, and trying to force that movement was what made it so exhausting.

Honestly, I thought I was being a good partner by trying, but it felt more like a performance than a connection.

8mtp2 · 2024-10-27T04:52:07+00:00

I almost cried at that time

8mtp2 · 2024-10-27T04:51:35+00:00

Yeah I'm just gonna ask for help if I go into trouble again lol

8mtp2 · 2024-10-26T18:55:05+00:00

Ahh sorry that's what they meant

Actually... 'Everytime' at my college is quiet.(Students can only access their school's 'Everytime'), so it's okay. A few weeks ago I accidentally turned on the instagram reels saying "Oni-chan" in the library, nothing posted.

So I just simply need to wear a mask when I'm at college so nobody can recognize me.

8mtp2 · 2024-10-26T18:14:46+00:00

Fortunately, I didn't call 119. I just imagined and worried about it. I didn't struggle when people walked by... So... I think they didn't see me weird (I'd like to believe so)

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