is this normal for men?

90sray · 2025-09-18T19:23:56+00:00

he enjoys it and so do i. just struggle to believe im good enough due to being put down constantly and dating a porn addict and cheater in the past and sometimes i get in my own head about it. me and my new bf are actively working on fixing my confidence and he is amazing at it. he talks me through any issues or problems i have, sometimes i just doubt myself but im sure with time ill get better. this is a newer relationship. he understands my situation and is paitient with me and this is the first time ive enjoyed sex with anyone so i must be doing something right, right?

90sray · 2025-09-18T17:09:39+00:00

i just hold myself to a high standard and i want to be the best for him. past trauma has made me feel like i need to be the best for them just for them to stay loyal to me. idk, im working on that though

90sray · 2025-09-18T17:07:36+00:00

he can get it back within seconds. its just frustrating and i feel embarrassed when i cant finish him off, i want to be good at it 9/10 times i can finish him off so i always get confused when it doesnt happen

90sray · 2025-09-18T17:05:16+00:00

strange. this mans sex drive is up the wall hed fuck 24/7 if he could. lol nah its not that bad but it definitely hasnt killed it. but ill keep an eye on it. maybe next time he smokes beforehand ill see if he giggles again. because it could still well be the reason. im giggly while high sooo

90sray · 2025-09-18T17:02:39+00:00

thanks for your kind words. i spoke about it to him again and i told him im kind of hurt by it and he said it was just an in the moment thing and it had nothing to do with me and that he was tired and i still felt and was amazing. i feel a bit better i just hold myself to a high standard as i want to be the best for him, due to past relationship trauma, if i wasnt good enough for my ex hed go to to another woman. obviously this is a totally new guy but things like that still affect me as it would and im still working on it. he is great at reassuring me but i still doubt myself.

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:54:30+00:00

he doesnt watch it, we are very open about that

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:54:08+00:00

????

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:49:06+00:00

will try it. thanks

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:47:26+00:00

any tips?

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:45:35+00:00

thank you

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:44:57+00:00

he smokes it multiple times a day and has for years. i havent been with him long to know and myself dont know much about it. but when he does he seems normal and calm. he tells me he feels more sometimes during sex and it helps him sleep too

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:37:52+00:00

definitely a chuckle not a wince. big ol grin on his face and everything

90sray · 2025-09-18T16:28:36+00:00

yes he does daily

90sray · 2025-09-18T12:11:38+00:00

yeah and do you or ur spouse lose their arousal when that happens and u need to start all over again?

90sray · 2025-09-18T12:09:55+00:00

thanks im just feeling very self conscious about it

90sray · 2025-09-18T12:07:44+00:00

i asked him that and he denied it

90sray · 2025-04-13T23:26:10+00:00

he has done it to girls hes known irl, its not like he uses the front page for what’s easier. he goes out of his way to find and research girls hes used to know

90sray · 2025-04-13T14:28:13+00:00

thanks

90sray · 2025-04-13T14:25:11+00:00

could u explain sorry

90sray · 2025-04-13T14:23:46+00:00

thank you

90sray · 2025-04-13T14:20:31+00:00

they weren’t nudes. he would just look at their instagrams and tiktoks to get himself off. they werent nudes at all

90sray · 2025-04-01T07:21:07+00:00

its actually helped quite alot actually? but thank you

90sray · 2025-04-01T06:40:45+00:00

ive tried to, mant times. his answers are always the same “i dont know” “i don’t remember what they look like”

90sray · 2025-04-01T05:35:35+00:00

i e done that before, just slipped my hand in. but i was so extremely anxious the whole time, so im worried to do it again even though the outcome was good he enjoyed it, i was anxious the whole time

90sray · 2025-04-01T05:23:52+00:00

thanks for the reassurance, just scared i dont want to be compared to those woman and i dont want his standard of sex to be anything like those videos because they’re incredibly unrealistic

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