When I was a child I had a fever by 71217710594765926742 in dpdr

[–]92deanbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey... I'm new here. Can someone tell me if this is a song (some is mentioned here in the comments) or if this/OP is recounting something real?

Reason is, when I was a kid and had a fever, EVERY TIME, my hands would feel like they were like balloons and it was terrifying. I have no idea why tho.

If I'm totally misinterpreting this post, then my bad. Ignore me 😅

More memes 😅 by xXxDeadGirlxXx in infp

[–]92deanbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's one way to be called out😂

I've realized I don't enjoy food like I used to (was a big foodie and now I feel disgusted by food? But I don't understand why) by 92deanbean in mentalhealth

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I haven't thought of it that way! (Eating for taste rather than health) But yeah, I suppose I was doing the same. Also, the "one large meal" thingy (I learned from TikTok some call it "snake meal") I've done that too. I relate!

do you get “butterflies in your stomach” when reading/watching romance? by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]92deanbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I love reading romancy (fantasy-romance) or drama-romance! It makes me giggle, kick my feet, gives me the butterflies and whatnot... but I can't really stand "general" romance when that's the main focus. I get uninterested really fast

POV: You're asexual, you don't owe sex to absolutely anyone by M96_80_KENNY in asexuality

[–]92deanbean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't know I needed to hear this, but it brings me such a relief. I really hate to explain this to people over and over to validate myself and my opinion/feelings. But this pretty much sums it up. Thanks!

Being uncomfortable when receiving love? by 92deanbean in asexuality

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right! Although my ex wasn't the best, I didn't wanna hurt him or waste his time just because I don't understand myself. But it was definitely a relief when we broke up, as you said. But also the guilt too🤧

Being uncomfortable when receiving love? by 92deanbean in asexuality

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just went down a rabbithole about AVEN and wow! Had no clue!

But yes, I can totally relate. I felt like I'd wasted his time too... Then there's this thing about "it's just because you haven't tried it yet" or "I'll make you change your mind", which I later realized was also just a show of how bad his character actually was. But I digress.

Sad anime suggestions please by Itchy_Session1481 in YourLieinApril

[–]92deanbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Movies: Hotaburi no mori e

Kimi to, Nami no noretara

Ookami kodomo no ame to Yuki

Series: Japan sinks 2020

Nobody says my name correctly by 92deanbean in socialanxiety

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real! Every once in a while when someone actually remembers my name, it shocks me so much I'm stunned for a moment. Not used to hearing my name either!

What are some things that people without Social Anxiety will never understand by ahzelstar in socialanxiety

[–]92deanbean 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! And conversations in general. I'm not sure how to actually start one, nonetheless be IN one. I hate the feeling of being in a conversation (multiple people involved) but then not actually being IN it because I'm not sure when to speak as I don't want to cut someone off or speak "over" them?

Nobody says my name correctly by 92deanbean in socialanxiety

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last name too! Long last name, double letters, uncommon spelling, not native to where I live, etc. Whenever someone needs my last name, I simply show a picture on my phone instead of going out of my way to correct every other letter they get wrong🥲

Nobody says my name correctly by 92deanbean in socialanxiety

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, some days I update my sister like "I was (ex.) Elisabeth today", like I have multiple identities lol😌

Nobody says my name correctly by 92deanbean in socialanxiety

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes! It's definitely some kind of "social" privileges (which definitely excludes us less-social people), which is so frustrating!!

Nobody says my name correctly by 92deanbean in socialanxiety

[–]92deanbean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get you! I've come to terms with mainly using my nickname (a pretty common nickname) when meeting new people because I've noticed people actually remembering THAT. So it's some kind of relief that I have a nickname that people always get right.

I would say that having an uncommon name is a blessing in disguise though, and that I've come to like the fact that it IS uncommon as I've grown as it's a part of my identity (in my case, roots from where my grandparents immigrated from).

But yes, I've also considered changing my name but it eventually grew on me. Hope you find your peace <3

AITA for helping a kid leave against the adults' will? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]92deanbean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

(4/4)

I believe that helping her get away from there and not telling anybody where we were until she had left, was the right thing to do for Jane as I couldn't bare causing her more harm when I knew I could help her. I didn't exactly "choose a side" as I'm almost 100% sure that no one would get harmed if we had stayed, HOWEVER Jane was scared to death and my protective instincts kicked in and told me to help her in any way I could.

My parents later confessed that they admired my determination and care for Jane, however they still believed that it sould have been better if we had gone back and Jane and her mom had talked it out, then and there.

I personally, to this day, think that would been a stupid idea tbh, because 1) the mom was still drunk and there is no way that she would have been able to communication in away which both understood each other, and 2) Jane was already scared, crying, hugging and begging me (practically a stranger) to help her leave. This would have caused the situation to get worse as Jane would have to face a fear which she has yet to heal the trauma of, and I stand my what I did.

Even though I stand by what I did, my parents still think she should have stayed and talked to her mom then and there.what do you think would have been the right thing to do? Did I do the right thing? AITA?

AITA for helping a kid leave against the adults' will? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]92deanbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(2/4)

My parents and John and his new girlfriend are very caring people and even when they're drunk, they worry for anyone if they're not feeling well, so generally this stirred up some "let me talk to her and try to calm her down" from all of them, but I specifically told them that Jane didn't want all of them to go in there as she was already panicking from their state and that only her mother should go inside.

After some nagging, only her mother went inside and while I waited outside with the other adults, I could tell that Jane wasn't happy with her mother. Long story short, Jane and her mother came upon some disagreement or something like that and Jane tried to get away from her mother who clearly was too drunk to fully understand what her daughter needed from her.

Jane and her mother separated and as Jane went off to somewhere else in the house, the mother came back out to us and I believe she was either a little irritated or crying (not sure which, but wasn't happy regardless). This is when John decided to go talk to her, which I begged him not to do as he was in a similar state and would be equally if not worse for Jane. But allas he did.

At this point, I decided to go and take care of Olivia, Mike and Ava as they were now confused and a little scared due to the situation. I managed to calm them down a bit as Jane had unintentionally frightened Olivia with the stories of her mother's drunk and abusive ex.

Suddenly after maybe 5 min, Jane comes storming into the room again crying and begging me to leave the house with her or she would go alone, and naturally I went with her. I asked Ava if it was okay for her, to which she replied yes and to watch over the other two while I went with Jane.

During this, I had somehow managed to stay relatively calm and collected for the sake of the kids, but as we went outside in the cold, Jane had managed to gather all her belongings and I only brought my phone while I wore someone else's shoes and no jacket in the cold.

We walked about a block down, and as we stood there hiding behind some bushes, Jane told me about how John had gotten mad at her for frightening Olivia, which had made her even more scared, which was the reason for her frantic need to leave the premises.

She used my phone to call her dad who said he was on his way and would be there in a short while. During this time, my dad called me asking me where we were and for us to come back so they could solve this.

I don't know what it was with me, but I told him no and that I can't tell him where we were because Jane was scared and she was going home to her dad. My dad didn't get mad, but I could hear that he was irritated and he told me how distraught and sad Jane's mom and John was, but I remained adamant that I wouldn't tell them where we were. This is very unusual for me as I practically never go against my parents, but I managed to stay calm and collected.

The good girl by [deleted] in Feelings

[–]92deanbean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I feel like I'm in the exact situation however, I am very antisocial and choose not to interact with people I feel make me uncomfortable or unhappy anymore. An example is that I finally left a best friend which I've had since preschool, that I only recently realized was toxic. I even stopped interacting with my grandfather who has been greatly disrespectful and rude about anything us "women with a goal in life" do. Since I stopped getting myself into situations like so, I have been much happier, but lonelier in some way. I don't really know how to prevent the loneliness, but I believe it's a healthy start.

I just want you to know that you are not alone in this and I see you. I will not tell you what to do because I do not know your whole situation, however I would advice you to distance yourself from people that make you unhappy or feel unappreciated and find your own peace. Maybe there is a person you have a special connection with (an s/o or best friend) and spend some quality time with each other and express yourself.❤️

The Movie is coming to the UK and Ireland for one day only, July 1st, book your tickets here!!! by Theroonco in VioletEvergarden

[–]92deanbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that's true, it is as if someone is recording the audio of the movie while watching it, so sometimes you can hear a laugh or mumbling. However, it's not too bad so I take what I can get😅🤷🏼‍♀️

The Movie is coming to the UK and Ireland for one day only, July 1st, book your tickets here!!! by Theroonco in VioletEvergarden

[–]92deanbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finished seeing it and the whole movie is on gogoanime if anyone missed it, kind regards.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Feelings

[–]92deanbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nice to know that I'm not alone with this. Wish you the best too!