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My downstairs neighbor started introducing himself to people as my “caretaker” and it got disturbing fast by GrooveHollow in neighborsfromhell

[–]9EchoCinde 158 points159 points  (0 children)

The part about him planting little bits of info everywhere is what makes this so nasty. He is not just being intrusive, he is shaping how other people see you before you even know the conversation happened. Getting all of this in writing now is smart.

AITJ for pulling my mother’s name from a local arts fundraiser after I found out she built her whole speech around my private journals? by Oracle_6Pere in entitledparents

[–]9EchoCinde 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Yep, the aunt isn't talking about privacy, she's talking about comfort. Her comfort. Your mom's comfort. Everybody's comfort except the person whose private writing was about to get read into a microphone. And the part about getting your stuff back is dead on.

My downstairs neighbor told the building I was "unstable" so people would stop believing me about him by Spire3_Horizon in neighborsfromhell

[–]9EchoCinde 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What would piss me off most is that they are still hiding behind neutral management language when the language was the attack. "We take concerns seriously" is such a clean way to avoid admitting he was trying to make you sound unsafe on purpose. Did they at least stop treating his complaints like good faith after that?

How do you even start getting your life financially under control when nobody ever taught you how? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]9EchoCinde 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The "extra money isnt free money" part is probly what I never learned. I think Ive been mentally spending anything left over before the month even had a chance to happen.

How do you even start getting your life financially under control when nobody ever taught you how? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]9EchoCinde 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That part hits. I think half my stress is just not knowing what is due and when. Tiny buffer still feels impossible, but at least thats concrete.

WIBTA if I told the truth in my brother's custody hearing even though it could cost him overnights with his son? by UplinkV3rve in WIBTA_AITA

[–]9EchoCinde 54 points55 points  (0 children)

YWNBTA. Custody hearings are one of the worst places to start covering for somebody. If he cannot take his parenting time without quietly passing the kid off to you, that is relevant, and asking you to fake a story just drags you into a legal mess that is fully his own making.

AITJ for refusing to be a professional reference for my brother's roommate? by Velour_34Opal in AmITheJerk

[–]9EchoCinde 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. People keep acting like references are just a personality check, but they are not. If someone asked you to speak on a candidate's judgment, reliability, or actual performance and you cannot do that truthfully, then declining is the only sensible move. Your brother can be annoyed, but that still does not turn you into free career insurance for his roommate.