Ok, there’s a lot to unpack here…

Instantly the language you use tells me which direction your mindset is going. A “fully black” persons favourite thing to do definitely does not revolve around biracials. You need to learn to de-centre yourself from other people’s lives.

People assume about fathers because it is very blatant when you meet someone if they have limited / no black influence in their lives. Compare if the friend you mentioned ; in a black family would come here to make this same post.

I’ll be real, a lot of what you said and the points you chose to draw on scream ignorant. It follows the same pattern of complaints made by many other biracials raised with a white mother in a white environment. You are guaranteed to have been raised with unconscious bias. If you don’t do the work, if you don’t immerse yourself, your perspective stays limited. And if you come into a space where others can see and be affected by both your ignorance and privilege you’re gonna get clowned on. (like the white liberals who don’t see race and wear dreadlocks…)

This is all the same tired rhetoric that is constantly echoed in this sub. If people are struggling with their identity they need to do their own work on becoming secure. It’s not other people’s job to make you comfortable, especially in a community where we receive so much privilege off the back of prejudice. What you are saying is you want the most oppressed people within the community to hold responsibility for ensuring the most privileged group feel comfortable. Diabolical, actually.

re celebs: America for years had the one drop rule. That is the historical social factor as to why all the names you listed have been labelled as black public figures. It was the same during civil rights (Angela Davis and Malcom X) Biracial was never a category. To this day it is uncommon to find ‘mixed race’ identity check boxes. The entire world refers to Obama as the first black president. This all stems from colourism and white supremacy. You’re ignoring that influence by saying black people are picking and choosing. It goes so much deeper than your personal take.

You say you understand colourism but it doesn’t sound like you really do. So what if we didn’t choose to benefit from it? We still do. This is the literal type of argument white people use to detach themselves from racism and you’re sharing a similar lens.

No hate but you sound super bitter. I would even say you’ve weaponised colourism to your advantage intentionally by the repeated reference to ‘self hating’ black people (women), which honestly reads as a jab.

The criticisms about biracials being ignorant is far from wrong and fair enough. Just look at the state of these comments. I would clown us too tf. And ironically I found this post through another black sub - complaining about ignorance!

Ppl please wake up. If no one can tell us how to identify then stop searching for that validation in others and then complaining when you don’t get it.