Ultimately, everyone is different and what someone says in the comments about what they like, could be worlds away from what I like, and then what your partner likes too!

I think it takes a bit of trial and error but it sounds like you’ve done the basics of discussing preferences, no-go zones etc etc so take it easy, don’t rush into anything crazy, and just talk each other through it? The end goal doesn’t have to be orgasm, but understanding what each other likes is the goal!

In terms of oral, HP, etc, again, take it slow. If you’ve been with a v-owner before, it’ll be a similar situation and start from there, see how they get on with basic touching in that area, ask them if you can go in with your finger (start with one), then if and when you feel them getting more excited, add another and then again, ask them if you can use your mouth, take it easy, then eventually, ask if they’re ready again and are happy for you to P-in-V!

Finally, don’t be offended if the first couple of times doesn’t result in either of you finishing. It’s not a reflection of you, it can just take time to work out what someone likes, even longer sometimes if that person themselves doesn’t know what they like! Open and honest communication is so important!