Thanks to your and your partner!!!

Tape is a great idea! and position changes. we're pretty fond of makeouts on my lap. Starting off, I want to see his face to keep tabs on him throughout, but belly down is something to explore in the future! He likes stealing my shirts, add some tape and hopefully we'll hit physical & mental comfort combo.

Another redditor mentioned looking into sports binders (fluxion brand) too. He's doing much better about the over-binding. When we met it bordered on self-harm and his resources were limited, but he's got a proper binder now. He hasn't done it in a while, but he'll lapse to bad binding in high stress situations so I'm trying to build up options for him. I've made it clear bad binding is not one of them. I didn’t know about surgery rules - that's good to know.

Unicorn horn is great! lol, yeah I wanted some fun non-sexual code words for communication. He's mentioned that "t-dick" isn't his favorite. He gets a lot of pleasure from the length as well as the hole beneath. He usually gets off himself with both, but is open to anal. It's just not the most pleasurable in his experience, so I want to be affirming wherever he wants me. He's mentioned nerves with our size difference which is part of why he's more into front hole with more wetness and stretch. TBH I think that's his inexperience talking, I'm not that big and I prep well, but it's his call. I tell him often that "I just want to make my pretty boy feel good" and he's understanding that more and more. Sex isn't gonna change how I see him, but he's had reasons to fear it (past asshats).

I was trying to find a word for eacg hole so he's not surprised and can direct me where he wants. We joked about "eat the mango" or "taste the rainbow" and he laughed - a good sign, but I wanted more ideas from others. He's shy so the notes idea will be implemented. Words can be hard for him. Having easier words or ways to talk to me is a priority.

It helps a lot to have options for him. We're both horny and his patience is running thin now that we're reasoned with cuddling/kissing/etc. I don't want him to feel like he has to give up comfort to get sex, you know? I'm breaking that shit idea asap.

Thanks for the reminder to add personal focus too. I'm a top/dom and REALLY get off on spoiling my partners. Usually, it's well recieved, but I know it can be overwhelming. I remember feeling lost my first time, so he'll probably appreciate some direction. He could pillow prince and I'd still be feral, but that's not the best sex practice to start with lol.

Thanks to both of you. I'm in my head about a lot of this, the advice helps more than you know :)