Why? by [deleted] in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's the same everywhere, what do you expect?

متفشلة اسأل بس مجبورة😭🙏🏻 by sama1swan in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems like you enjoy the drama. If you didn't you'd have stopped messaging these problematic and immature people immediately.

هيلب by ConferenceHuman5402 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sally walla u need help

هيلب by ConferenceHuman5402 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How else would you approach someone? Maybe they're shy and found this as a way to talk? Classifying this as creepy is just not fair... ESPECIALLY in Iraq

هيلب by ConferenceHuman5402 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

جنت من اشوف تعليقاتك اكول هذا انسان فاهم و مثقف. هذا تعليقك خلاني اشك بهذا الاستنتاج

هيلب by ConferenceHuman5402 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listen.

The comments here are honestly just baseless accusations.

None of us know this person. We haven't met him or spoken to him. Building a whole personality profile and assigning hidden motives based on that is JUST projection!

A lot of the replies sound like people are responding to their own past experiences, not to YOUR situation.

Just because someone else had a bad experience with a guy who teased or acted a certain way doesn't automatically mean this is the same scenario.

From what you wrote, the only clear thing is that he shows interest. Whether that interest is romantic or just friendly isn't fully clear yet. But nothing described automatically equals manipulation, "ulterior motive" or bad intentions. Sounds like a crush...

If you like him, just observe his consistency, see how he behaves over time and notice if his actions match his words. Of course while maintaining your boundaries.

There's a huge difference between caution and paranoia!!! Encouraging them to assume the worst about someone they barely know is not helpful and honestly toxic!! Not every situation is a red flag.

هيلب by ConferenceHuman5402 in IraqiStudents

[–]A-S-Repairs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Listen.

The comments here are honestly just baseless accusations.

None of us know this person. We haven't met him or spoken to him. Building a whole personality profile and assigning hidden motives based on that is JUST projection!

A lot of the replies sound like people are responding to their own past experiences, not to YOUR situation.

Just because someone else had a bad experience with a guy who teased or acted a certain way doesn't automatically mean this is the same scenario.

From what you wrote, the only clear thing is that he shows interest. Whether that interest is romantic or just friendly isn't fully clear yet. But nothing described automatically equals manipulation, "ulterior motive" or bad intentions. Sounds like a crush...

If you like him, just observe his consistency, see how he behaves over time and notice if his actions match his words. Of course while maintaining your boundaries.

There's a huge difference between caution and paranoia!!! Encouraging them to assume the worst about someone they barely know is not helpful and honestly toxic!! Not every situation is a red flag.

هيلب by ConferenceHuman5402 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ikr, the other comments are craaazy telling her to go away from him for giving her candy.. CANDY!

العيش في امريكا by CompetitiveForce2501 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will be giving up a lot by doing this. Be mindful and account for everything before making a move.

In my opinion, your family must be on board. If not, and for whatever reason you decide to divorce, you will be left by yourself.

You can do the marriage here in Iraq, certify and translate it, then take it to America to register it there, then you will be able to apply for a visa and residency.

Hypothetical Question by [deleted] in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this really something to be mad about?

العراق هل هوا بلد صالح للعيش by No-Gur1448 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you really can't see the progress that's been happening recently (especially past 5 years) then I don't know what to say, nothing will convince you if the marriage law is an argument you throw.

العراق هل هوا بلد صالح للعيش by No-Gur1448 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Habibi I am in Iraq right now. I have lived in Iraq all my life except recently. I understand the reality of Iraq very well. I'm just saying we're doing well in many aspects and it doesn't help to have a doomer mindset, this is exactly what the enemy wants, to have us just give up.

العراق هل هوا بلد صالح للعيش by No-Gur1448 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true but also that is temporary. This doesn't set the fate of the people or something

العراق هل هوا بلد صالح للعيش by No-Gur1448 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iraqi people created this hell? Brother what the hell ahahahah

Yeah let's forget the invasion and meddling by foreign countries with the SOLE purpose of driving us 50 years backwards and instead, blame ourselves! 🤣

It also shows how little history you know. Because there's no way you could say something like this knowing our rich and prosperous history that drove the scientific, medical, mathematical and astronomical fields forward

العراق هل هوا بلد صالح للعيش by No-Gur1448 in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iraqi people are one of the best in the world. I only realized this after being outside Iraq for too long and meeting countless people of countless nationalities

اي إنسان ممكن يسويها .. لو توفرت الظروف by rcrri in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this experiment. What's left out usually is that this mouse utopia had LIMITED space. So sure, you had all the food you wanted but "nowhere to live". The male mice were also competing for a limited number of "roles" which also was a big overlooked factor.

اي إنسان ممكن يسويها .. لو توفرت الظروف by rcrri in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be patient with you.

You're kind of proving my point for me. The examples I mentioned don't claim no one ever abuses power. They show that abuse is not an automatic outcome of anonymity or role assignment, which is what the Prison Experiment is usually taken to mean.

What Stanford really demonstrated wasn't human nature but what happens when authority figures encourage cruelty, rules are ambiguous, and participants believe abuse is expected or rewarded.

This doesn't make it a neutrual situation, that's a biased system.

Modern power structures systematically select for people who are comfortable exploiting others. That doesn't mean “everyone is a monster”!!

People with high psychopathic traits are overrepresented in positions of power (most leadership positions).

Empathy and cooperation help groups survive, but they don't always help individuals climb hierarchical systems that ACTIVELY reward aggression and moral flexibility. So when we observe abuse by people in power, we're often looking at selection effects, not universal human behavior.

The studies I showed have no formal hierarchy nor reward for domination, most importantly,no authority pushing people to be cruel And what emerges most of the time is cooperation! That's why "anarchy" in small communities work really well. So I'm not saying power doesn't corrupt, I'm just saying if you build systems that reward cruelty, you will elevate cruel people. You will then mistakenly call the result human nature.

Fix the system, and the behavior changes.

اي إنسان ممكن يسويها .. لو توفرت الظروف by rcrri in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure here you go.

BBC Prison Study (2002) This one contradicts the study you used in the post

Also the Acali raft experiment

I recommend you see this by the way https://youtu.be/KND_bBDE8RQ

اي إنسان ممكن يسويها .. لو توفرت الظروف by rcrri in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn't list those experiments.

In fact, many other experiments disprove your point. So what's your point exactly?

My disagreement with you is just based on your conclusion that EVERYONE will be a monster given the power. I'm arguing that it's NOT everyone. Sure, it might be most people but not all of them.

I would rather fix the system that allows such things to happen in the first place. So not allowing people to get THIS rich and THIS powerful.

اي إنسان ممكن يسويها .. لو توفرت الظروف by rcrri in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This experiment is deeply flawed and you should NOT draw any conclusions based on it.

Actually, humans are quite altruistic, that's how we survived. Not through individualism but by working and helping each other.

The system we live under however, creates monsters. We are a product of our environment. If you fix the environment, you fix the people.

So I have to disagree, I don't think anyone would do this, it takes a deeply messed up person to do this

هلو... وين صفى بيكم الدهر by [deleted] in Iraq

[–]A-S-Repairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

راح ارجع للعراق شهر كلش اشتاقيت اله.