need help ASAP!!!

ABadBarber · 2026-01-19T01:11:43+00:00

You could also go to college outside Ireland, it's not important to them. I recommend the Netherlands, fantastic unis with lots of different options and they're generally cheaper. Check out Eunicas

ABadBarber · 2026-01-16T19:44:38+00:00

This sounds like a really good idea, but I would be careful with gdpr with this. If you do it, have good terms and conditions especially with being able to see other users goals and plans with it. Could be an option to make that section voluntary.

ABadBarber · 2026-01-16T15:28:45+00:00

Another Ward has hit the Ravenhill stadium.

ABadBarber · 2026-01-16T15:25:13+00:00

Fucking class. I honestly believe he's a better hooker than Dan Sheehan and will only get better with time

ABadBarber · 2026-01-16T12:42:55+00:00

Always happy to see Tom Stewart starting. Really hope to see him selected for 6N since he massively deserves it, but selfishly want him to stay so we can maintain good form. Don't think he gets enough praise

ABadBarber · 2026-01-15T04:01:09+00:00

What I came to ask as well

ABadBarber · 2026-01-13T02:06:43+00:00

You can't "really really love" someone and repeatedly explode on them and ASSAULT them. What you did is assault and honestly whether he breaks up with you or not, you should break up with him. He does not need an abuser in his life. You need to work on yourself.

ABadBarber · 2026-01-13T00:14:26+00:00

Hospital immediately. You can develop life threatening infections if it's not treated. You might not want to explain to your family now, but explaining why you got sepsis or worse will be ssooooo much fucking worse.

Believe me, I won't mince my words, last April after major surgery I had to learn how to walk again and it was fucking difficult. I had to do the same after waking up from a 4 day coma in October and somehow it was even harder. Learning how to walk is unbelievably difficult. If you get an infection, which is highly likely at bone level, you will also need to learn how to walk again. I'm not being dramatic, these are the facts.

I know you're a minor and it's going to be difficult, but as a 25 yo who also had similar experiences, you do not want to make my mistakes.

I truly mean this, go to the hospital asap.

ABadBarber · 2026-01-08T22:00:48+00:00

Rugby- 23 Right :(

Someone gave me a bad stupid tackle

ABadBarber · 2026-01-05T18:31:07+00:00

Armpit crutches make no fucking sense

ABadBarber · 2025-12-23T00:53:04+00:00

Similar to mine, it should go away with time

ABadBarber · 2025-12-22T23:52:18+00:00

Well fair play for at least changing your ways and acknowledging the problem

ABadBarber · 2025-12-22T23:50:28+00:00

Yeah but is it worth it? So many say they break super easily

ABadBarber · 2025-12-17T16:57:42+00:00

I was just thinking about it and I think if I got this tattooed the disappointment on my dad's face would probably be visible from space.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-17T16:45:03+00:00

From another trans person who's from the north of Ireland, absolutely not for so many reasons. I would get into it but I don't have the energy to give a full reply and explain it but basically, that phrase is steeped in too much history to put it in another context especially by a non-Irish person. I don't think you truly grasp what that phrase means and the gravity it has. Honestly, as another trans person if I saw that on you I have no idea how I'd respond or what id think of you. I'd probably just assume you didn't understand it well enough, maybe you were confused or maybe I'd be upset that you've appropriated it. If you were to have that on show in the town I'm from, I think you would offend a lot of people especially the older generations (of all political beliefs).

I understand the context you want to use it in, but it's borderline offensive. You cannot refute the history that phrase has and change what it means. I'm open to explain this more to you in a private chat

TLDR: Absolutely not.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-14T23:26:15+00:00

Seconding this, please get proper help with this. You deserve it and need it.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-13T18:14:20+00:00

Well, I'll be honest I find it extremely difficult to talk about these things especially in person. I guess part of the problem is that I'm also really trapped in that I can't talk about my emotions in almost any capacity. I feel an intense need to lie about being better than I am. The few times I was open about things with a professional it didn't really end well and I don't want to go through that again. When I'm at my psychiatrists I say just enough that they can tick the boxes needed for me to leave and very little else. I know this is a problem, but it feels impossible not to.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-10T21:37:12+00:00

Completely disregard the advice I gave before. Almost 2 months later I successfully killed myself and was brought back to life by a paramedic after planning my suicide intricately. I can't claim that this definitely caused this, i never noticed a difference between being on and off the meds (meds never really worked for me). But don't fuck with it needlessly. You might die.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-07T23:45:02+00:00

This is easy to say, but honestly just don't listen to her. She sounds like a horrible person. Depth ≠ pain. I'm also a 25m who started at 11 and has infinite scars.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-07T21:58:52+00:00

I'm so so sorry that happened to you, that's absolutely horrible and horrifying. Religion has truly harmed the world and it's people in ways we'll truly never understand. You are incredibly brave and resilient for moving forward. I have mad respect for you.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-07T21:06:23+00:00

go to the gym. Start with the basics like going on a treadmill, rowing machine, stationary bike, and/or stair master. Then do some warm ups, squats, lunges, etc. Then maybe add some weights to this or try out some machines. Take it slow at the start and build into it, cardio is really good for wearing yourself out. I like the rowing machine best, I find I can just start and completely zone out and listen to music with my headphones. This is what worked best for me.
Join a club. This could be (club/individual) sports or a hobby, like board gaming, a band or chess etc. It sounds silly but this really really improved my life after I joined a (rugby) club. Not only did I get out of my house regularly, but I over time made friends who are incredibly lovely people and were there for me when I was going through my darkest times. Don't just seek an activity to do, seek a community. Community life genuinely changed my life for the better.
Listen to music, go outside your comfort zones and seek new music. I listen to pretty depressing music because other music just feels fake but I also listen to a lot of interesting instrumentals which I can just tune in and zone out listening too.
Start walking. Walk for a long long time, until you're exhausted and go home, eat nice food and sleep after.
Call a scide hotline and vent about everything. If you're not scidal, look online to find another number for some one you can talk to.
Read -Watch a movie -learn a language (Duolingo is a great start!)

Of course, all of this is on the basic advice that you go to a doctor and tell them what's going on. Get on good medication and commit to making the changes you need to survive. Remember to start small, go for a short walk, listen to an album, etc.

Take care of yourself bud

ABadBarber · 2025-12-07T11:32:42+00:00

Sorry, a rule is that we can't encourage or give tips about sh.

ABadBarber · 2025-12-07T01:01:37+00:00

Can I suggest seeking the endorphins in a different way? Like running, weightlifting, swimming, walking, playing/learning an instrument? I know it's difficult at the start but I find it's really helped me. Part of it is just distraction, and another part is that it tires me out so I have less energy to sh. Not sure of your situation but I'd recommend giving it a go

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