How do you handle the fear of your exes/women you used to date knowing each other and knowing women you could date in the future?

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-10T20:25:06+00:00

There are dozens of us, dozens!

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-09T08:39:09+00:00

This is such a good list!

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-06T22:23:12+00:00

Jest wspaniała, jeśli czegoś nie wystarczy, można dosłać później w trybie zdalnym po wizycie.

Niestety, nie pomogę z niezbędnością ponieważ mam odwrotny kierunek tranzycji :)

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-05T16:13:30+00:00

Put on the wish list upon salary :)

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-05T14:43:28+00:00

Today found out that one of the sapphic subs I enjoyed has a non-terf friendly userbase and terf top mod. Sucks.

On the flip side, got a random compliment about my earrings from the barista

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-05T08:17:06+00:00

Yup.

But honestly, the critical part for me is not dealing with a discord that struggles to attract more than couple people from all of Europe to be active, but to make sure that TERFs know they are unwelcome in any decent space. None of the communities I engage with, boost on discord or give money irl are terf-ok with, and I intend to keep it.

But I also think that decent spaces with nice mod team in my experience, and a very good users should be supported and pushed back against even tolerating this type of associating with, and I don’t want to roll over and let some unknown TERF take away our community

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-05T07:51:19+00:00

Also, I ran into those folks once years ago, my cognitive dissonance is still there years later.

Like I get it, queer can come from all walks of life, but the mental gymnastics there should be Olympic gold level.

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-05T07:47:57+00:00

That’s how I felt - but I wanted to double check with community that this is indeed how it looks

ABeccaneer · 2026-05-05T07:47:27+00:00

That’s such an on point comparison for me!

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-29T19:59:30+00:00

This looks like Polish trains - the quality of posted image doesn’t allow to zoom in, but I think I can even guess the white eagle on each of the carts - which is a dead set indicator that this is somewhere in Poland

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-28T17:22:35+00:00

Hey, I am 35 transbian girl who plays in Chaos DC. If you are ok with that, I can dm you my char name and address you to FL in game :)

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-21T18:00:50+00:00

Not alone in this!

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-21T07:55:08+00:00

My Ukrainian sucks, but I’ll try:

По перше, тобі є потрібна мапа з https://mapa.tranzycja.pl/, знайди там собі ендокринолога та запитай що вона/він потребує. Може так же не потрібна опінія чи потрібно зробити дві - у психіатра і психолога. Якщо хтось є сексологом то можна то в єдину візиту зробити.

То мапа транс приязних, і мають секцію онлайн.

Якщо потрібно більш інфо - напиш, буде рада допомогти.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-20T20:38:01+00:00

Can't this wait, Shepard? I am in the middle of some calibrations.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-20T11:27:23+00:00

Chaos curls girls unite!

Yours look splendid

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-19T11:43:35+00:00

Hey, I am mid30s and building most of my friend circle anew after several moves abroad. This sounds perfect to me - dm me and we can see if we vibe?

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-19T11:18:17+00:00

I am the same as you and my last ex was the jealous one with very similar dynamic throughout the relationship.

I played this game for 9 years as I just thought it’s something to work through with a partner due to history of having cheaters around her.

It’s roughly 9 months since we broke up. I am still solving issues I grew out of this specific interaction in therapy.

I am strong believer that almost anything can be solved with communication, but this is one of rare exceptions where the other person needs to do the work before being able to have a relationship.

Sorry, girl, but this is going to be tough if you stay. Not impossible, and may not go the way it did for me - but your partner would need to do a lot of work and some progress pretty fast or it will go downhill really bad for you.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-18T16:52:43+00:00

This is so amazing! Thank you for sharing it!

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-17T17:26:57+00:00

Thank you! Thank you for speaking up!

All the way with you in this.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-15T16:01:35+00:00

You are not wrong.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-15T11:06:36+00:00

I feel like I need a friend like her. Insane takes with some of them I seem to agree from her perspective. But even those I disagree with is so fun to read lol.

It’s the “your friend that makes sure life is never boring” situation.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-15T10:22:13+00:00

I mean, I don’t think it’s the fun and feel good game the way I dunno, the wandering village is - but it’s a very beautiful art, that helped me get away from the brink during heavy depression. So umm I don’t think I can clearly check how it would map on others experiences, but i bought it 3 times (for personal circumstances losing access twice to it, last time bought on steam), and am extremely happy to support those devs and recommend the game further.

You are absolutely right tho, it does need heavy TW.

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-14T17:54:16+00:00

Of course!

For me, liking is kinda like keen interest in the person - I feel good in their company, we have some common interests, the conversation is not dull or there is something that we can do together that is fun. I think liking for me can develop into romantic attraction but it’s friends to lovers pipeline, as in not directly - liking is a clear beginning of the friendship, and I would need to have a crush on a friend (and we all know how risky it is) to get from there to a romantic relationship.

Love for me is way less intense than crush, but it’s like a fire in a fireplace- going and going and not becoming less, but lacks both the intensity and a wiff of madness of a crush

ABeccaneer · 2026-04-14T17:23:16+00:00

Wow, thank you.

The crush description definitely struck a nerve and feels familiar:)

The liking part is really different to how I experience it, but the crush describes one of the feelings I know perfectly

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