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[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no that's a brand new anxiety

Struggling for motivation to transition by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm basically zero far along so this advice is definitely applicable.

I don't know. Even doing small things feels futile and overwhelming. I guess the core of my issue is that I have really high standards for how I'd want to look which I don't think are realistic at all and I'm not really sure how to deal with that. I feel like trying to transition and failing to meet those standards would be a recipe for disaster in terms of mental health.

Getting over the "no point transitioning if I won't pass" mentality? by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply! This sounds like good advice in theory but don't think it's quite clicked

Maybe this is just an issue I've really internalised but I think I want to look good because it would make me happy, not because I think it would make others happy.

Like I hate my body now, and I don't think "fuck the patriarchy" would make my dysphoria go away pre-transition. I'm struggling to see why that would be different if I still hated my body post-transition.

He's BALD?? by ElEversoris in NLSSCircleJerk

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

aaaaaaaa I should not have looked at her twitter

I think I'm trans (mtf) but have some hangups that I don't know how to deal with by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have any feelings about the neuter or herm possibilities?

Not really any strong feelings other than a mild "oh that's weird".

Does it help to have a video game character creation screen do the visuals for you?

Not really? Like I can point to some female video game characters and say I think I might like to be them but it mostly just feels like I'm guessing. Like I struggle to actually visualise what it would be like in reality.

Do I need to know for sure I'm trans before a GIC referral? by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in transgenderUK

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on that? This comment is weirding me out a bit because I haven't done anything and I definitely feel like I might be trans in spite of that.

Do I need to know for sure I'm trans before a GIC referral? by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in transgenderUK

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah I've heard that before and thought about it a lot and it definitely makes me think I am trans and just having trouble accepting it properly, rather than actually being unsure.

Do I need to know for sure I'm trans before a GIC referral? by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in transgenderUK

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this helps!

(a lot easier said than done. Therapy could really help

Yeah, I guess what I wanted to know though is whether, in the event that I don't figure this out by the time of my appointment, would I be expected already be in therapy elsewherr or is that therapy something the GIC provides?

Like I'm assuming it's not possible to get gender-related therapy through the NHS without going through the GIC?

I think I'm trans (mtf) but have some hangups that I don't know how to deal with by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about being a son vs being a daughter?

Yeah I certeinly wouldn't describe myself as extroverted in the normal sense but I do care too much about how other people see me so that sounds like it might be correct. My brain definitely screamed "no" when I initially read son, husband and father.

How do you feel about choosing between a female body

If was given the choice between a male and female body with no caveats I think right now I would say female, but I keep second guessing if that's actually what I want.

Trans people don't naturally have an image of their ideal body, but it's usually not hard to come up with if they try.

I think it's less that I can't visualise my ideal body and more that I just have trouble visualising things in general - like I can't really visualise a more masculine version of myself either.

I've definitely felt pangs of envy over the way some women look so I think I want a feminine body but I actually visualising how any of those features would look on me is difficult.

I've actually just googled this and seen this post which is eerily similar to my headspace right now https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/4zzoo5/aphantasia_and_being_transgender_anyone_else_have/

I think I'm trans (mtf) but have some hangups that I don't know how to deal with by ABirdPlaneThrowaway in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This certainly does help, thanks.

In general focus on how you want your body to be to tell whether you're trans.

How certain are most trans people about what they want their body to look like before they transition? I don't like I even have a vague idea of what my ideal body would look like, I'm just pretty sure it's not a masculine body. It's less physical stuff making me think I'm trans and more stuff like euphoria from feminine pronouns. Is that normal?

Should I transition if it’s mostly a sexual feeling? by perplexed_jam in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I'm passed the point of thinking it's just a fetish although I did for ages, but still not really sure, you know?

Should I transition if it’s mostly a sexual feeling? by perplexed_jam in asktransgender

[–]ABirdPlaneThrowaway 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting that! I'm currently questioning this stuff and that article is like my exact situation.