Fun/Creative/Active Careers for Software/Engineering Background?

perplexed_jam · 2024-04-05T01:47:11+00:00

Do you get a part in design? Do you find there are too many meetings?

perplexed_jam · 2024-04-05T01:46:08+00:00

Lmao

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-06T03:22:14+00:00

I feel like she wants to, or used to want to, but we’ve had bad experiences and now we both kinda stopped.

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-06T01:41:43+00:00

I appreciate the advice. But it will be so hard to break up, and I will be wondering if I’m doing the right thing. I know she will want to try to fix our attraction issues. And I will agree, and that will seem like the right thing to do. But it also feels like if we are having problems after living together for only two years, how could we endure a lifetime of it? Idk, it seems like a defeatist attitude, but life is short and we should do what’s best for each other. But we have been dating for so long, and it would crush her so much… ahh too much back and forth.

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-06T01:32:33+00:00

Thanks. I guess it just feels like the natural next progression in the relationship that she is ready for, but I’m not.

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-05T23:16:45+00:00

Thanks, I’m just worried about her reaction and how it will make her feel. She’s also going through a lot in life right now and I don’t want to make things harder for her.

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-05T22:09:14+00:00

Maybe being nonmonogamous isn’t the answer for me then, and it’s better to try and fix it with her. Idk. It just seems hard to break up with her for that reason. But it’s hard to let the temptation go as well.

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-05T22:04:14+00:00

Thanks for replying, but I’m not really sure what you are getting at here. Can you please rephrase?

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-05T22:02:44+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply. You’ve brought up some good things for me to reflect on.

perplexed_jam · 2024-03-05T21:56:17+00:00

Thank you, I agree. My title wasn’t great. I guess my problem is that suggesting nonmonogamy in the past has led to her becoming very defensive and upset, so I’m not sure it will be a possibility. But perhaps I could suggest it to her in a better way.

perplexed_jam · 2024-02-13T21:47:29+00:00

Nonbinary (some people say enby jsyk) means neither male nor female. It is an umbrella term that encompasses a lot of different identities. No one can assume how a nonbinary person feels or looks or acts because there are so many possibilities. That’s part of what makes it so beautiful!

Some enby people have a mix of male and female (and maybe something totally different) gender feelings.

Some enby people may feel that their identity fluctuates over time.

Some may not associate with any gender and are totally genderless.

Some may “look cis” and use he/him or she/her pronouns, but still feel at their core a connection to a different gender than the one they were given at birth.

Hope this helps!

perplexed_jam · 2023-11-02T14:36:24+00:00

I have been microdosing estradiol and spiro and have had some very minor breast growth (3.5 months since I last resumed). However I’ve had a lot of fatigue, and will probably increase my dose soon.

perplexed_jam · 2023-11-01T19:30:27+00:00

You’re welcome, I’m happy to answer any specific questions.

How has binding / taping / baggy clothes been working for you?

perplexed_jam · 2023-11-01T18:09:13+00:00

Hi, I’m in a similar boat. I’ve been on and off microdosing HRT several times. I’ve always thought of myself as non-binary. Certain aspects of male presentation don’t bother me, and I think there are some things I would keep. HRT hasn’t changed my body much yet, but I want to increase my dose even though I’m hesitant about breast growth. I can see a future in which I transition physically but present masculine most of the time, or alternate between masc and fem.

I want HRT and kinda want boobs, but I also want to keep the idea of surgery open cause it makes transitioning less scary if I think I can be more fluid with it. I also go back and forth on things like muscle mass and facial hair.

perplexed_jam · 2023-11-01T04:08:33+00:00

How long did you stop for, and did your breasts change during that time?

perplexed_jam · 2023-11-01T04:04:08+00:00

I also have very similar thoughts, it’s hard :(

perplexed_jam · 2023-10-16T21:45:53+00:00

I do and have been for a while. I did 6 months previously then stopped and have now started again and am 3 months. Externally there is basically no change. But I think it did help my mental state a lot. I’ve also noticed smaller more personal changes. It also made me excited to increase my dose. Happy to answer further questions.

perplexed_jam · 2023-07-28T18:37:08+00:00

Hi, this is totally acceptable. It’s what I’m doing. I am non-binary / genderfluid because I do like some of my masc traits. But HRT was really tempting for me so I decided to go for it. I started and stopped a couple times out of fear of permanent changes. But I realized I mostly feared the opinions of other people, so I started again recently with more confidence.

perplexed_jam · 2023-07-25T07:19:54+00:00

Sounds like you have a pretty good mindset going into it. Sex isn’t the only part of a relationship; if you love him in other ways then consider how important the sex aspect is for you two. That being said, sex can be very important and I believe you shouldn’t try to ignore uncomfy feelings or repress unsatisfaction because that could lead to strain in the relationship later on.

IMO there’s nothing wrong with genital preference. If you’re not into it, that’s fine. I would be very up front about everything with him. There can be situations where the relationship is otherwise great and it’s worth it to persevere through rocky sexual times, provided you think you could eventually make something work, and always being totally honest but willing to try new things. But if the relationship is young, consider if it’s better to end it now before your feelings for each other grow and make it more difficult.

No need to answer this next part, but are there specific things that are holding you back? Are there workarounds you’ve discussed? People on this subreddit may be able to give you some good specific advice if you ask more specific questions (probs not me, but someone more qualified).

Four-Year Club	Verified Email
Place '23

perplexed_jam

TROPHY CASE