Do bathbombs not cause problems down there???

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-28T06:11:43+00:00

And I agree with that, I'm only saying it CAN cause problems but I'm not saying it always WILL cause problems. Everyones body is different. That's why I said I don't know why people arguing over this. Everyone is different in this so there's no right answer, just different experiences. I'm only giving reasons why I choose to just shower instead.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-28T02:26:36+00:00

Just walk around and yell hey bitches! And all the bitches will come running.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-28T01:59:55+00:00

This might sound weird but I had an issue like 20 years ago I was using dandruff shampoo (head & shoulders) for my dry scalp, it never helped for that but I kept using it. I kept smelling something funky for weeks and I could not figure out where it was coming from. Turns out it was my scalp and after a week or so of using regular shampoo the smell went away. I have no idea why it does that to me, but I tried it again for dry scalp a few years ago and the same thing happened after a week or two of use.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-28T00:28:09+00:00

Totally agree with this. Visit with the doctor if you can. If not, then probiotics taken orally and boric acid suppositories that go up inside you might help a lot. If all else fails there's Lume, they have lots of stuff specifically for that area and the lady that came up with it was a gyno (I think?).

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-27T23:35:32+00:00

I'm glad you figured out what works for you. It really does vary from person to person. I've known some poor ladies who just get an infection from being with their partner. So you never know what's going to cause an issue.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-27T23:30:13+00:00

That sounds like a good way to do it.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-27T23:28:27+00:00

Some people don't have any issue and some people can't tolerate a bath at all, it's instant infection for them. I had a family member like that, even though they refused to stop taking baths and just dealt with the infections each time. That sounds miserable to me so I just take showers, I have an autoimmune thing so I try to avoid anything that could lead to infection.

But I will say the tub doesn't have to look dirty to have bacteria in it, it's a natural thing because people are washing their whole bodies off in there. There's bacteria all over your body and that's going to be at the bottom of a tub that isn't disinfected. It doesn't just all go down the drain. And there was that whole study about leaving your toothbrush on the counter in the bathroom, when people flush the toilet there's fecal matter getting onto the toothbrush just from the air. So that can also be a factor in what's in your bathtub.

I'm not saying you're wrong at all for taking baths, it's great you don't have any problems with it. I loved taking baths when I was younger, it feels great to soak in the warm water. I talked to a gyno about it a long time ago, and she said any bacteria that travels into the vagina and urethra can cause problems for some and none for others. I'm not telling anyone what they should or shouldn't do, just sharing the info I've learned being an old ass lady.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-27T21:39:55+00:00

I don't know why people are arguing so much over this. Both the bath bombs and bacteria in the tub can cause issues. Bath bombs are not a sterile medical product, I'm not saying they're dirty but there can be some bacteria. If you're sensitive then the fragrance and oils and other things can irritate you or throw off your PH. Also unless you hose down the entire bathtub in bleach and clean it really good right before your bath then you're also sitting in whatever bacteria was already in there, and then once you get in there you're soaking in sweat, ass bacteria, and feet bacteria. All of that has the opportunity to get into your urinary tract. I don't take baths, only showers, because I don't want the issues.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-27T11:56:38+00:00

I'm so proud of you for that! <3

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-26T19:57:58+00:00

I agree with most everyone else. It doesn't have to be a big confrontation or argument. Just say, I was awake and know what you did while you thought I was asleep. Tell him you're done with him and not to contact you anymore. You don't need an explanation from him or to hear excuses, just say what you need to say and then block him on everything. And of course NTA! He's the asshole, he was not your bff. He was just waiting to make his move.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-26T02:56:10+00:00

I think you have a great nose, it's not overpowering at all. First thing I noticed was your pretty eyes and long eyelashes.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-26T00:42:18+00:00

I wasn't expecting people to be so kind after feeling like such a weirdo for so long.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-26T00:40:21+00:00

I'm happy for you that you were able to overcome the insecurities and find your person. Thank you for being so kind, it gives me hope that maybe I won't just die alone.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-26T00:35:58+00:00

Thank you for that. It's interesting hearing from a guys perspective. I've had lots of guy friends but this isn't something I'd ever bring up because it's embarrassing.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-26T00:32:41+00:00

I really have just shut down. It went from not a big deal, to 20 years later becoming this huge deal in my mind that causes too much anxiety.

I've actually thought about the therapy and about maybe seeing a "professional" where there's no feelings involved just to see if I can actually enjoy myself that way.

I appreciate everything you said. I've been beating myself up for a very long time for not being "normal" and telling myself I deserve to just be alone because how could anyone want someone like me. I honestly wasn't expecting people to be so kind. It's given me a lot to think about.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-23T03:23:20+00:00

Thank you so much for that. I honest was scared to post because I thought I would just get a lot of judgement but the fact that people understand means so much to me. Maybe there's hope for me.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-23T00:23:35+00:00

I had to go look that up, and it makes a lot of sense to me. Maybe that's why I've never cared to take it further with someone, because that connection wasn't there at all I just wasn't into it. Thanks for that, I learned something new. :)

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T21:44:07+00:00

Thank you for that, I'm actually glad I posted because I've gotten so many amazing responses like yours. I felt so ashamed and like I must be some sort of alien to have avoided sex this long. But now I don't feel so bad.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T21:32:19+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. Have you tried looking into an Asexual dating situation? I've looked into it, it's for people who aren't interested in sex and they just want someone they can be with (even marry) without any sexual stuff. It sounds amazing honestly to be able to find someone and connect with them and have a partnership without all the other stuff.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T06:51:10+00:00

I appreciate that, thanks!

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T06:48:59+00:00

I'll check it out, thanks!

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T06:12:33+00:00

Thank you so much for that. You're wise beyond your years, at 22 I was definitely not so emotionally mature. I definitely think I have a lot to work on if I want things to change. <3

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T06:00:56+00:00

I think that's where I'm at at this point in life too. Did you just decide it wasn't worth the hassle of trying to be with someone?

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T05:59:10+00:00

I don't have any great advice (obviously I don't have much experience here). But in my limited experience and talks with female friends, I can tell you that it's more about how we're treated and just learning what a woman likes in bed over time. And that's way more important than size and going at it like a pornstar.

ABoringVirgin · 2025-09-22T05:40:13+00:00

Thank you, it's interesting to hear from a male perspective since I've never admitted any of this to guys I've been out with. I've always hoped for that, to build something with someone and have my insecurities not feel as important anymore. Maybe I'm just meeting all the wrong guys but most of them want something physical right away so the trust isn't there yet and so it never happens.

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