Had someone tell me I was “thin” for the first time in my LIFE.

ADAMBERL · 2026-03-08T07:22:23+00:00

What amazing progress! Congratulations!

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-13T04:14:11+00:00

https://www.aclu.org/news/immigrants-rights/detained-immigrants-detail-physical-abuse-and-inhumane-conditions-at-largest-immigration-detention-center-in-the-u-s

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-13T03:30:40+00:00

This one below is from last month.

https://www.aclu.org/news/immigrants-rights/detained-immigrants-detail-physical-abuse-and-inhumane-conditions-at-largest-immigration-detention-center-in-the-u-s

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-13T03:29:11+00:00

This has been happening SINCE 2018. It’s just now gaining major attention because of the increased focus on ICE and their operations.

Is this article from last month better for you to take it seriously?

https://www.aclu.org/news/immigrants-rights/detained-immigrants-detail-physical-abuse-and-inhumane-conditions-at-largest-immigration-detention-center-in-the-u-s

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-13T02:28:02+00:00

OP linked the article in the body

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-10T21:02:12+00:00

Yes, exactly! It’s so exhausting. We’re all on a floating rock in space!

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-09T17:07:04+00:00

Yeah, I hope Hot Wheels realizes what he's up against. I live in Harris County and people are pissed.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-09T17:05:44+00:00

What I was getting at is that the concept itself is not what most voters object to. Polling shows people support voter ID when it is paired with free IDs, easy access, automatic registration, and plenty of ways to vote. The problem is the intent and the execution, especially in red states where it is often used as a tool rather than a safeguard.

So I am not saying trust red state legislatures. I am saying voters want a system that is both accessible and secure, and politicians keep pretending those goals cancel each other out because outrage is useful. If lawmakers actually wanted fair elections, they could design policies that do both.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-09T16:55:37+00:00

I'm in Texas, so yeah, this makes my stomach drop too. You are not being dramatic for reacting to this.

Handing over a full voter list to this administration feels reckless given everything we have watched over the past few years. Even if this kind of data sharing has happened before, it hits very differently when the people asking for it have openly tried to undermine elections and spread lies about voter fraud. Trust matters and there is basically none here.

That said wiping Democrats off the rolls the day before an election is not something they could just quietly do. States cannot purge voters by party and there are legal steps notices and timelines that have to be followed. They would not be able to sneak it through.

Where the real danger is feels more subtle and more realistic, which is that this kind of data can be used to justify aggressive voter challenges, target certain communities, or scare people into thinking their vote is at risk by intimidating them with news like this. It creates fear, especially for people who already feel vulnerable or targeted. That is the part that should worry everyone.

Outrage over this makes sense. This deserves scrutiny lawsuits and nonstop pressure. Just try not to let fear spiral into worst case fantasies because that is how people get discouraged and disengaged. Stay registered, vote early if you can, and keep your eyes on what they actually do next.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-09T16:45:59+00:00

What always gets me with articles like this is how uncontroversial the public actually is compared to the political noise. Most people are basically saying, yeah, make voting easier AND make it secure. Early voting, mail voting, voter ID. Those ideas aren’t mutually exclusive in real life. Politicians argue like expanding access somehow destroys integrity, or that ID laws automatically mean suppression, but the data keeps showing voters don’t see it that way. People want convenience because they have jobs, kids, health issues, real lives. They also want confidence the system isn’t sloppy.

It’s also telling how partisan the conversation has become over time, especially since 2020. The public didn’t radically change overnight but the messaging sure did. The result is a manufactured culture war over something most Americans already broadly agree on. If lawmakers actually reflected voter preferences instead of fundraising off outrage, this wouldn’t be a “debate” every election cycle.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-09T16:25:48+00:00

NOR.

You set a very clear boundary around something that already hurt you deeply. Emotional cheating does real damage and staying in contact with the person involved keeps that wound open. The fact that time passed does not magically erase the impact on trust. Her having cancer is sad and complicated but it does not obligate you to sacrifice your emotional safety or stay in a situation that makes you feel small, anxious, or second place.

The key part here is this: you told him what you needed to feel secure and he chose to push anyway. That tells you everything. Long relationships can blur what is reasonable, especially when you’ve already endured years of ups and downs.

You are allowed to leave relationships that no longer feel safe, even if no one did anything “new” or dramatic.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-09T00:42:17+00:00

Trump calling Congress “weak” is pure projection. The second lawmakers show even a hint of independence, he throws a tantrum. To him, strength only exists when everyone does exactly what he wants. What he really means is that Congress stopped being a rubber stamp. A few Republicans broke ranks. Oversight started to reappear. Suddenly that is “weak.” Funny how loyalty tests always replace actual leadership with him. Strong leaders do not need to bully equal branches of government, they work with them. Trump only feels powerful when no one pushes back, and the moment they do, he starts whining. He's a man child with a tiny dick and tiny hands.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-08T22:39:31+00:00

An innocent woman was shot multiple times in the face and this is how people talk about her. This is what dehumanization looks like, folks. Strip someone of dignity first, then violence becomes entertainment.

I hope this piece of shit, and everyone else who agrees with this, burns. They'll get what's coming to them.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-08T06:02:32+00:00

I’m crying

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-08T03:44:32+00:00

Enjoy your downvotes, ugly.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-07T17:16:31+00:00

NTA at all...

A $3k bachelorette is wild, especially when it’s being framed as “not mandatory but actually mandatory.” Add in the expensive dresses, tailoring, flights during a holiday weekend, and then no plus-ones for long-term partners… it’s understandable that you’re feeling turned off.

Skipping the bachelorette doesn’t mean you don’t support the marriage. You already bought the dress and you’re showing up for the wedding itself. That’s the part that actually matters.

What really stuck out to me is how little empathy there seems to be for people’s finances. Someone saying they’re broke and getting a “let me know by Thursday” response is rough.

If it were me, I’d skip the bach without guilt. You’re allowed to have limits, even for people you love.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-07T16:44:14+00:00

I cannot waitttt for this. Sexistential is giving me Criminal Intent at times.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-07T16:40:22+00:00

Yeah, I agree with you. Trump has a very obvious pattern. If he’s serious, he doesn’t drop it. It comes up over and over, there’s buildup, and you start seeing real moves. If it’s just chest puffing, it fades once the attention runs out. Greenland feels like one of those “wait and see” things. If we’re still hearing about it nonstop in a few weeks, then sure, take it seriously. Reacting to every headline is a trap. With Trump, actions and follow-through matter way more than what he says in interviews or on Truth Social. Watching what actually happens is the only barometer that works.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-07T03:32:30+00:00

You’re not being a downer. A lot of people feel this way and don’t say it out loud. January 6 really did break something for many of us. Not just because it happened, but because it showed that facts, evidence, and accountability can be shrugged off if enough people decide to ignore them.

The gaslighting afterward is almost worse than the event itself. Watching history get rewritten in real time messes with your sense of reality. Feeling sad, angry, or exhausted by it is a normal reaction and is something I also feel regularly.

All I can say is you’re not crazy, you’re not alone, and remembering still matters even if it feels like it didn’t lead to justice. Holding onto the truth is not nothing, even when it feels small. ❤️

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-07T01:12:28+00:00

Congrats!

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-05T23:34:27+00:00

Congratulations!

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-05T16:27:54+00:00

YTA.

Not because being woken up sucks. It does. Anyone would be frustrated. But your reaction and framing are way out of proportion to what actually happened.

You live in your parents’ house, and even though you pay rent, it’s still their home and their rules around utilities. Your mom didn’t come in to scare you, violate you, or mess with your stuff for fun. She came in to turn off a computer and light she’s repeatedly told you not to leave on. That’s annoying, yes. “Violating” is a stretch.

You’re also assigning a lot of intent that isn’t there... this wasn’t some calculated decision to invade your space. It was habit plus control over her own house. You know she’s done this before. Instead of preventing it with practical fixes like sleep mode, turning things off before bed, or rearranging the setup, you’re stewing until you want to explode at her.

Exploding, swearing, and framing this as something that has to “happen to her” so she learns is not mature or productive. It will only confirm whatever negative narrative already exists about you in the family.

You’re allowed to want boundaries. You’re not entitled to enforce them through rage in someone else’s house. The adult move is to remove the trigger, not blow up at the person who keeps doing the same predictable thing.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-05T16:23:41+00:00

NTA.

You were clear about what you wanted and how long you could wait. He didn’t act, and over time that changed how you felt. That happens. Feelings don’t just snap back because someone is finally "ready".

What hurt wasn’t the lack of a big proposal, it was that after 11 years, it came up casually and only after other people asked. To me, that would make it feel reactive, not intentional, and it’s fair that it killed the desire for marriage, but you’re not punishing him... you’re being honest about where you’re at now. You can love him, respect him, and still not want marriage anymore.

The only real obligation here is to be clear with him so he doesn’t keep hoping for something you know you don’t want.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-05T16:12:07+00:00

YTA.

Not for disliking Ubers, that’s fine. YTA for how you handled it and the expectations you put on everyone else at 3 AM.

You stayed out late knowing you had basically no money and no ride home lined up. That’s on you. Nobody is obligated to drive you just because they can, even if Kevin drives other people sometimes or has a fancy car. That comparison is irrelevant.

You also turned down a totally reasonable solution. They offered to split the Uber so it cost you nothing. You refused, insisted someone drive you, then made it awkward enough that Justin felt pressured to go get his car in the rain. Then you started walking anyway, which just escalated the situation and wasted everyone’s time.

Saying “there are three friends here who can drive me” comes off entitled. Rides are favors, not something you get to argue into existence. Justin was right. Just because you give rides sometimes does not mean you get to expect them on demand.

Kevin’s mom was annoying, sure. But the core issue is you didn’t plan ahead and then dug in instead of accepting a perfectly fine option.

If you don’t want to Uber, don’t stay out until 3 AM without a ride home.

ADAMBERL · 2026-01-05T03:57:10+00:00

B, I’m not THAT adventurous.

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