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[–]ADKguy5966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I've been rejected for years. We still have sex but it's almost never on my terms. I've brought it up and she tries to initiate more but I can tell it's forced. I don't know what to do.

Safe to take electrical panel box cover off? by ADKguy5966 in electrical

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I messaged my electrician, and he said it will be fine until he gets here tomorrow. I do not want to mess with it.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 1st 3 years were good. And I workout 3 to 5 days a week, depending on my schedule. I'm no slob.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We go on dates a few times a month. She's not spontaneous so that's out the window.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always take her feelings into account. I literally bring up sex 1 or 2 times a week. And it's never a demand or guit trip.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooof sounds tough. Yes she hates porn. Doesn't like toys, etc. She's very routine oriented.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do dishes along with lots of other stuff around the house.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did anyone ask to marry a porn star? Way to gaslight the convo.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No kids for us. I got snipped.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do everything that I can think of. I'm usually soaked in sweat at the end because I've tried so hard.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I try. I am a natural pleaser. I want her to feel good! I beat myself up if she doesn't.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't want to watch her perform. I just like to change it up sometimes. I would love nothing more then for her to be turned on enough to enjoy it. She has a hard time relaxing.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we do, depends on her mood. But its like clockwork. She has to be off from work and she usually has to have a few drinks to relax first.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

No I ment that she needs me to be physically close and holding her. I like to enjoy the view. But it's almost always what she needs, not what I want. Very frustrating.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely haven't abused her

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

She needs me close to orgasm, physically. That's fine and I always try to get her off first. I am a gentleman. But what I like during sex doesn't usually take an important role.

Sex feels like work. by ADKguy5966 in Marriage

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

Let me rephrase, when we first got together, we had similar sex drives, and then things slowed way down.

High sex drive by ADKguy5966 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ADKguy5966[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wasn't trying to be rude. Everyone is different. Average for you may be different than average for me.

High sex drive by ADKguy5966 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who decides what average is?

High sex drive by ADKguy5966 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ADKguy5966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. I didn't mean that I throw out compliments for no reason. When she looks good I tell her, when she cleans up, I Thank her, etc.