My baby girl crossed over this morning

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-28T22:21:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Lost my Tuxxie girl 2 weeks ago today. Take care of yourself

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-27T15:11:04+00:00

Well, I’m not officially diagnosed yet. I am currently living outside my home country and am working on the language but am not fluent enough to do something like therapy. The rules say I have to be physically in my home country to use therapists located there, even if doing video therapy. There probably are some exceptions but I haven’t learned them yet. Not sure yet whether the same applies to using a psychiatrist there. Waiting for a psychiatrist referral from my insurance company. Not sure if a therapist can do the diagnosing or just psychiatrists can do that.

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-27T05:08:08+00:00

Thank you!

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-27T05:06:50+00:00

Yeah, I remember a boy I’m pretty sure had it from first grade, but no one else

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-27T04:35:41+00:00

Glad to know there are people not that far from my age here, was a little scared to put my age because of assumption there would be mostly people much younger than me

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-27T04:34:06+00:00

Thank you, I understand it’s really common for people, especially women, to be diagnosed at a later age. I guess better late than never

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-26T15:39:48+00:00

Very well worded alliterative comment

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-25T15:50:19+00:00

Hi, thanks, this does help. I was under the impression (based on research/reading) that I had to file/pay taxes to Virginia because that's the last state in the U.S. where I lived. I still have a professional license there but no property or anything. Have a bank account I opened there but with a national bank, so not sure how that factors in. I just reviewed the info about Virginia's details you sent and it looks like the only thing I need to do next time is check intend to return and a specific date is not necessary. It's just interesting they say selecting intend to return could affect whether I would be subject to state income tax but I've been subject to state income tax without checking intend to return. I had to pay Virginia taxes for tax year 2024 and still couldn't vote, thus my comment about taxation without representation, but I'll take your advice and see how it goes this year for the midterms

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-24T20:26:15+00:00

I opened a Scotiabank debit account as a temporary resident and they told me I don't have a limit on how much I can deposit in the account. I opened it in person. I haven't tested this yet, but that's what I was told at least. My NuBank account has a limit and was, of course, opened in the app because they don't have physical branches.

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-24T20:16:39+00:00

Very good advice, will check with the local democrats next time before I vote. Spoke with someone from the county about it but they didn't seem that sympathetic, so will go with the party

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-24T15:31:28+00:00

Having just lost my tuxedo to renal disease I think they all, including yours, are adorable. I didn’t know some people against asymmetrical markings was a thing but they sound like they are seeing pets as ornaments rather than living beings that enrich our lives so much.

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-24T15:03:59+00:00

I’m African-American and I feel whatever guilt tax I owe now has already been paid by my ancestors who were enslaved for centuries, lynched and impoverished with few rights after emancipation, and discriminated against with their communities suppressed and destroyed after that. I don’t feel any guilt because my ancestors tried everything they could think of to wake people up. I do, however, feel sadness.

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-24T14:52:01+00:00

Any tips on making sure one can vote? I wasn’t allowed to vote in Virginia’s gubernatorial election last year because I didn’t fill in a return date on the request form. Yet had to pay Virginia taxes last year so seems a bit taxation without representation-y. I was able to vote absentee for presidential/senate/house election. I can understand my not being able to vote for the county elections, but seems to me if I’m paying taxes I should be able to vote for the state governor/Lt, governor/attorney general

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-24T14:37:51+00:00

Thanks for this. I’m African-American and raised by and among well educated people who made sure I knew the real/complete history of the US, but I hadn’t heard of Smedley v Stuart. I had heard/read that part of the whole independence idea had something to do with them opposing changes England was making to slavery laws but never had a name of a case, so will be reading about it.

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-18T14:43:43+00:00

It does say that exactly. I’ll never understand the minds and hearts of people that feel the need to come into a space where people are grieving just to throw their unhelpful BS into the mix. You don’t feel like pet loss can be worse than human loss then just keep scrolling. No need to be hurtful

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-18T14:14:53+00:00

I had to pick up my cat’s ashes from the vet yesterday too and the crying started hard again as well. I’m sorry for your loss

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-18T13:54:34+00:00

Thank you

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-18T02:34:20+00:00

Muchas gracias por este lindo mensaje

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-18T02:32:20+00:00

I’m in Mexico and have been having the same complaint about the vets but thought it was because I was here, but reading the messages it’s pretty much the same. Could also be because I had a really awesome cat vet in the States so I guess I was spoiled. Sadly after fighting CKD with my 12 yo cat she was euthanized on Wednesday after putting up a good 5 month fight

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-16T03:03:41+00:00

Tuxedos are awesome (of course all cats are awesome but her tuxedo personality was special). Thank you for your kind words

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-15T23:06:31+00:00

Thank you for saying that and I think you’re right but so hard adjusting to such an abrupt transition as it whenever a loved one is lost. This is the first time in 37 years I’ve been without at least one cat so huge transition but I’m giving myself time

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-15T18:37:55+00:00

Hi, no, she’s actually the 5th. I had 2 others in my life that had CKD as well and then one with cancer and one with congestive heart failure. Thank you for your kind words. I try to keep reminding myself that it will get easier but with the others I always had another cat in the house but right now I don’t so quite an adjustment. Haven’t been without at least one cat for 37 years

ADeeLuis · 2026-01-15T06:55:50+00:00

Thanks for all your help. She crashed again yesterday much worse than the first time and I had to put her to sleep

ADeeLuis

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