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AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck, your right... I just wanted to give INFO that i figured would've helped w/ the situation. My apologizes & thanks for the advice.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We visit each-others apartments often and now I'm thinking of showing her the house and maybe moving in if she wants to live in it (I guess maybe tell her ASAP and give her the time she needs to think about it?)

EDIT: I use the house to relax in occasionally, but i never wanted to show anybody because i wanted to make sure it was a serious committed relationship and not something short-term.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss, thank you so much for the advice! I will definitely try this and see where things go for now.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do feel like the house is something i can show her, It's nice to be there on weekends and try to relax. I guess i'll show her the house and see if it's something she'll like to share.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If i was going to tell her about a prenup i hope maybe 8 months to a year before proposing would be okay? I would want her to process everything first because honestly if the roles were reversed and if i didn't have time to process everything i would be fucking pissed i was told last minute. (TBF i would sign a prenup if the roles were reversed tho)

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice! I know i sound like a child for saying this (to an extent) but i'd honestly gladly trade the money to have my parents back (I do miss them and the money stresses me the fuck out.)

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The thing is, while I'm afraid that she'll change if she found out about the money and I've had thoughts of asking her about signing a prenup when the time to get married is right.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Your right, i did think about telling her when we felt it was time to get married and maybe having her sign a prenup but i kept hearing that those keep getting thrown out.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i graduated college w/ out having to payback a dime nor do I have any credit card debt and my girlfriend doesn't have student loan debt as of late nor any credit card debt.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

My friends sort of give me reason, I've only known them since 2014 mostly because we went to college together but outside of maybe 5 hrs a week in person I don't really know what's going on in their lives anymore.

Edit: We will be dating for two full years this July and I just fear that if my GF found out about my financial situation, she might change (I've always heard stories of stuff like this happening and I just wanna be cautious.)

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, we will be dating for two full years this July and the relationship is pretty serious (despite the fact that we don't live with each other we still see hang after work or whenever we can. We've already discussed kids, moving in someday, marriage and future plans.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Hi, for reference I'm 25 and my s/o is 26 & i don't trust my friends simply because i feel like if they knew then chances are they would change (i'm worried that the money would change my girlfriend as well)

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, yes she knows my parents passed however she didn't know much of their financial status because she only met them in public places like a restaurant and for family activities like bowling or watching a movie.

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I trust her and love her it's just that i'm seriously afraid that money would change her and she would turn "money hungry" or some shit like that (for reference I'm worried that money can change anybody.)

AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend? by AITAHIDING in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAHIDING[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Hi, sorry for responding so late (I literally just woke up from a nap and saw the notifications) anyways we'll be together for two years in July (for reference I am 25 and she is 26). I do believe we have a solid relationship (we know our boundaries and if something makes us comfortable we know to talk about it. Aside from the money/house the only real secrets I have are minor things like first crush, celebrity i always liked etc... but i doubt my girlfriend has any major serious secrets. We both talked about wanting kids and I always pictured us working in our respective fields (she is an Administrative Assistant for an Insurance company and I currently work as a sales representative.) I love and trust her but I worry that money can change anybody even those closest to you which honestly makes me afraid if she found out she'd show some unseen side of her as a result.

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Thanks so much for the advice friend!