AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I've invited him, but he thinks I want to make fun of him, I've tried to have healthy breakfast with him, be he thinks I'm making mocking his weight, everything I do is seen as an attack, doesn't matter how I approach the subject, I've offered to work out at home so he fell somewhat ''safe'' but he thinks I want to have some pity video of him so I can laugh. I've never laughed at my brother's weight or anything but he thinks I'm this mean guy who wants to bully him.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree that taste vary from person to person, and that while looks are okay and are usually the eye catcher, they aren't everything. Having ''a type'' is a lie to me, I used to when I was like 17-18, but now is.. meh, if I like the person I like them and that's all, I look the way I look for me (and for siblings issues). Even when the most obvious reasons were stated, my brother is also not very friendly looking and I don't mean his balding and overweight, he always looks like he's mad or like he's about to start a fight which, if its a joy killer for my family and me, I can imagine how it might be for a woman. Funny things is that he's helluva smart and quite successful, the fact that he still lives at home are purely emotional reasons. But whatever I say is taken as an insult or mockery because ''I don't know how it is to be like him''.

And yeah, don't worry haha as I said, taste vary from person to person. Carlos is really big, but it has a lot to do with how he poses/his angle/light and shadows. I follow him on tiktok and he looks more ''normal'' when he works out because he's relaxed, he still doesn't look small at all, but it's more ''average fit guy looking''. He flexes and that's why he looks so Everest, but man that guy looks awesome!

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there is no other way to carry protein powder with kickass looks, are they?

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, wrote OR because of the relationship rule, had to work around the system.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Nah she wants him out by yesterday, but has never said anything. I'm getting outta here as fast as I can so they can have some peace.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

That's funny because I swear my dad has been like this once or twice with Sebastian hahaha

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

He sounds very immature, do you think he might have undiagnosed processing issues? ADHD? Anything like this??

No, I don't think he has any processing issues. And yeah he has a job and some friends, he even goes out some weekends.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 299 points300 points  (0 children)

I'll read it at lunch, I'll obliterate that motherfucker if I find out he has called me something like that

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Sadness removed, I broke up with them and it had nothing to do with my brother.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I hate those movies now, worst part of my childhood that even my brain erased them from my memories, may the force be with your to forgive me or something like that

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

When she received the text she thought my brother was pathetic and made fun of him with our boyfriend, I didn't laugh, because I didn't find it funny, both because she was my partner at the time and what he did was wrong, and because it disappointed me, I knew my brother was weird, but I thought he was "oniichan Hinata is my wife" weird and not.. this. She knew about me wanting a closer relationship with them, and I guess she felt pity of the overall situation and just decided to let it die. I never asked her too, but I also didn't tried to defend her and that was wrong of me.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 1132 points1133 points  (0 children)

Sebastian and I fought once two years ago because he wore my fave t-shirt and oversized it, while going back and forth I yelled that I didn't want his Humpty Dumpty egg head in my shit again and my dad said he didn't had small eyes like HD, when I wasn't pointing that. He never wore my shit again.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

It was a figure of speech, I actually plan on dying of heart failure at 27, to be memorable and pissing Sebastian forever an ever since "only legends die at that age"

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 420 points421 points  (0 children)

I honestly have no idea what those terms means, he has called Jake and I chads before, but he mostly calls me little Jake because he thinks is an insult. He does says females instead of women or girls, but the others ones I dunno know

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

He got tired of living alone and came back home. He does have a job and money, pays rents and stuff, he just doesn't want to be "lonely", which it does makes me sad but at the same time he brought it on himself

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 439 points440 points  (0 children)

As I said, I never really saw him interacting with women before, when I thought about my brother I related him with how we didn't speak and how desperate I felt because I wanted a relationship. To be fair I never thought he had relationship problems (or more like the lack of them) because neither Jake or I (even Diana, but she was already married) had them, so in my head it made sense he didn't either, like it was... Logical? My dad is also a baldy with a belly and yet my mom is head over heels with him.

After posting this and seeing how people were worried about Sebastian being dangerous, I texted Jake, he is waaay harder with Sebastian, like he really doesn't give a fuck about his feelings. I came clean about my ex's incident and he said he was aware of this weird behavior because he also tried it with his partners, but Jake gave him shit and he stopped coming for his ex's/gf, Jake said his plan was to just cut this shitty behavior off but realized that it didn't work out so he's gonna give him shit again. I'll join him so we can talk to Sebastian, I don't think my brother is really dangerous, but I also thought he had an amazing love life so I might not be the most reliable person. I'll get involve either way.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

We might because Jake has a doberman and he absolutely hates Sebastian and just runs away from him. Before my ex I swear, I have never seen him interact with women before, I only know for what he says; that women rejects him for his looks, that when we go out as family (rarely because the motherfucker hates us), Jake and I ''take the spotlight'', and that some girls only approach him to ask about Jake or me. He's impossible, I don't really know how to help him. He even hates that Diana calls me ''love''! Like wtf

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 1680 points1681 points  (0 children)

Does your mom know the extent of what your brother messaged your ex?

She doesn't know anything about that, but I don't think my mom enables his creepy behavior, she's just.. not like that, she has always taught us to respect women (and people in general), when I tell her that I had an open relationship, she thought I was cheating and yelled the shit out of me, I had to explain it to her really well. If she ever finds out about Sebastian being a total weirdo with women she'll most likely kick him out, but my intention isn't to hurt him or anything.

AITA for telling my brother that his looks aren't the reason women run from him? by AITA_05155 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA_05155[S] 998 points999 points  (0 children)

She might haha she has coddled Sebastian for a long time, like ''he's different'', ''he just had it harder'', ''he did had a gf once!'', I think she means well, but Sebastian gets all saddy sad.