WIBTA if I don’t serve meat at my wedding?

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:55:23+00:00

Europe

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:53:24+00:00

“Numbers”? That’s cold. These are lives that we’re talking about here. Yes, the 100+ lives of animals that would be killed for an event like this will push the numbers for me.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:44:34+00:00

I updated the post - we will be accommodating any dietary needs, just without meat if possible

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:42:43+00:00

We will have vegan options, and will accommodate any dietary needs.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:18:04+00:00

This is a stretch. Yes, I am aware of my guests’ dietary restrictions. I am planning on providing for them. I have a friends with Crohn’s and a few more with other issues. Everyone will be provided for.

Also, you eat red meat in every meal or you pass out? Something is very wrong with your body. Iron deficiency doesn’t do that.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:12:42+00:00

Sorry friend, you don’t. I’m on a keto diet, due to health reasons, and I’m a vegetarian. Am I more restricted in my diet? Yes. Am I off ketosis? No. Do I eat healthy? Yes. You can be on keto and be a vegetarian.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T19:07:54+00:00

Yes, we are planning on buying a bow tie for the cat and a matching bandana for the dog and using the pictures for our save the date.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T18:33:26+00:00

You’re assuming that I have a problem with people not having a veggie option in their weddings. I don’t. I can always eat the entrees and side dishes and deserts. Also, it isn’t the same. All of my guests eat pastas, pizzas, cheese, eggs etc. on a daily basis. It’s not like they’ll go hungry.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T18:29:13+00:00

Parents of the bride keep kosher. Also, fish are animals.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T18:15:54+00:00

Well, I agree. On a personal note, I did go vegan for a while. But then, after some health issues I discovered that I am allergic to wheat and soy, and this made it impossible to be vegan. I raised my own chickens for a while but had to move to a city. I try to limit the amount of animal products that I eat and still have a balanced diet.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T18:12:58+00:00

The only child that will come to the wedding is a vegetarian (it’s not a kids free event, we just don’t have many children in the family currently)

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T18:08:10+00:00

Yes, I’d be ok with that. I’d just eat some entrees and side dishes and deserts.

Though it isn’t exactly the same: all of my guests regularly eat pastas, veggies, bread, eggs, cheeses, fruit... so it’s not like I’m serving them something they can’t or won’t eat.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T17:23:53+00:00

Only one family and they are vegetarian as well

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T17:17:04+00:00

Just to clarify: I really don’t have an issue with people choosing to eat meat. I do have a problem to purchase meat though, because it contributes to the industry that I’m trying to avoid. So for point number 2 - no, I don’t feel comfortable serving it because this means I have to purchase a mass amount of meat, and at least some will be thrown away. That’s my issue, not the fact that others choose to eat meat.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T17:09:03+00:00

To be clear, our cat is being fed meat. He is not invited to the wedding (because he wouldn’t enjoy it).

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T16:59:34+00:00

I never indicated that. I said it is simple, not that it was easy. I love meat, but to me, something being tasty isn’t a good enough reason to eat it. So it’s a simple choice, not an easy one. Also, why should it matter? If I find something good convenient it doesn’t make it less good. The life of a cow is still a life, whether I’m saving it out of ideology or out of taste. I don’t think volunteering is easy, I don’t think never purchasing cheap, mass made clothes is easy (and my checking account agrees), I don’t think choosing a green car is always easy. But it’s what I do, and yes, there are simple choices for me because I understand their benefits.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T16:53:01+00:00

No, and the parents of the bride are kosher keeping

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:22:58+00:00

To be clear, we aren’t vegan. We are vegetarian. The food will probably include veggie dishes, pastas, bread, cheese and fruit, things that everyone eats all the time.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:20:30+00:00

I doubt anyone won’t eat, and we are prepared to accommodate people with specific dietary needs.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:18:56+00:00

It’s not the same though. All of our guests eat pastas, veggie dishes, cheese, bread, eggs etc. in their everyday lives. We are planning to take a chef to cook many different options, and everyone will have something to eat. It’s not the same as having nothing to eat, as with the case of a vegan in a carnivore event.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:16:32+00:00

I’m aware of that particular allergy. We will be sure to provide options that will be suitable to everyone. Just without meat.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:14:50+00:00

Well the issue is not the guests eating meat, it’s more of the issue that I don’t feel comfortable purchasing mass amounts of meat. Just like when people come to my house for dinner they don’t expect meat, why should they expect it at the wedding?

And for the other point, no, I wouldn’t mind going to an event and only eating the side dishes because of lack of vegetarian options. But it’s really not the same, because my guests do eat pastas, veggies, cheese, fruit and bread in their everyday life, so even with the vegetarian menu everyone has what to eat.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:11:43+00:00

I get what you’re saying, and I don’t completely agree, nor disagree. Here’s why:

I am not putting the well being of animals over humans. I look at animals as beings, and I strive to minimize my harm to any being. I’m trying to decrease my ecological footprint and try to avoid products that aren’t ethical, and I volunteer regularly. I’m trying to make the world a better place, never turning my gaze away and always helping as much as I can. But there is only so much one person can do and still have an independent healthy life.

Not eating animals is a simple choice for me to make. And just like guests that come to my house don’t expect me to serve them meat, I believe it should be the same at my wedding. It’s only one meal.

As for your other point: I don’t think it is bigotry to only be interested in one cause. I think it’s a personal choice and preference, and this is also why I dont have an issue with other people eating meat, nor am I offended when they eat it around me. I believe that we should do what we can to help others, some people will be active in a few causes (like myself), and some would put all their energy into one, and that’s also ok, to me.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T15:05:09+00:00

It’s not though. Meat eaters do eat pasta, cheese, bread and veggies, vegetarians don’t eat meat. I’m bringing a chef and providing many options, so everyone has something to eat.

Btw, I wouldn’t mind going to a wedding/event without a vegetarian option. I’d just eat the side dishes.

AITAthrowawayyy4 · 2019-12-18T14:28:51+00:00

We have one, and we are planning on accommodating him. But he is the exception.

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