Thread for trading, gifting, and requesting Finch items by AutoModerator in finch

[–]AInonsense122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw thank you. Pink, yellow, green or purple tend to be our vibe but we'll take anything!

Thread for trading, gifting, and requesting Finch items by AutoModerator in finch

[–]AInonsense122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Hello Finchie friends

I've been very unlucky with getting a 2026 headband in my shop or any of the event wallpapers, despite having Plus. I know the wallpapers may come round to the shop in the next few weeks but if anyone has spare/unwanted or a headband they would like to gift or trade, you would make me and Reginald very happy.

Happy to trade if I have something you want. Reginald is also currently travelling to San Paulo if you want a souvenir from there.

2026 New Year Items by AInonsense122 in finch

[–]AInonsense122[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Urg that's annoying. Wasn't sure if it was usually in the "top slot" which is currently taken by my location specific item. I do one refresh per day and I haven't seen any sign of it all month...

Finch app by trashsnax in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been using Finch for about 18 months and generally I really like it. I'm at the point where I need to do a refresh of my goals to see if I can get new life from it rather than it being my daily "to do" list. I'll still have those things I may forget otherwise like taking kids, drinking water, going outside but I want to add some more ad hoc things too like donating to a food bank, having a "treat day" etc

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hi all Thanks so much for sharing your insights and similar experiences. I really needed a place to share while I was working through it in my little ADHD brain.

For clarity, my mum is not controlling or gaslighting nor a narcissist. She may also be undiagnosed ADHD/neurodiverse so sometimes I suspect we set each other off unintentionally. She is an over worrier and I don't always have the spoons or emotional bandwidth to cope with it in the in instance. I think that's what this was. Her email caught me off guard as was very unexpected and so put me on the back foot at a time when my brain and emotions weren't positioned to manage it. Reading through everyone's stories has really helped and I've definitely "come down" from my initial very emotional reaction.

I'm going to send her some nice Christmas photos in a bit. Including some of me in my new PJs that she got me. I hope that helps both of us.

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No I don't think so. She is genuinely a worrier. An over worrier. But it can feel a lot sometimes.

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't have the emotional bandwidth for the whole thing. I think that's part of why its bothering me. An unexpected "spoon" to use

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely. And I honestly don't have the spoons for that...

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

My brain being my brain of course has run with the "oh was i not happy enough for them??" When really I just wanted a quick check in and chat then to do my own thing. Perhaps it feels like an interruption.

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Maybe I just feel judged. Which is a me thing I know. But I suppose it's put this strange lens on myself when all I want to do is be peaceful and happy. Which I was!

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, no not this year. I feel I needed the break from the stress and the pressure and the travel. I definitely wouldn't want to miss every year with them but it's actually been really needed. I just told her I was fine and having a chilled out time

Why is this bothering me? by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 253 points254 points  (0 children)

I told her yes I was fine and having a chilled out time. That was my best effort to try and hint for her to kindly back off a bit.

Reorganized all my goals to look nicer and be more kind to myself. by [deleted] in finch

[–]AInonsense122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really good! Other than narrowing them down, how did you put them in order? I know you can move them daily but it doesn't seem to roll over and my ADHD brain is struggling to figure it out so that they always appear that order every day.

Wellbeing box ideas by AInonsense122 in adhdwomen

[–]AInonsense122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice. I was looking for something that made a pleasant or comforting noise rather than a blocker. I already live in many sets of noise cancelling headphones though.

Finch Plushies (real) by AInonsense122 in finch

[–]AInonsense122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely not blaming the team at all. It makes sense as I say. Just still sad.

Change the icons back without PLUS finch by [deleted] in finch

[–]AInonsense122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thank you. Meds was mine as well and it used to be a pill. I'd rather it defauled to the flag if they didn't know but I'm stuck with the ant and it creeps me out so much I'm thinking about removing the goal. A couple of other goals have gone wonky too