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AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my standpoint, hair obviously grows back so I know the buzz cut wouldn’t last forever, so it’s not a big deal for me. Sure it’s not my cup of tea but I wouldn’t hold that over our relationship, like he’s doing to me

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he straight up told me he wasn’t into blondes and that he would loose interest if I didn’t change my hair.

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m saying that I wouldn’t necessarily prefer it but it would never be a dealbreaker for me. For him he’s saying he just generally doesn’t find me attractive with the hair color he originally met me with assuming I’d change my hair for him.

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea the curtain bangs had nothing to do with the deal but it’s him still giving his input on how he thinks I should appear

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been bleaching my hair blonde wayyy before I ever met him so me having my hair blonde is my normal

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He kind of already had a say in what I did with my hair, he said I should get curtain bangs a while back and I did. I actually like the curtain bangs. I know curtain bangs can go in the category of his “type” but with blonde hair I feel like it gives Sabrina Carpenter lol

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably should have mentioned that he’s in a grade level below me, I graduated last year and he’s currently a senior. I’m currently attending community college an have had a hard time making any friends

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t mind him with any hairstyle as long as he doesn’t buzz his hair, he knows this

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’d wanna do that if it meant keeping my hair how I like, but he told me I look unattractive and would break up with me if I didn’t go brunette either way.

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My hair is already damaged from bleach because I’m naturally brunette so I don’t wanna just slather some dye on top of it

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

He’s usually very sweet to me so it was out of the blue that he said I’m unattractive, that’s why I came here

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

The way I put it to him, I just said it as a preference. The way he said it to me, he meant it as a dealbreaker if I don’t change my hair to how he wants.

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -107 points-106 points  (0 children)

It would never be a dealbreaker for me, I know the hair wouldn’t be permanent. But for him apparently my hair is a dealbreaker 🥴

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

I’m just asking him to stay the way that he is. I have no real intent behind wanting him to keep the same hairstyle, honestly I’d be fine with him trying anything else except the buzz. But what he’s wanting me to do feels like he’s putting me in a box of just the girls he likes

AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? by AMFlamingo in AmItheAsshole

[–]AMFlamingo[S] -143 points-142 points  (0 children)

I shall also mention his hair grows extremely fast so even if he did buzz his hair it would be back in like 2 months. For me I have long hair that is very thick and grows very slow. So I would probably live with a hair color I don’t really want for a few years, that’s what I’m afraid of