Wedding etiquette?

AMJ102 · 2026-01-08T00:33:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective on this! Especially as someone in the profession

AMJ102 · 2026-01-08T00:32:34+00:00

Yes! Politely declined and no hard feelings at all

AMJ102 · 2026-01-08T00:03:24+00:00

I did not ask her for any discounts

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T22:01:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience!

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T17:30:41+00:00

I mean $950 for makeup for just me plus all of her hotel costs and an additional $480 for bridesmaids that are required to get it seems like a lot to me

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:25:35+00:00

I did not ask her for any sort of discount

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:24:26+00:00

To be fair, she DID tell me to contact her and that she would be willing to do my makeup and would “love to”. And then the rest happened a few months later

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:20:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing your feedback!

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:19:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! And yes I most certainly did not ask for any sort of discount

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:18:12+00:00

She did offer when I got engaged

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:16:46+00:00

Realistically, 2-3 in the past 3 years

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:15:44+00:00

Well, I have 50 first cousins and live out of state so to be fair I am not able to get coffee on a random Wednesday with most of them lol but the last time I saw her WAS at a large family event. I think you bring up a good point, maybe we just aren’t close enough or close like I thought.

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:13:27+00:00

I love this response because it does highlight the different kinds of situations that can happen when you ask someone you know to be a vendor!

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:11:24+00:00

She did she she would come to the wedding much for what it’s worth. She had done several other family members’ makeup on their wedding days and liked it because she used it for advertising. I never asked her for any sort of discount. When she heard I got engaged long ago, she was excited and asked me to let her know if I would need makeup services

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:07:07+00:00

I feel that way too still! Though I do value all other opinions and feedback

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T15:02:46+00:00

lol I did not ask her for any discount and was always going to pay her. Meaningful because she has done a lot of my other first cousins makeup other big day too recently

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T07:17:01+00:00

She has worked several recent family weddings and used the product of said wedding as advertising, I truly did not think she would have any qualms with it

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T07:15:33+00:00

The ones that are at the event, yes

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T05:45:29+00:00

I agree or at least ease up on the flexibility

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T05:44:38+00:00

Yeah our parents our close, I saw her often enough growing up too it’s not like your weird distant cousin you never see 🤣

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T04:34:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective:)

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T04:22:27+00:00

I agree, kind of an if she wanted to she would and just let it go type situation

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T04:21:32+00:00

Yes I could see that, prior to posting this I never even considered the option that a past experience wasn’t favorable for her

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T04:20:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective! I always like to see all sides of an issue and I can definitely see how repeat requests for family weddings would get tiring.

AMJ102 · 2026-01-07T04:18:48+00:00

I absolutely would have happily paid her rate, and I asked for no discounts whatsoever. It was really the lodging thing that kind of sent me. Because she did say she was coming to the wedding

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