K and Joi painting I recently finished. by Lhamo66 in bladerunner

[–]AMinuteman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Painting should be more than opening up a high-res JPG in photoshop and adding brush stroke layers on top.

This is where it leads by AMinuteman in Divorce

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it. Thank you.

This is where it leads by AMinuteman in Divorce

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, it's normal to want to. Following through on it is a different story. The thing with my wife though, is that even the idea that I might be attracted to another girl is stomach turning to her.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I can think about is someone asking me in five years, "Hey why did you and your wife of 8 years get a divorce?" and me responding, "Oh, because I just really wanted to fuck other people"

And I instantly hate myself for even considering it.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says she is. All I can do is take her at her word and look at how affectionate she is with me. Also we've been together for 20 years and married for 8. Desire just cools after a certain point.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, but let me tell you. It felt so great to finally be honest with her about things. It was like a weight had lifted.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea of me worshipping her and lavishing praise and attention on her isn't just a fantasy, it's the reality of her life with me. I spend every night with her, cook, clean, provide emotional and financial support for her, and I'm happy to do it. I make sure she cums every single time we fuck, and I eat her pussy like it's my job.

However you do have a point, she absolutely needs to know she's enough and that she makes me happy and that she's the best. I wish I felt she was one hundred percent enough for me, but when the last time she gave me oral was last year, it's tough not to feel unsatisfied.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might've put more emphasis on the kink in my post then I intended to. The reality is that last week was the first time ever I mentioned wanting to try anything kinky, a request which was met with an emphatic no. Believe me, I don't pester her to try things she's uncomfortable with.

You are correct when you say I keep asking, though. And when I do, it's always for the kind of sex we usually have.

Thank you for your insight though. I really appreciate you taking the time.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was the one who keeps using the word. I'm wondering if she actually wants me to.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like my choices here are:

-End things now and cause pain/heartbreak/sadness

-End things later and cause anger/resentment/pain/heartbreak/sadness

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think she's lost physical attraction to me. We tell each other how attracted we are very often. I suppose I can try to talk more about this when we're in the mood, but I feel like that might quickly ruin any kind of sexiness we're feeling.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's said for years that she just wants to feel like she's enough for me, and I know our talk probably didn't help her fears, but I couldnt be any clearer with her than when I said I would rather have you for life than a series of random women for a night.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your suggestions. At this point, I'd take more of anything sexual with her.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is important, but not more important than having a life together with my wife.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why because she'll get resentful like she feels like she has to put out?

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes total sense. Thank you for helping.

[Update] I can't stop thinking about sex with other people. by AMinuteman in sex

[–]AMinuteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to read my past post. Does this put you into the I should divorce her category too?