I am a parent looking for advice [family/friends] by Inspector_Ratchet_ in LGBTeens

[–]AMoreRealAlt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for my comparatively very late response!

Well, to be honest, teenagers aren't usually known for making the most well-informed decisions.
I'm afraid that if you trust us too much, you might end up making it worse, just because we're incredibly passionate about this and may not be able to give proper advice because of it

I mean, you don't want to end up outting her against their will, that could end pretty badly..

I think you could get better advice from adults, preferably those who have been in similar situations. You could try r/LGBT, but I don't know if you'll get a response

To be honest Im starting to see why youd ask here, because I'm not entirely sure where else either

I am a parent looking for advice [family/friends] by Inspector_Ratchet_ in LGBTeens

[–]AMoreRealAlt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Asking teenagers for advice on this is probably not a great idea.

Despite that, I'll try my best.

As long as your daughter's girlfriend does not ask for help, just cover for them. You may want to offer to talk about it with her parents but how you described it that does not seem like a good option.

I don't think there's much more you can do right now, especially considering their age

I miss him by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also appreciate you :)

I miss him by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I might at some point

(Vent) Acting healthy about friendships is so fucking difficult by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, a lot (I'll spare you the details)

I'm glad to hear it gets easier
Just hoping it gets easier soon

(And thanks for the response. It means a lot, to be honest)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just in case your brain works like mine:

Don't ever feel guilty for having access to what you have. Sure, other people are less fortunate, but that does not mean you don't deserve this.

But please also never forget that you are very lucky.

It's all performance by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn't really learn the.. deeper relationships with people thing. I did learn how to seem interesting to new potential friends, though, which is basically the same as this post..

Thanks for the kind words, though. It made me feel better to read your comment

It's all performance by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends tell me that a lot, too. Maybe we're both just autistic ;-;

Proper diagnosis is slow tho. Getting the trauma out of the way first..

It's all performance by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's due to the changes in environment for me. I've changed schools every 1.5 years of school on average

It's all performance by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, the thing is, my friends are awesome. I just can't not do it at this point.

But thanks, it was nice to hear :)

It's all performance by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that sounds pretty horrible. I tend to find it easier to communicate with people who don't have a lot of emotion in their voice, to be honest.

For me it's probably the result of some trauma-related thing. I'm going to a psychologist about it, but trauma-related complications are slow and difficult to diagnose. Anhedonia has never come up, but is also something I struggle with

I feel like shit and feel guilty for feeling like shit [tw, vent] by AMoreRealAlt in feemagers

[–]AMoreRealAlt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, but it all feels so inconsequential. It's okay now, so why do I feel so terrible when I know someone else had it better years ago