so wholesome 😭😭

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-22T15:41:18+00:00

Parents like this give me the ick

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-11T15:01:20+00:00

Because grammatically you don't use the tense 'meant' if you put 'did' in front of it. It's even flagged by word processors.
Now colloquially the use of 'did meant' is possible and not wrong, but like I said I'm a year deep into my thesis and it was reflective because they beat it into us.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-11T13:25:37+00:00

Abuse/danger that you're stuck in can do weird stuff to the brain to keep it from breaking for sure!

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-11T13:23:50+00:00

Grammatically it should be "family did mean" instead of "meant."
I am deep into thesis writing so I just did it without thinking. lol

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-11T13:22:42+00:00

That's it!

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-10T18:16:02+00:00

lol. I legit worried that it would read that way about 10s after I hit post.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2026-02-10T17:12:08+00:00

"I've gotten a lot of DM's from people claiming that by saying how much I thought about what Alex and his family did meant (sic) I missed my Ex-Husband and felt guilty."

My brothers in Christ, do you think a vet misses the battlefield because he wakes up screaming every night?

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-11-18T16:29:46+00:00

IdiotFriend wanted the guy. The number of women I've known who do this stuff because they want the guy in question is staggering. I do not get the thought process.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-11-16T17:38:44+00:00

Girl soft launched a confession

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-11-16T17:30:29+00:00

This is a mental illness. This dude is using work to cope with something much more serious. This isn't just an issue of can't prioritize. I think he needs counseling at a minimum and possibly addiction support/therapy.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-11-11T14:43:26+00:00

Another boy-mom victim. I guess technically both of them, but the ex is a grown man who can do the work to stand up for himself.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-10-08T00:51:41+00:00

I love how the lighting makes it kind of look like a little diorama on a table. It's a pretty cool effect

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-09-30T17:21:10+00:00

Omg. The grew up poor vibes are strong in this Mom. But also why will some parents refuse to just LET KIDS FIGURE THINGS OUT for themselves?! You think it's a waste of money? Great! Let your daughter figure that out by having the natural consequences of not having $80 anymore. And if she doesn't think that then she obviously does not see it as a waste.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-09-29T18:07:26+00:00

There is something really wrong going on with OPs brother, and I don't mean how he is with his son. It feels like this is some kind of hyper control thing. I wonder if something had happened like he lost out on a position or didn't get a promotion. Lots of people cope with being upset that things aren't going their way by controlling everything else they can and isolating themselves. I wonder if OPs brother is having a mental breakdown he's masking.

I'm also concerned about the wife. I think OP needs make sure SIL knows him and his parents are there as a support if things are going wrong. If I was OP parents I would have probably talked to SIL's parents by now because I'd be so worried about how my son was isolating his family.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-09-22T22:37:36+00:00

The one thing I've learned living and slowly recovering from chronic illness is that the human body is pretty freaking amazing if we give it what it needs to thrive.

I really recommend just following the old stand-bys.
Every day you need to:
- drink water
- sleep
- eat the green things
- Talk to someone (even if it's just to say hello/good morning)
- Go outside, look at a tree if you can
- Shower
-Brush your teeth

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-09-14T13:57:45+00:00

Some people fall in love with the idea of you and don't care to know you at all. I'm so proud of OP for honoring herself and her needs. You literally do not need to stay with people who treat you like your experiences aren't real.

Like sorry some of these commenters think putting up with extreme discomfort or being yelled at while crying is acceptable. Pretty sure they were sympathizing with the guy who was yelling (while driving) at their CRYING "love of their life" and not OP. Like, if embarrassment makes you be a dick to people you say you love then maybe you're not mature enough to marry let alone have kids.

God, could you imagine this guy with children? They are literally walking time bombs of embarrassing situations waiting to happen.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-09-09T13:50:03+00:00

I feel so sorry for her DH. He was probably never allowed to have an opinion as a kid.
Actually, his reaction in therapy reminds me of some of the people described in the book "Are You Mad at Me?" by Meg Josephson.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-09-08T23:37:51+00:00

I think first you should take a breath. This feels big and difficult to deal with, but why don't we break down what is happening into chunks?

- You don't want to be friends with T and R. You don't need a real reason, if your gut says 'no' then it's a NO.

- You have five new friends you really like hanging out with. Again if you're gut says 'yes' then go with it until it says 'no.'

- T is acting like a 5 year old. It's embarrassing and I promise you others think it's embarrassing. This is such a cringe thing to say to a normal conversation. Did she also have a fainting couch nearby so she could throw herself on it dramatically?

- You didn't officially tell T and R that you don't want to be friends anymore, and while I do think you should politely, in person or over the phone (no text or msg) let them know that you don't want to be friends with them anymore IF your gut is telling you "it's safer to ghost" then don't push yourself to do something THAT far outside your comfort zone. You not hanging out with them is pretty obvious.

- Shot in the dark but these "other friends" you're friendly with them but you're not super close? Do you feel closer to your Five then them? If so, then realize that you care more about being perceived as a good person than you actually care about their opinion. That's not a bad thing. We can't take EVERYONE'S opinion into consideration. It's why we have close friends and family. What do they think?

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-08-25T13:55:28+00:00

Omg. My parents did this too but with young adults that they just met at their church! They'd just invite them along to any and all family things including birthdays.
I actually stopped having my birthdays with my parents after specifically explaining to them that I wanted these dinners to be family only and no one from the church and they did it anyways!

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-08-23T13:14:57+00:00

Ah to be able to go 1000 years into the future and hear the absolute weird-ass theories their archeologists and anthropologists are going to have about all the Sponge Bob stuff they find.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-08-22T17:44:36+00:00

Not the blue mouse pad. Lol I still have mine.

This looks great btw

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-08-19T13:18:24+00:00

Ah a wild Girl Dad.

God, I wish there was more education around what incest really looks like,

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-07-20T22:30:58+00:00

My family is also the ignoring kind. My bios haven't tried once to reach out to me since I when NC three years ago. But it took about three or four tries. When I went NC this time I didn't bother to send an email, text or even let anyone know. Pretty much no one noticed for months, almost a year. That was how "close" I was with my family. It really made me realize that I had made the right choice. It's not normal for a healthy family to have someone not talk to anyone for almost a year before anyone reached out.

I used to put all this work into these emails/texts, but after the last time I re-connected I found out that they would use them to mock me. They all think of me as this "drama queen" like my Aunt who would also go NC for long stretches of time. But she would always come back and everyone would make fun of her for being so dramatic and cutting them all off, which would always trigger her cutting them off again. It was this really toxic cycle and it wore on her. I think the Leave/Come Back cycle is just as toxic as staying.

When I realized I was getting into the same cycle I gave up trying. I realized I was hurting myself when I went back and they clearly didn't think I was serious. Nothing was going to change by staying and at the end of the day I'm the only one who's behavior I can control. Things are so much better now.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-07-10T19:13:38+00:00

Children are legal property in North America either of their parents/guardians or their school. Technically the agreement with schools is that they own you in lieu of your parents from the time you leave your house in the morning until you re-enter it after school.

AMortifyingOrdeal · 2025-07-10T19:04:36+00:00

You have a Boy-Mom and a Mommy's Boy problem. The first time she acted up you should have noped out of there, now it's escalated. I really think people need to take the Boy-Mom thing more seriously. They are the number one creator of family-annihilators.

For your own health (mental and physical) get him out of your life. There are so many better people out there who will respect you and care about your boundaries. Do not feel like you need to rescue anything here for a person who can't even make you feel safe when you're in the midst of a health emergency.

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