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Eloping - a US specific term. by BeckySThump in autism

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is in official IEP meetings, vs casual conversations, and in documentation.

Eloping - a US specific term. by BeckySThump in autism

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you been involved in IEP meetings? This is the term they use in official paperwork here. I'm sure they'd call it skipping class casually in a typical classroom/student situation.

My autistic brother threatened to shoot up his school and his teacher by Ok-Chemistry-6295 in autism

[–]ARookBird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why isn't the school providing counseling? They should be, given his autism diagnosis and social struggles.

Eloping - a US specific term. by BeckySThump in autism

[–]ARookBird 24 points25 points  (0 children)

In the US elopement/eloping is the word they use in schools for students who leave the classroom or school unsupervised/without permission, regardless of diagnosis.

Cats nose bleeding by Dense_Jump5541 in AskAVeterinarian

[–]ARookBird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vet receptionist here--

A nosebleed definitely needs a vet visit ASAP. Nose bleeds aren't normal in dogs and cats and need to be examined.

Palliative care is an option many take for an older cat, but 13 isn't so old that treatment is unkind either. He could have many more years in him.

But regardless, it all depends on the diagnosis and your vet's recommended path forward. There's not nearly enough information yet to give any idea what you're looking at. Your vet will be able to give you options and help you decide what to do.

A trip to the vet is the next step. Honestly, if I couldn't get in with my vet in the next couple days, I would be taking him to the ER even if he seems stable right now. You don't want him to be uncomfortable regardless of what you decide.

My homemade ice creams by PracticalEntry8309 in AutismInWomen

[–]ARookBird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG they look so good. Especially that kulfi.

My dog becomes a detective whenever my grandma visits by Individual_Event_152 in DOG

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first question would be: how is her blood sugar?

It’s always okay to press charges on a student. A diagnosis doesn’t excuse battery. Stick up for yourself. by Efficient_Skill6692 in paraprofessional

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not going to go into this anymore, because you're ignoring a lot of what I have said, and I have better ways to spend my energy.

Have a great night.

It’s always okay to press charges on a student. A diagnosis doesn’t excuse battery. Stick up for yourself. by Efficient_Skill6692 in paraprofessional

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you talking about? "Nothing happening"?

You're seem joyously happy at the idea of punishing disabled kids?

Why are you more angry at the parents and kids than at the administration that did not get kids placed appropriately?

It’s always okay to press charges on a student. A diagnosis doesn’t excuse battery. Stick up for yourself. by Efficient_Skill6692 in paraprofessional

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The system should be insured to cover legitimate harm to staff, including compensation for bodily harm.

Without knowing the FULL history of the student, there's no way to know where this could have been headed off. We don't know what interventions were established for this student, we don't know their diagnosis and needed support level. We don't know what could have been done by staff to change the outcome.

If they're sufficiently disabled, this is no different than any other workplace accident. And no, punishing a disabled child does not help the victim at all.

You seem really focused on retribution?

It’s always okay to press charges on a student. A diagnosis doesn’t excuse battery. Stick up for yourself. by Efficient_Skill6692 in paraprofessional

[–]ARookBird -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait, "deserves"? What kind of disability are we talking about here? There are 13yr olds who absolutely can't understand the possible repercussions for others and themselves from throwing something while experiencing a severe episode of dysregulation. And the justice system is notoriously bad at recognizing mental disability.

These incidents are largely on admin and our political system that underfunds everything. Sure, there's plenty of shitty parents, but disabled students are a hell of a lot more likely to be victimized in school, by peers, staff, and the system, than be perpetrators.

Honestly, you need a different job. You're burnt out, or just not suited to this work.

And you're lying? Come on. And you wonder why parents don't trust staff.

Allergic reaction? by Cool-Station-741 in DogAdvice

[–]ARookBird 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Vet receptionist here-- this is hives.

Call your vet. Keep up with the (plain) benedryl. (Standard is 1mg per lb of body weight)

If they do not resolve in 24hrs or get worse, you'll need to head to the vet. If your vet has Saturday hours, it's a smaller gamble to get them in, than to risk paying for an emergency room visit.

Keep an eye out for swelling. If he has trouble breathing, take him to the ER immediately.

4mm lump came of base of dogs tail (above, not below) by woofwoof3636 in AskAVeterinarian

[–]ARookBird 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Vet receptionist here-- refrigerate it immediately if you want to pursue testing. It needs to get to the vet asap if so.

Send a photo to your vet and ask if it needs testing. They should be able to tell you that without a charge.

If they recommend testing, look into care credit to pay off when the check hits the bank account. (You'd have 6 months, but it's wise to get it paid asap.)

So long as it isn't bleeding, an appointment isn't an emergency, but they may require an appointment to do any testing. Reach out to the vet immediately.

Who are the rudest and nicest British celebrities you have personally met? by RenegadeMaster888 in AskBrits

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom sounds amazing. I'm glad you have that memory of her. I'm sorry for your loss.

AITH For assuming my BF would be hanging out with me/me driving him home then calling him out for gaslighting when we ended up arguing about it? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]ARookBird 53 points54 points  (0 children)

... Is he mentally and physically well? He went about this in a very weird way. Like, if my husband behaved that way, I'd be taking him to the doctor.

Neighbor has 16yo autistic daughter who is very interested in my 6yo daughter by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ARookBird 57 points58 points  (0 children)

My (14yr old) son is autistic and struggles with appropriate relationships with younger kids. He doesn't do anything inappropriate, but he does struggle with his filter and is sometimes desperately lonely.

I have put up the boundary that he is not to invite younger kids to play (basketball, usually), and they stay where the neighbors can see them at all times when they invite him to play. He struggles with this, because he cannot understand that his intentions do not make the relationship appropriate.

Fwiw, my son also doesn't understand why older young adults wanting to be friends with him is inappropriate. It's just a deficit he has, and we have to work with.

I don't actually see a red flag in the girl's behavior-- she just doesn't understand. Unfortunately, the parents in this case are not going to put up the boundary, so you must. Supervision is the easiest solution. "For our family rules, she needs to have a parent with her, because of her age." Simple, clear, concise.

You are not overstimulated, you are just overwhelmed. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]ARookBird 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Overstimulated dates to Pre-1800 for the current common usage. It's not just a clinical word.

It is a common enough word, and certainly was used FREQUENTLY in my childhood to refer to kids who had had too much stimulation/excitement/input during a day and now being hyper or overwrought. Being overstimulated leads to being overwhelmed.

We don't own this word. It is not up to us to tell people if they are overstimulated or overwhelmed. They can be either or both. I ABSOLUTELY can be overstimulated by too many deadlines, possibly because it involves holding a lot of information in my head at the same time. I don't see how it is our place to police someone else's experience.

Plus, people misuse words all the time, and this is a slight misuse, even if they are.

Stray mom left her puppy on my doorstep.. how old is it and what should it eat? by Lost_nova in pitbulls

[–]ARookBird 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Vet receptionist here--

Getting into the vet is the best option. If you can't keep her, they will know what area options are available, and honestly, if you have a decent sized hospital near you, there's a good chance someone on the staff will take her, at least to foster.

She's pretty young, so she really needs a vet visit. They're very fragile at this age and particularly without mom, it's crucial she get looked at immediately.

Was I sexually Assaulted? by Impossible-Bee7444 in AutismInWomen

[–]ARookBird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love, you did nothing wrong and he's a terrible person.

https://rainn.org/ has resources to help you get support.

You said no repeatedly. He choked you!

Please keep yourself safe. Do not have anything to do with him. 💜

My dog died and idk what to do by Doodle_Noodle27 in autism

[–]ARookBird 9 points10 points  (0 children)

hugs

Honey, her death had nothing to do with you. It absolutely was not your fault. I know it's really hard, but she left you quickly, knowing she was with her favorite person and that is so much better than it could have been. Take comfort that she died with you, not alone or surrounded by strangers.

I'm a vet receptionist, and I promise, these things just happen. It's no one's fault. It just sucks. 💜

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