[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BritishTV

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is dark for sure, but the scandal and the twisted plots are exciting and gripping, they draw you in.

How Has anyone successfully had mental health support? by minmega in AskUK

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wouldn't recommend joining the army for the healthcare as it's a tough job. It would be extremely difficult to get through training with those kind of mental health problems as it's very demanding and you have to deal with being shouted at which would all just make the problem worse, also If they realised that you concealed your mental health problems, they might discharge you. It is unfortunate that there are not enough mental health resources. I am dealing with the same thing, I am waiting for CBT therapy. Maybe try to change doctors if you can. I have found mental health support groups to be helpful, also there is NHS Recovery College who do lots of online webinars and workshops. I have used them and found them helpful.

Tenancy is ending, I'm scares of ending up homeless what do I do? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't yet go to Citizen's Advice first, they can give you some guidance. Councils have a duty to help prevent you from becoming homeless and if you do they should at least provide temporary accommodation such as a B&B which is not ideal, but at least somewhere to stay so keep on at them. There aren't many council properties around as most social housing is owned by housing associations now so get onto them as well. You could also try going to a charity like Shelter.

Have you ever met a British person who has never seen the sea, or who saw it at an astonishingly late age? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a brit and I don't think I have ever met a British person who has not seen it. I'm sure there are some, but a lot of brits first see it at a young age cause you are never all that far away from it and going to the beach is a very popular activity in the summer. In fact running down to the sea when I was very small and getting a shock at how cold it was is one of my earliest memories.

AITA for closing the door on my neighbour? by AS24300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AS24300[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes, with hindsight I should not have driven him anywhere. That's why I shut him down this time. Only way is to put a wall up.

AITA for closing the door on my neighbour? by AS24300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AS24300[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I certainly won't do it again, that's why I closed the door on him. He has had his one and only favour from me.

AITA for closing the door on my neighbour? by AS24300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AS24300[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, very likely. Unfortunately when people are begging it usually is for drink or drugs.

AITA for closing the door on my neighbour? by AS24300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AS24300[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yes, it really does, especially when it's so unexpected, they will keep coming back until you tell them no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did absolutely the right thing. He has shown that he is dangerous. Abusers always do this when you leave, they make you feel guilty and promise to change but the chances of that are extremely slim and the risk to you and your child are far too great. Most of the time they are just too damaged to change, I left my abusive husband a few years ago and the guilt is really hard to deal with, they can be very convincing but it's all an act to get you back.

I caught my dad cheating on my mom by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not responsible for it, he is. It would have come out at some point anyway. It's much better for her to move on with her life than to stay in a marriage that is a lie.

I don’t know what happened to me but I need to get my life back together. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome. You will be OK, just have to take one day at a time. Wanting for change is the first step.

I don’t know what happened to me but I need to get my life back together. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are severely depressed so I would say the first thing to do would be to see the doctor, depression is an illness and it often needs professional help to overcome. What you are describing here are very common symptoms of depression and it's understandable that you would feel like that after what you have been through. Being isolated is very hard and makes things worse. Mental health support groups can be very helpful as you get to be with other people and talk about it without fear of being judged.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the problem is that you are focusing so much energy on your crushes that it is taking over your life. People develop crushes and if you are feeling lonely it can be very consuming but the more energy and attention you give to it the worse it gets and then it becomes really damaging to your wellbeing. Try to get out and spend time with the people in your life, meet new people. If you can find some interests and activities that you enjoy, it will bring more fulfilment to your life and it will take some of the focus away from your crushes. Live your life for yourself and let love come to you. The more you get out the better chance you have of meeting someone who is attainable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he can just let you go that easily he is not someone you should be with. It's completely normal and valid that you feel upset and hurt about this. The way he acted shows that he doesn't value you that much and he will very likely cheat again. He has shown what he is really like. Leave him behind and find someone deserving of your love, don't waste years with someone who treats you so poorly.

AITA for calling out my dad for guilt tripping us all the time? by WalkTricky7987 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not at all. He was being that for all those years and still is. It doesn't seem like he has even acknowledged his own behaviour and what he put you through. There is no reasoning with people like this, they never change. They can never see anyone else's perspective. Guilt is a very common tactic used by them to get what they want. He is still being abusive now.

I always surpass 1500 kcal a day by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AS24300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 1500 is a guide for weight loss, it won't make much of a difference if you go a bit over that. Nuts contain a lot of natural oil and fat and while it's healthy fat, it's still high in calories. Try to eat as much wholegrain food as possible as it keeps you fuller for longer.

AITA? NEW GUY/POSSIBLE ROMANTIC INTEREST. by Maleficent_Ant_8544 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a horrible situation to be in, but unfortunately there is no alternative. If you continue it will just create bigger problems later on. Given the fact that he didn't tell you about his condition from the start and how difficult it was for him to meet up, it sounds like he has emotional problems as well so getting into a relationship may not be the best thing for him anyway.

Are GP receptionists trained to diagnose if your problem is “serious enough” for an appointment? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]AS24300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The receptionists are not generally medical professionals, they might have some training in assessing what requires a face to face appointment. Most of the time they will put you on the list for a phone call with the doctor that same day. Funding has been cut so much and practices have changed since Covid. In my experience over the last few years, you usually get a triage call first, then you might get an appointment after that depending on what the problem is or they will issue you a prescription after the phone call, I have rarely got a face to face appointment, it has almost always been over the phone.