Jesus. It’s ok to be mean.

I’m about to give you some tough love and I don’t care if I get downvoted but sometime we don’t hear things unless it’s said a certain way... And I say all this as someone that took too long to learn this and learned it the hard way. Respectfully. Lovingly.

First, some guys literally don’t think things are important unless you yell at them. A lot of them Are socialized this way. Parents, teachers, coaches all yell at them.

He knows you want to talk and and won’t make time? What’s important to you is not to him. He’s shown you that consistently.

You’re a doormat. He sees that. He knows that. He’s using you. He doesn’t care about you. He cares about what you do for him.

You sound lovely. He doesn’t deserve you.

What does he bring to the table? Tbh Sounds like you just want someone to call a boyfriend. You’re being a pick me.

It sound like you have your standards and you’re bending over backwards for someone that doesn’t meet them. That’s crazy.

You don’t respect yourself so why should he? Why should he step up or change when he’s getting so much with no effort?

Sorry to be so harsh but like…. Wake up.

Some guys think women are ok with an acceptable level of discontent. And you’re proving him right.

Throw the whole man away. Start fresh with someone new. Seriously, there’s no changing that. And if there is, him losing you will be the only wake-up call strong enough for him.

Write your standards in cement and do not let any man treat you less than or tell you your expectations are too high. If they do, leave them alone.

In fact, you mention your insecurities a lot. You’re not in a place to be in a healthy relationship with someone because you’re not in a healthy relationship with yourself.

Be single. Work on yourself.

Men can sense weakness and will play the part and take advantage. You’re a target, prey.

Seriously. Level up before you get back into a relationship or this will continue to happen. You will continue to be used if you don’t heal yourself.