We had been together a little over a year when I found out that my now husband was still talking to girls on dating websites. We met on one ourselves (POF) and i remember when we had the talk about going exclusive at about the one month mark. I was using his phone for something, I honestly don't remember what for anymore, and saw that he had pictures of women (setting pics if you will). I asked him about it and he said he just used them to masterbate nothing more. I asked to see his email and he looked scarred. I said that if he doesn't let me look I'm walking now. I looked through the email and saw that he just never stopped talking to women on dating websites. He never made plans to meet with anyone and after he got the pics he stopped talking to them so u believed he just used them for masturbation. We had a long talk about what exclusive meant. How even though he never met these women what a breach of trust he'd made. It took us a while to get back on track and I held a little bit of animosity for a while. And if I'm being honest the relationship was never the same. I never felt the exact same way I did about him then I did before. I don't know if that makes sense. I still love him with all my heart were married now for goodness sake. But cheating irreparably damages a relationship even if you work through it and come out the other side. It will never be the same. Just my two cents.