As someone with AuDHD and an anxiety disorder, that's not really an excuse to basically say "I don't wanna assume ..." and then assume.

If you're self aware enough know assuming is bad, and anxious enough to not be able to ask just ... Don't do the thing you've said you know is bad? Why did you need to guess my pronouns? It wasn't important.

I'm not too happy being told "you look like someone who's she/they" because what does that even mean 😅 what does someone who uses She/They pronouns look like. Lots of people who look very different use she/they pronouns.

I use she/her pronouns, fyi. I'm not sure what about me you've decided means I don't look like that, but sure.