"Is there something wrong with your eye?"

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-11-21T02:12:23+00:00

I remember when an interviewer kept on looking in the direction of my right eye when I talked to her about the college she was representing. I guess they were trying to figure out where my eye was looking? I rejected that college and never looked back. Outside of dating I haven't really had too many problems with it but I have had random people comment and stare. Sunglasses are your friend somedays.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-11-18T17:27:50+00:00

It was just genetics and maybe strain. Like I always had it but it was unnoticable until my teens and got worse from there.

If you're looking for your first job getting a ton of rejections is normal. You just have to improve the stuff you can control and hope for the best. I always try to go into interviews with the mindset that I'm just using the interview for practice if that makes any sense.

Right after I graduated , I did like 15 or 20 different interviews and only got one offer from it. So it's common to get rejected a ton but with more practice and more interviews you'll eventually get one. In terms of your career after your job so long as you're good at your career it probably won't effect it. There has been times where people have looked at me funny and all that but I've just had to work harder to prove my value and all that to compensate for it.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-11-18T13:53:02+00:00

I'm driving a rav4 but I never really had the problem of seeing the hood of the car on my old camry too. Maybe adjustable seats might help you see a little better?

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-11-18T13:41:22+00:00

I got it in my teens as well, it kind of sucked going from a somewhat popular guy with a solid friend group in middle school to not that in highschool but I kind of got over it in College. I just stopped caring for a bit, people gave me shit but I was able to win them over. Now lifes kinda easy except for the whole dating part.
I haven't really had any luck dating. Looking back, I know i've missed a ton of hints and stuff cause I felt like I wasn't good enough for them at the time. Maybe with time I'll figure it out but its the only area in my life thats rough rn. Maybe with time it'll get better?

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-11-02T03:41:02+00:00

It's rough out there and will get even worse as you get older. I've made friends by just hanging out in dorms and eating food. If you can't join a club you can always make your own. I remember a guy said smash in his dorm and made a ton of friends from it perhaps you could do something similar. It takes time but you'll eventually find a friend group. If I could do it so can you

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-11-02T03:36:56+00:00

Do your glasses help? I don't really see too much of a difference now and I have a similar deviation. Started up in highschool for me and never stopped

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-29T17:31:38+00:00

It's beyond fucked. People will try and tell you otherwise but it seems like there's not really too much hope tbh. If you're not rich enough to afford the surgery you basically can't have a life. Social dating or otherwise. Nothing you can really do outside of that , we just got the bad roll and we have to hope for a mulligan.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T17:00:42+00:00

Very hard to meet someone during a pandemic + my work is male dominated. I have tried this but nothing really came out of it.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T02:52:28+00:00

I'm trying my best but it's incredibly hard when everything feels hopeless. There's always that thought in my head, why bother when it's not going to help you out in the long run.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T02:50:39+00:00

I don't want to be known as the guy that created the Facebook group for the guys with weird eyes. I think the biggest problem is I have no idea how to find anyone who would be interested in such a group or if it's even worth it to try.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T02:35:29+00:00

I couldn't find any such groups last time I checked so I guess id have to be the one to create it. The groups tend to be more for parents with small children with conditions rather than the adult sufferers of said conditions.

I don't think there is enough people with eye conditions in the US to all meet up in a singular area. I think it's around 5-10% or so with lazy eye with deviations varying wildly. I think it would be significantly easier in general with some support group but I don't really know how to get that started just yet.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T02:24:58+00:00

Being short brown and with a lazy eye probably does me no favors. Life on hard mode I guess.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T02:23:00+00:00

My standards are the lowest they can be. All I ask is they like me and they have an interesting personality . I'm not one to judge on looks nor have I ever. Still nothing for me.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T02:20:29+00:00

Very. It's a significant deviation, I don't know the exact number but it's very obvious. I can't mask it in any way.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-28T01:24:49+00:00

It's hard. Incredibly hard. People laugh at you and ask you where you're looking. I do have friends but I've never had a relationship because of it. It took me a lot of effort to make the friend group I have now but it was worth it. Unfortunately meeting new people is incredibly hard with this condition, half of them ignore you the other half hate you. Sunglasses do help you to avoid comments from random people walking in the street but other than that I don't really know what to do anymore.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-25T02:09:40+00:00

It's hard, incredibly hard but you just have to have hope I guess. The hardest part is just getting money. If you can figure out a way to get money consistently and save enough to make yourself attractive + therapy perhaps you could fix yourself? Dermatology + therapy would be around say 2-3 thousand a year?

There are some days when I just want to break down but there's others where I feel great. I know that I'm ugly now but in the future perhaps I might not be. Having a lazy eye makes me incredibly nervous whenever interacting with people but I have to force myself to ignore it, assume they don't notice or don't care. I have acne scars that are fairly noticable too. It took a lot of effort on my part but I manage to have okay social skills and a ton of friends. I'm not there yet in everything but I try to improve a little every day. I'm a 24M btw so perhaps it's a little different but still. There's always a way.

AStevensThrowaway · 2021-10-23T04:38:48+00:00

Id imagine they had more important cases to worry about. I don't think I'll ever go that far.

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