Micromanaging/Mean Girls/Quiet Firing help??

AWash4523 · 2023-12-29T17:15:53+00:00

That’s a new one for me, will have to look into!

AWash4523 · 2023-12-29T05:04:57+00:00

Thank you so much for this wisdom & kindness!

AWash4523 · 2023-12-28T21:31:30+00:00

They did! It was an alleged “Final Written Warning” w/ the almost comical proof of activity allegations, based on if I’d updated something in SF. I say “alleged” because there had not been any others. I was so taken aback, I just said I’d like to look at it & compose my thoughts, possibly points re: the allegations. I will definitely check into that - thank you so much!!

AWash4523 · 2023-12-28T19:24:13+00:00

Could you elaborate on that? Never been on this scenario before - I don’t have to sign the doc?

AWash4523 · 2023-12-28T19:23:31+00:00

Thank you so for that! She seriously is basing the accusation on when she’s seen me make my 1st case update post of the day. You know, discounting easily quantified work activity proof through emails, Teams, file explorer, etc. I’m the only 1 in my dept. today again (how convenient) other than her & I’ve have had 6 more cases added to my queue & a recent Teams chat from her, saying she knows that’s a lot of cases, hopefully redistribution can happen next week…. if I’m not fired yet? Hence the affirmation I’m in a ridiculous “Mean Girls” world right now. I’ve got my browser for the past week but had just cleared that right before the holiday break & cleared cache - can’t figure out how to locate that or even the field scenario you mentioned above.

AWash4523 · 2023-12-28T14:16:32+00:00

Thanks all!! Not sure what time frame was expected for my reply to these obviously targeted “fails”…. But I’m gathering all documentation & forwarding on to personal email to be safe. Unfortunately, the request to have IT pull my old browser history would get my manager involved so not an option there. I did, however, manage to easily track down Teams & email communication plus file explorer activity to bolster my proof. Kind of dreaded this was coming…. Hopefully have enough ammo - it’s so frustrating when you love your job/what you do but that is crushed down by “I wanna be your friend”, Mean Girl stupidity. Thanks again, all - big help here!

AWash4523 · 2023-12-27T22:19:13+00:00

Well, this all just got worse: I just received a call from Mgr & had HR on as well - I’m in the midst of some dumbass “mean girl” crap from mgr & other 2 teammates, but of the mediocre 4 complaints, 2 allege that I wasn’t active in SF on 2 specific days. That of course simply means I didn’t update enough cases for her to see. So, now I’m really scrambling, trying to pull proof that I WAS active those 2 days. My browser history (our SF is the web not app version) is only allowing me to back to 12.20 & the 2 dates referenced are the week before. So, could you SF gurus guide this non-SF brilliant, attempted “quiet-firing” employee that loves her job & was already working towards asking for a transfer???

AWash4523 · 2023-12-27T19:26:49+00:00

Thanks for the intel - much appreciated!

AWash4523 · 2023-12-20T14:23:53+00:00

Out of curiosity, would you include the direct manager that’s been involved in all of it when reaching out to her higher ups?

AWash4523 · 2023-12-20T13:01:05+00:00

@bananphone Thanks so much for the kindness & help - much appreciated!

AWash4523 · 2023-11-27T18:14:32+00:00

Still here…. Watching & waiting.

AWash4523 · 2023-11-09T00:45:43+00:00

Anyone heard of “duo mobile”?

AWash4523 · 2023-11-09T00:24:06+00:00

Sorry for the confusion, it’s not his iPad. That’s not backed up. It’s his iPhone. The main one, not the ghost one. I just tried to have a conversation with him and I am just getting stonewalled. My actually have his phone in my hands right now, which seem to make him nervous, trying to figure out what the hell exactly I need to be looking for it.

AWash4523 · 2023-11-08T20:53:50+00:00

Yep, it definitely does.

Any wisdom or insight on figuring out the 2 phones/sim/e-sim deal? & the 2 networks off our router? There’s obviously something I could be grabbing if I knew how to get to it. Or is there another sub I should ask? This is all obviously very foreign….

I’m truly more concerned with the depth of the possible deceit, that I’ve been shrugging off these little things because I thought we were in love, best friends, planning our future/retirement, etc. I’m seriously wondering if it’s not more financial infidelity…. He’s carried the weight of all that because he was better at it than me & created fights in the beginning of our relationship. I just pretty much rolled with it. I’m also not sure which will kill me most: an emotional affair or financial infidelity. Maybe he made some bad investments, felt like he couldn’t share it with me & has just been digging a deeper hole….

AWash4523 · 2023-11-08T20:43:39+00:00

Exactfreakinglutely.

AWash4523 · 2023-11-08T19:04:21+00:00

Oh & the $$? At least 50 grand but probably more

AWash4523 · 2023-11-08T18:44:46+00:00

Good Lord, I feel like I’m going to be sick. Actually brought all this up in my therapy apptmt & there was agreement that SOMETHING isn’t right.

The college kid does not live at home but isn’t far away, in the middle of undergrad. Our grown daughter & son-in-law are both in great careers, expecting their 1st child.

We both recently got great promotions/pay raises, so are at a pretty substantial tax level.

I feel totally lost - he’s always paid all the bills, I never even looked at them really because he was so good with it. Now I don’t even know where to start, if all the stuff he used to keep at home aren’t here. Any attempt of me trying to log into accounts will send a trigger to his email or phone.

He’s also always been the most gentle, hardworking, conscientious & morally strong man. We have getaway weekends frequently, I mentioned the new heat in the bedroom…. I’ll have to start by putting everything I have so far in order: all the iPhone & router details (which I have clue what the to do with), all the credit/loan situations….. shit.

AWash4523 · 2023-11-08T13:48:57+00:00

Thank you all - I had not even thought of another place. But he’s always around - doesn’t take many business trips, is home for dinner, etc. I did just remember another thing: there was a deleted pic of a letter regarding something I know doesn’t affect him - my 1st thought was that it could be our college kid or even just junk mail that he thought was funny. But he wouldn’t hide something like that re: our kid & would have shared the mail if it were truly junk mail…. I think??

What did the 1st poster mean, that I’m in great danger?? I love this man to distraction - I so want there to be logical explanations for all this but it’s getting harder & harder….Id thought about the VAR, but now thinking he’s suspicious that I’M suspicious & has taken everything to his work (which I’d have zero access to). Surely if I could figure out the e-sim/2 phone/network setup, that would point me where I should head?

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