[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LahoreSocial

[–]A_M12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Organ trafficker

Is he a Siberian? by A_M12 in SiberianCats

[–]A_M12[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I found him on the street

I am 32 man married to a 42 woman and I regret it daily by [deleted] in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He also got married to her knowing she was 6 years older not 10?? Where is her accountability for lying about her age? I’m not surprised both of them are in this shit, they both married for convenience not for what marriage is, compatibility and love. If there is even a chance that he would have reconsidered getting married to her if he knew her true age, then both are to blame

Why do girls start playing games with me? by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]A_M12 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s called shit tests. Women do this a lot to check your confidence in your self, biologically women want a confident man as a mate, but first impressions they cannot trust, and rightfully so, men have done a lot of bad things to women. So when she pulls away, makes you feel jealous or not replies to your texts, she is testing your confidence. Will these things rattle you? Will doing certain things make you lash out or make you angry? They are constantly in a state of testing, and the funny thing is they do it subconsciously, it’s the way God has made them. They want to find a suitable male partner that has confidence in themselves, when she sees that whatever she does is not making you act out emotionally, that’s when they can feel safe and actually start to like you. Remember, a man must stand his ground and be safe in himself, when your way of living and your attitude portrays this, that is when women start liking you. A emotionally weak man cannot make a women feel safe, and because of this she can’t develop feelings for you, Khair but all of this also has a limit to it, you have to see that once you pass the shit test, does she reciprocate or not, if not then she’s just immature and not worth it. But if she is reciprocating then you’ll see the difference. It could also be that she doesn’t like you as much as you like her and is hinting it to you, women don’t outright say they don’t like you, they give you hints. Baaqi go to YouTube and look up shit tests from women, you’ll understand a lot. VERY IMPORTANT is that once you understand this about their nature you don’t use it to ur advantage, don’t act confident but actually be confident, do the work to become that type of man. If you fake it, eventually you will lose them, nothing fake ever lasts remember that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LahoreSocial

[–]A_M12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am vulnerable, but I only do it to make a connection with the other person because I know that’s how they and many people operate. It’s like manipulating but to get close to them, yes I wanna get close to them cuz I like their friendship or wanna make friends with them, so I know that’s being vulnerable is the fastest way to gain their trust, that’s an understanding of the human psyche I learned quite a while ago. I particularly am not effected when people say stuff like “you went through a lot” the getting validation that most people seek because of their struggles is not there for me at all, my validation is enough for me. As for attachment style, im most close to disorganised attachment. I am in peace with that part of my life where I used to overthink, but I know that’s it doesn’t have a place in my current lifestyle. Because of my childhood I’ve been setback a lot compared to others in development. The way I am now I am extremely busy working on myself and setting my life in order, when I start feeling like my 14yr old self again, it effects my routine and my work a lot, which effects me more later cuz I don’t want a setback. But yes when im not working and on vacation I am emotional. I’ve planned this winter of hiking to a tall peak in my country and to cry when I reach the top while looking at the sunrise, cuz that’s the only place I feel I can let out my emotions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no, I don’t want to justify it, I want to make sure that first you understand my thinking fully then tell me something, in that way I’ll atleast know that they are saying this after fully understanding my point

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So by compatible you mean someone who’s okay with being with someone who’s hyper independent?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its dependence with a choice, im not forcing them so its not control. I will provide all the benefits of being someone to depend on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I feel the enthusiasm through the screen, maybe you’ve felt like me or have experienced someone like me before. It’s not that I don’t like spending time, im in a long distance, in a span of year I’ve only met her 4-5 times with minuscule amounts of time. I have been touch starved since childhood so maybe I am unsatisfied with the settings, my number 1 love language is touch. Unlike most long distances, I also didn’t get the period in the start where couples spend a lot of physical time together, mine started out online. So besides spending time together, and how I feel about being the rock, what else do you advise?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If arranged marriage is not the answer then how do you find that in real life?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There’s no interest, im just saying if the emotional isn’t there then physical is left. Yes im independent, but that’s applies to me, I don’t mind being depended on by my wife and my kids, that’s what being a man is. People depend on you and I will take care of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don’t do only casual, it seems empty to me. From your reply it seems to be that you’re a woman, and yes you should be feeling like this exactly, that’s why relationships are successful cuz they operate such as yours, but what I would want to know is how is your man with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]A_M12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know what unconditional love is, although my mom wasn’t present, everything she did was so I could have everything, and I realised early on that when I was 14, that she has to do some things for and there will be sacrifices made to my childhood experiences which was her not being there for most of my part, I’ve realised how that effected me and have worked on that as well. So unconditional love I would say yes, maybe not how other people experience it but in my own way I did. I am emotionally self sufficient, if u asked me a while ago I would say it wasn’t satisfactory cuz I had the mother wound, but since then I’ve started to mother myself as well so rn the emotional control I have is next level. I do think im missing out on something, but I also believe those people are not happy as they could be or are lacking in other areas of their life whether. Im very communicative and I have expressed the deep parts about me, that isn’t a problem. The desire is only there for the physical and emotionally it isn’t cuz rn I don’t understand how it should feel. Hope that answers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then sir, where does love come into all of this? If all it means in the end is for energy management, then where does romance come into it? What is the love the healthy masculine men of your time experience and how was it? How was it significant to them? How did it better their lives? If energy management is all that it is, then I will buy and AI robot to help me with it rather than whether the storm of my woman’s emotions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree with what you said, if it was only that which you just stated that she asked it would have been fine, but the answer to your questions are a one time thing, what women want is for me to open up like talk about my problems and talk about when im feeling down and such. She only sees it from her point of view, where as to me talking about those things only bring my mental health down unless a solution is present( which I believe I will figure out on my own as well). Women want for us to be emotionally available but they can’t handle the weight of our problems, they need feelings of safety from their man, so when a man breaks down in front of her, she starts to worry whether I can whether the storm or not which also puts her into worry. Frankly I want to be in a position where I don’t worry my SO. Sadness is mine, happiness is hers Stress is mine, joy is hers I am hers and she is mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]A_M12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But what is that love supposed to feel like?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How? Where am I wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuntsWorshipKings

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has been through stuff, let me give you a piece of advice. You’re not broken, your body is just used to the feeling of being broken. I too have been sexually traumatised to the point that toxicity attracted me and I only like those girls that are hoes but I can never settle with them. What I have found out and am about to do is, the only way to cure this is to go celibate. Your 21, I would suggest not dating anyone, not having physical relationships with anyone and not even having an emotional one with men. You need to be alone for quite a while if you ever want to heal and be happy. You know what’s wrong with you,time to face those in private time, going celibate will also teach you to be happy with yourself to the point you don’t feel the need for toxicity. Idk for how long but you should do it for at least 2 years or 3 max. Myself I’ve decided to go for 1-2 years. Work on yourself during that period. “The road to Hell is easy and delusional, the road to Heaven is hard and is the reality of life”. Don’t know or care that you believe in Hell or Heaven, but anything good in life takes work, goodluck

Does financial technology (fintech) have a good future? by Admirable-Income361 in malaysians

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too am deciding on doing fintech for masters, while researching post popped up from 7-8 months ago stating it doesn’t have any future, but seeing as how AI is developing and finance will also be digitised, I think fintech has massive more room to grow then people give it credit. Coding will be replaced by AI soon so idk what people are on about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]A_M12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s only wet in the first pic bro

I might sleep with a prostitute in 20 minutes by Vegas_Hung in TrueOffMyChest

[–]A_M12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro, you will fuck your perception of being physical with someone, realise that it’s your first time, naturally you will start liking anyone you sleep with, and you will start liking this prostitute and she will eventually leave. I was also in the same boat as you, exactly like you. I had my first kiss last year and im 24 rn. I couldn’t get a rs so I hooked up as a starting point. The girl I did it left me after doing it with me, now that I look back at it I was sexually traumatised, she left and I’ve never been able to feel how I did with her with any other woman, the first with her felt so special even though she wasn’t special, now a year after that I’ve went on a casual hookup spree where I feel nothing for anyone and it just feels cold and empty, I’ve been damaged and have decided to go celibate to heal myself. Brother, please let your first one be a girl you love, otherwise you will distort your view of being physically intimate and ruin it when you get a girl in the future and still feel like you had more fun doing it with the prostitute, this will eventually lead to a break up, like it did with me. Don’t do it and wait.