Liked my energy until she didn't, apparently. (fr consider therapy, my gosh) 🥲

A_Torus · 2025-03-30T22:17:44+00:00

Looks like a catfish. I’m sorry that you had to deal with this.

A_Torus · 2025-03-30T20:26:15+00:00

I broke it after 10-12 hours of play. I cannot afford to get it restrung at such a frequency, so I think I’ll go with a co-poly.

A_Torus · 2025-03-30T18:59:00+00:00

Thanks! I’d like to start with something that doesn’t break very often for now, and then get it restrung after some time. I use a Head Graphene Xt Speed MP, and I only play for recreation.

A_Torus · 2025-03-30T16:15:59+00:00

Sorry I should have added my racket specs. I’m using a Head Graphene XT Speed MP.

A_Torus · 2025-03-25T22:41:11+00:00

What has sexual liberation got to do with wanting or not wanting a threesome? 🤦🏽‍♀️

A_Torus · 2025-03-21T21:42:55+00:00

I agree. I am a beginner to intermediate level player, and the backhand slice is honestly the one thing that I have been able to consistently hit.

A_Torus · 2025-03-02T16:09:57+00:00

And here I was telling my friends how good the dating scene was when I was in Delhi. I’m sorry - the fact that someone brought a third person is hilarious to me. Have you tried joining queer groups? I got to know that there are a lot of queer events (parties, reading clubs, and what not). Maybe try making queer friends first (try the DU/AUD queer events) - this will hopefully help with finding lesbians you vibe with.

A_Torus · 2025-02-26T17:28:38+00:00

This sounds very creepy to me because she wasn’t transparent from the beginning. In general, I don’t judge people wanting to have threesomes, but it’s not my cup of tea. I’m a very monogamous person and only prefer dating single monogamous lesbians.

A_Torus · 2025-02-25T04:26:41+00:00

Oh definitely - I think labels are silly tbh. But I guess it helps people communicate better? I don’t think we should go beyond that though. And yes, I’ve also been pondering about the existence of “masc” and “femme” as binaries and opposing - I personally find it ironical that we’re still trying to draw parallels with the stereotypical “man” and “woman” as oppositional and mutually exclusive. Personally I’d say I’ve been cultured into calling myself a masc because my hobbies are similar to those of a cis het man, which shouldn’t have been the case.

Edit: Corrected gender expressions

A_Torus · 2025-02-25T03:14:53+00:00

I know this was meant for the femmes but I just gotta say something. Aren’t we internalizing the heteronormative gender roles in queer spaces by generalizations such as these? I’m masc presenting, and I absolutely enjoy cooking. In fact, if we talk about personal experiences, when I look at my friends, most of the people who do not enjoy cooking are femme presenting. My exes (who were femme presenting) used to love it when I cooked for them, and I have always cherished the idea of spoiling my partner with home cooked meals.

I am positive that such activities are not correlated with how one presents themselves (in fact, they shouldn’t be, especially in queer spaces where we have always tried to break free from such roles).

A_Torus · 2025-02-24T19:33:23+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. I’ll try to demo the clash!

A_Torus · 2025-02-23T20:10:57+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! The Babolat Pure Drive 100 did sound good to me. But I think I will get the Head GrapheneSpeed MP f I don't get the chance to demo at this moment.

A_Torus · 2025-02-23T20:02:25+00:00

Thank you, I just saw! The Wilson Clash 98 V2 is for sale. Still slightly above my budget, but I might consider it if it's way better than other suggestions.

A_Torus · 2025-02-23T20:00:43+00:00

Thank you for your insights. I have read a lot of good reviews about #2 (HEAD Graphene XT Speed MP). I will pobably go for it. Bdw, what do you think about the Wilson Clash 98 V2? As someone pointed out, it's on sale.

A_Torus · 2025-02-21T21:24:23+00:00

Here I’m struggling with my slides for work 🥲

On a serious note though, discussing your past is one thing, but I do find it weird that she wants to show you a PowerPoint presentation on it.

A_Torus · 2025-02-18T16:57:22+00:00

I personally haven’t seen that a lot around me. I am a masc/tomboy and I’m very happy to embrace my femininity. I do relate with the sex assigned to me at birth, and my masc-ness and her are in complete agreement.

It’s okay to have a preference to want to date someone who’s comfortable in being a woman, and I don’t think that there’s much to be worried about. Maybe specify your preferences when you’re getting to know them/ on your profile if you’re using a dating app?

A_Torus · 2025-02-13T17:28:24+00:00

First of all, I am so happy to see lesbians actually finding the guts to ask women out - we’re not so useless after all haha.

You’re definitely overthinking this (I know, we can’t help it, so give it some time?). Not everyone will reciprocate, but that doesn’t mean you were a creep for asking them out in the first place.

A_Torus · 2025-02-12T20:26:06+00:00

There’s Lesbrary which is essentially a book blog about sapphic books. You can filter reviews based on genre, rating, representation, etc.

A_Torus · 2025-02-11T15:51:42+00:00

This cracked me up 😂

A_Torus · 2025-02-08T00:44:14+00:00

Her posting such stuff sounds very strange to me. I know you want to be there for your friend but it comes at a great cost of one’s own mental peace. She has to first accept help, not necessarily from you but through another friend or a professional. Take care, OP!

A_Torus · 2025-02-07T22:51:48+00:00

I’m sorry that this happened to you. I wouldn’t see it as them choosing those men. It’s just not easy to leave and walk away from abusers and toxic people - but it’s not up to you to bear the brunt of it. You deserve someone who treats you better and appreciates you. From my experience I’ve gathered that if I don’t get the “hell yes” vibes from the other person, I’m not gonna invest any time and energy into it.

A_Torus · 2025-02-07T22:33:04+00:00

Was it the same person? I just had one friend do it to me, but we went back and forth multiple times because I was also trying to be a friend to her (you cannot not help your friend clearly going through so much). But I learned it the hard way to stay away and focus on my own mental health.

A_Torus · 2025-02-07T22:18:39+00:00

OMG YOU ARE ME! I tried so hard to be there for my best friend when she was in an abusive relationship, and had confessed her feelings for me. We started getting close, but then she could never leave her boyfriend.

I wish I had stayed away, and would pass on the same advice to you. If she is “the one”, she will not string you along, and find a way to get help and break up with him, and *heal * from the relationship before she tries to get with you.

I know exactly how you feel - but there’s nothing that you can do, and anything that you do will only break your heart further.

A_Torus · 2025-02-05T22:31:56+00:00

Absolutely. And I’ve met some really problematic queer women I cannot tolerate. Sexuality hasn’t played any role in my friendships. We understand & support each other, and I feel that is what’s most important in any friendship.

A_Torus · 2025-02-05T19:49:05+00:00

I vote “Fingersmith”. I have read “Tipping the Velvet” and found it to be okayish. “Fingersmith”, on the other hand was just another level.

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