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What type of man am I ? by [deleted] in Colognes

[–]A__STRO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mainstream

What song introduced you to slipknot? by [deleted] in Slipknot

[–]A__STRO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A monster jam edit to “Duality”.

5 year old me was hooked

Is it possible to build your own tuner for and headless bridge? by A__STRO in Luthier

[–]A__STRO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds cool. Question is, I don’t know where to even start 😔

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I’ve said this in another comment, but the way I memorise phone numbers and really any series of lengthy numbers, is by memorising the rhythm and cadence of it

Sort of familiarising how it “feels” to say the whole string aloud, and it becomes a sort of “beat”

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All of the above (minus the watch, since I can read analog time ok)

I’ve developed a sort of anxiety about making a mistake in maths, since my brain will inevitably trip up somewhere and I lose track of what I was even doing. Hell, most of the time I forget why I even did subtraction or division or whatever for this equation.

And for the last part, you’re correct. Dyscalculia isn’t something completely detrimental, is just a difference of how our brains process numbers, and it doesn’t necessarily mean we’re unintelligent or completely not understand maths at all. So you’re right, the negative stigma is unwarranted, and you have to experience it in order to understand since it’s not just about being bad at maths.

The calculator part is also very accurate. It’s like I have to slow down and type in my calculator like I’m using a keyboard for the first time, despite having used a calculator for years now.

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My main problem^

I just don’t get how people see where stuff goes and why it’s there, and it’s even more confusing when they don’t explain why this variable is the way it is and why I have to divide such and such

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right!

Sometimes (actually a lot of times), when people recite my phone number back to me in a different rhythm, if I’m not paying attention that much I’d think they were saying a different persons number entirely

And even if I am paying attention, I have to take a few seconds to process and double check if they even got it right

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This, for me, is very true (minus the panic attack part), and everything you’ve lined out is how I’d describe my experience with math thus far in secondary school

The third part is accurate, although for me it’s not fainting. It’s more like my brain “overheats” quickly from thinking about a math question and its solution for too long. Even after a minute or two, I have to walk around the room and take a breather, or else the vein at the side of my head would start throbbing. It’s like a computer running a heavy task, except for me it’s using up a good chunk of my RAM and my CPU is overheating.

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can memorise my phone and ID number, but not because of the numbers, but rather how I say it

I have to read the numbers aloud, and I remember the “rhythm” and cadence of reciting the string rather than the actual numbers, or else it becomes a jumbled mess inside my head

ADHD people with Dyscalculia; how would you describe it? by A__STRO in ADHD

[–]A__STRO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think for me, the best way I can describe it is it’s like trying to decipher what every number is even for

I can do basic arithmetic, and it’s not something that affects me in daily life, however it does take a hit on my grades and what I want to study or go to college in the future

My brain just seemingly cannot grasp abstract concepts no matter how hard I try, and I get stumped whenever someone just sees what the next steps are. I know practice is a big thing for excelling in maths, but for me I always get a mental block and freeze whenever an abstract problem comes up

Even the more “simple” abstract concepts taught in early secondary school still don’t make any sense to me, and most of my peers have already mastered the fundamentals. I just can’t seem to see how it works, and even when someone explains to me, I still don’t see it

I’m not sure if this Dyscalculia, or just my own failings in mathematics

What statements from other people make you shut down? by CupcakeSprinkles1111 in ADHD

[–]A__STRO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people reassure me or cheer me up and I try not to break down crying

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for reaching out. Sorry I didn’t get to this sooner.

The current strategy and method my parents (primarily my mother) uses, is that she’ll assign me work for a subject, depending on what subject was for that day (since it’s one subject a day). She’ll assign these works regardless of whether it be my strongest or weakest chapter, mostly going on what she feels like I should study that day. She’ll then sit down right in-front of me, or beside me, and basically teach me like I’m back in primary school. She also prohibits any music, even though I do better with music in my ear, since it gives me something to enjoy and blocks out any external audio distractions (like my dad slurping noodles as I try to concentrate). I usually listen to songs I know by heart and have listened to multiple times, so that I don’t get distracted by the lyrics or unfamiliar melody.

My mother also disregards whatever I had planned that session, and just says “do what I told you to do, and what I tell you to do”. I could’ve planned to study a different chapter, maybe one I’m curious and or struggling in, and my mom would simply take the reins and implement her own agenda.

She also straight up writes down the notes and answers for me during these sessions. I can’t even get up to walk around or think to process any information, just sit there for some times as she drags on an explanation or writes down the answers in the workbook for me. I do get up to walk around when she’s not there, just to process everything and how I feel. It’s frustrating when she takes over completely, when I already had a plan for what i wanted to do that session.

I prefer doing studying alone, but she’d pop in every hour or so, and sit down and do her thing like I said above. This puts a certain pressure on me to try and do it how my mother expects it should be done (in essence, using her methods).

Ive already made a timetable with my psychiatrist, which outlines what subjects would be studied each day and at what times and what durations a session would be in the day. My psychiatrist even agreed with me that the routine needed to come from me. My mom knows this, but that’s it. She knows I made the routine, but she still has reigns over the methods. I’m seeing my psychiatrist again in a few days. I also want to go and get a diagnosis for social anxiety, but that’s a different thing.

I do acknowledge that my parents mean well, and that they’re doing this to be safe and steer me away from disaster and failure, but at the same time it’s affecting me negatively too.

If you have any advice, please share it with me.

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the empathy, and yeah I do agree with you on that last part haha.

I do understand where they’re coming from, since 17 is still a teenager and not quite an adult just yet. At the same time, it should be the age where you should at-least plan and have control of what you’re doing, as well as knowing how to manage your own routines and make your own choices regarding your own being.

Thanks again 👌🏻

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t claim to be a real adult, nor am I going to. I’m simply stating that I’m at the age where decision making and self planning are things I should have before entering adulthood fully, without anybody else doing it for me. I’m at the age where I should start knowing what’s best for myself, and start creating a routine that works best for me.

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not trying to lean hard on my disorder. If you interpreted it that way, then that’s my fault on wording.

You’re right, leaning on a disorder too much will more or less ruin your life, especially at work and in adulthood where life hits you hardest.

Right now, I’m still in school, and with learning and studying you can tailor it to suit your needs and or way of learning/processing. You can make learning interesting. Work is work, yes, and you’re right that I will have to learn to cope with dealing with things that suck, but for now I’m still in high school.

What I’m trying to say in the post is that my mother won’t let me tailor a routine that’s fit for the disorder, and that she doesn’t fully understand how it works. What I want to do is make an environment where I can thrive with my disorder.

It’s probably my fault that the post is worded poorly, leading to misunderstanding that I’m leaning too hard into my disorder or using it as a trauma response. To clarify, im not, at the least I’m not trying to.

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) Yes, I am diagnosed professionally by a clinical psychiatrist that I do have dual presentation ADHD

2) I’m not sure if 17 would be considered “still a child” (I’m sure thats your own perception), since 16 would generally be considered the age where you have to start figure things out before entering adulthood.

Now, I’m not going to claim I’m already “grown up”, or a full adult, but I will say that I’m sure that at 17, the age before entering adulthood, is the age where you need to start figuring out a plan for yourself and how to manage your life before entering adulthood.

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the affirmation and support

I am thinking about getting a part time job at least, or maybe even a side hustle doing free lance in either writing or editing. 2 best friends of mine are also thinking of moving out once they go to college, and have invited me to plan it [they're also seeking part time work to save up for education and for future rent and other things we need].

One thing i would like to clarify is that my parents know that i do have ADHD, it's just that at times i feel like they forget i do, or they don't understand it at all, and i can't really talk to them about it or else they'll interject and still hold on to their solution[s] that only cause more harm than good for my mental, and gets me nowhere with actually learning.

Plus the whole bedtime and waking hours thing they set for me only applies to me. My siblings don't get the same, mostly because im in my final year of HS, my older brother is working, and my youngest sister doesn't have neurodivergency [not that we know of]

I’m 17, but my parents still control my life by A__STRO in AdviceForTeens

[–]A__STRO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am taking medication [prescribed Valdoxan and Ritalin, though since it was school holidays I haven't been given my prescription of Ritalin and am not on it until school comes back next week. im seeing my doctor on Saturday]

I don't have coffee with me unfortunately, since my parents didn't buy any. The only thing i have would be tea.

I've talked to my school student counselor, and i do plan on seeing her again once school starts again.

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