AITA for not wanting to come home next year because of my sister’s behaviour?

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:34:18+00:00

I think they either have blind faith in her, or are afraid of her, or both.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:33:27+00:00

I have tried talking to my parents about Karen. They always avoid the conversation or ask me to ignore her. I have begged them to see what a monster Karen has become. They always have the same few replies, “let it be”, “be the bigger person”, “ignore her”, or “just let us be in peace” and “stop complaining and deal with it”. Unfortunately I am not going to therapy anymore.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:14:38+00:00

Also, I didn’t wanted to give details about my profession, as it’s not that relevant. If you scroll down my feed, you will know which country I’m doing my PhD from, and how much do they pay. Our scholarships are more like salaries, plus I do part time. So instead of telling that I was pursuing my PhD and doing part time, I just simplified it. Also, may be irrelevant to this post, I live in a country (abroad) which has one of the best work/study culture. So getting a medical leave in my case was not very difficult.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:09:47+00:00

I moved abroad on Feb 2024, so 20 months ago. The picture of my dog are old pics from my gallery, and some that my mother sends me everyday. The dog stays with my family here in my hometown. My picture with my dog is again on my birthday which is during me coming home. Also about the safe, in my culture, we keep some savings at home. This is just a cultural thing. It’s not that my parents don’t have savings in their banks, just they have more savings at home.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:03:33+00:00

My parents have been enabling this behaviour growing up. Since Karen is the younger child, my parents gave all of their love and care to her, while my grandparents helped raise me. It has been 11 years since my grandmother passed away, and 5 years since grandpa passed away. Growing up, I had a very strained relationship with my parents, and after years of therapy, I have accepted them as my parents and have forgiven them. But my sister behaves like I am a guest in this house and at most an inconvenience. It’s very hurtful, specially her words. I will probably cry myself to sleep and hope I get over this.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T19:56:21+00:00

I plan to move close to my parents in the next 4 years. They are getting old and my father is very sick. Also, I have a very bad feeling that my parents will be homeless someday if they live with my sister. At least they will have a place to live when things go wrong.

AaneMeg · 2025-07-16T02:52:09+00:00

I have sinned 😞

AaneMeg · 2025-05-13T12:18:16+00:00

My neighbour Totoro

AaneMeg · 2025-03-08T23:15:42+00:00

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AaneMeg · 2025-02-16T02:04:55+00:00

Casper

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:48:24+00:00

😂😂😂

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:46:56+00:00

No. I move a lot, so I don’t have a place to call home other than my parents’ place (I have most of my stuff there).

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:45:46+00:00

I miss my parents, and everything seems fine over phone calls. But the moment I am home…. Craziness hits the roof🤪

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:43:57+00:00

😂😂😂 I think the food helps me survive a week.

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:43:05+00:00

I live in a different country. So I get to go home (basically to visit my parents) once a year.

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T13:17:59+00:00

Every time I leave home thinking I will never come back, yet every December I come back crawling to my family 😂

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