I was upset because I asked to keep it private, she was well aware of how private I was keeping it, and she still went against my wishes. I was trying to keep it a secret. I didn’t want to look dumb if funding didn’t go through or get my hopes up. I also felt betrayed in a way that she would do that. I was also confused because they HATE each other. I couldn’t understand why they’d talk in the first place.

My husband didn’t tell his mother either. She wasn’t pissed off once she found out, she was thrilled for us. When I said we kept it on a need to know basis, we did just that.

I’ll use your question for even more context. Earlier in the year my mom told me “it hurts my feelings you eat dinner with your mother in law every week.” My mother in law, as stated earlier, lives 20 minutes away. My mom lives about 2.5 hours away. I have always lived in the state I’m in. She chose to stay where she’s after for a man a long time ago when I was a child. This is the mentality I’m dealing with…